02x03 - You Can't Stop the Girl

[bunniefuu]

previously on
"welcome to plathville..."

Sorry to bother you,
but I do have a question --

Why is this lumpy?

I know you thought that
this would be funny or fun,

But it's just all
very irritating.

Um...

Growing up,
I don't think any of us

Were given any type
of a tool set

To deal with difficult things
in relationships.

And this is my first real date
that I've been on,

And I do not regret
saving it for this guy.

Don't be scared
to hold on to me.

Most people are, like,
scared to eat

In front of people
on their first date,

But it's not me.
It's gonna get messy.

I'mma just go ahead
and say that up front.

[ Both laugh ]

The last couple of years
that you two were at home,

We couldn't talk to you about
anything.

Is that our problem?

Can you forgive us
for our shortcomings?

It depends on what
your version of forgiveness is.

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♪♪♪♪

[ Garbled ]
it's time to wake up.

Are you awake?

[ Chuckles ] good morning.

You need
to brush your teeth.

Sorry.

Doesn't smell that bad.

Eh, it's like
a little frog died.

A little man died
in the cave.

[ Chuckles ]

[ Garbled ] I'll be right back.
I have to spit this out.

Right now, me and olivia are
kind of going through

A tough point
in our relationship.

Oftentimes, for me,
it's just very daunting

To try to understand how
olivia's feeling

Or her emotions.

But I feel like knowing that
I'm actually working on it

And we're actually making steps
towards where we aim to be,

That that in itself
makes it better

'Cause I feel like
that gives you hope.

Since last year, every little
change that I've made...

Like I feel kind of
like a new person.

I actually
really like it.

But I really
like the person you are.

So why do want
to change it?

But I'm not changing me.

I'm just changing
appearance things.

There's a difference,
right?

Technically, yeah,
but not really.

Ah, there's
a very big difference.

I really wanted
to kind of like take big steps

And make positive changes
in my life.

For example, I've changed
a lot of how I look --

Like cutting my hair,
piercing my nose.

And it's like if you want
to let go of something

Or you want to walk out
of a toxic situation,

One of the best things you can
do is change the way you look,

And then you feel like
you've somehow left

All that behind you.

So...

I think next

I'm gonna go get
my navel pierced today.

You sure?
Yeah. Life is short.

You're supposed to do,
like, fun things.

Like poke a bunch of holes
in yourself?

Yeah.

I'm not big on piercings.

I've never liked a lot of them.

I don't want to come
across as rude.

The first time I ever,
ever saw a navel piercing,

It was on a very, very large
lady...

Ethan.
...just, like, spilling out.

That's just not nice.
And there it was,

Shining in the middle.
Ethan.

[ Laughing ] stop!

That is rude.
You should not have said that.

I know.
Well, what you did.

[ Both laugh ]

Wait, like, are you
really opposed to the idea?

No, opposed to it.
Just...

You didn't like my nose
and I pierced my nose

And you got used to that,
right?

Yeah.

I would never tell you
you can't do anything,

But, like,
I know for for me,

If there is something
that I want to do to my body,

If you didn't like it,
I wouldn't do it.

And there we are different.
[ Chuckles ]

Growing up in
a patriarchal circle

Where the man always
has to tell you yes

Before you do anything,
like, rubs me the wrong way.

And so, if you say,
"don't..."

I really want to.

If you say, "please don't,"

I'll think about it.

[ Laughs ]

If you get a big piercing
on your navel,

Whatever you want
to call it,

Won't it be like

Sore and painful?
Yeah.

So that means we won't be able
to have sex or anything

For a long time.

It'll be like
maternity leave.

Oh, my gosh.

This is why
we don't have a kid yet.

You're gonna, like,
have a cry fest

When you can't have sex
for eight weeks.

It's like when I got my nose
done, I just told you,

Like,
we couldn't make out

Where you were touching
my nose or anything.

You know, I can't tell you
how many times my nose

Got hung on yours.

That really hurt.
[ Chuckles ]

So as long as you
don't touch it, it's fine.

That's what she said.
[ Laughing ] oh, my god.

Once olivia gets
her navel pierced,

There's bound to be
a couple sex positions

That'll be off the table
for a couple weeks.

Except there's lots more.

Like, as long as you don't
touch my stomach.

Yeah.

So it's not really
a big deal.

Well.

[ Both laugh ]

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♪♪♪♪

[ Door opens ]
[ knock on door ]

What are you doing?

I'm just
working on a new song.

Oh, really?

What's it about?

Um, max.

[ Both laugh ]

I recently started dating
this really cute guy named max

The night that I met you,

That was the night that
my parents told me

I had to leave.
Wow.

Since our first date,
I would say we see each other

About two or three times a week.

And I mean, I'd have it like
five times a week if I could.

But I'm nervous

Just because
this is my first relationship.

I've never in my life
met somebody so much like me.

And everybody told me, "don't
ever date someone like you."

Like my parents, they were like,
"it would be a total wreck

If moriah ended up with someone
like her and took off."

At this point,
micah's the only one

That really knows about max,

And he actually met him
a few weeks ago.

Watch his, max.

I'm gonna go up with hands

Down slowly with no hands, okay?
-Okay.

[ Grunts ]

No hands.
[ Both laugh ]

Uh-oh, I'm taking the paint off.
-Uh-oh.

Oh, my god!
[ Laughs ]

I could open up to him,

And he was just like
a friend that I never had.

That's definitely
a good thing.

But also, take your time.

No need to rush things.
We're all young.

Micah:
I'm super excited for moriah.

And honestly, I like max.

He's a good guy.

But at the same time,

I am protective over her.
Like, I'm her big brother.

And I may not have a lot
of experience in relationships,

But I do have more
than moriah does,

And I don't want her making
some of the mistakes I've made.

I want you to have
what you want.

One of the mistakes I made
was diving into a relationship

Without even
thinking it through,

Basically like
making a commitment

Before I even 100%
knew the other person.

It's difficult to handle,
like, romantic relationships

When gowning up

We didn't even have many regular
relationships --

Like, no friends,

And it was just siblings
and parents, practically.

So, I hope moriah
learns from my mistakes.

I didn't plan on dating
for a long time,

But then, like,
you can't control

When somebody walks
into your life,

And that's why
I have this song here.

Moriah: when something
emotional comes up,

I usually throw my focus
into music

And then I feel like
I can kind of process it

While doing what.

I'd love to hear
the song.

The song is basically about
opening up to other people,

Being vulnerable,
which is something

That I struggle with that
I have got to work on.

I know it started with
how I was raised and growing up

And feeling like
I wasn't accepted.

But it's different with max.

He's taught me there are people
out there that listen

And don't pass judgment
and will accept me for who I am.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪ The wind in my wings ♪♪

♪♪ So that I could fly ♪♪

♪♪ You fixed my broken pieces ♪♪

♪♪ When all I could do was cry ♪♪

♪♪ When I was lost,
you found a pattern ♪♪

♪♪ In the stars for me
to follow ♪♪

♪♪ I understand I may not speak ♪♪

Moriah: this whole relationship
is bringing out a side of myself

That I had never seen before.

Sometimes it's scary.
Whatever this is,

It's something
I don't want to lose,

So I don't want to screw it up.

♪♪ Is growing wings ♪♪

[ Music ends ]

That is so good.

I love that song.

♪♪♪♪

You ready for this?
I am.

Are you?

[ Cowboy accent ]
I'm ready, partner.

[ Chuckles ]

My navel was the first thing
I wanted to pierce

From the time I was just
a little kid.

Like, I just remember seeing
girls, having them

And thinking
they were so pretty.

And it was one
of those things that, like,

I for sure could never do
in my father's house.

I like the way
those look on you.

Really?
Yeah.

This is the first pair of
sunglasses I've ever had

In my whole life.

You've never been
to a piercing parlor.

What are you expecting?

I have no idea
what to expect.

Ethan's not really
into piercings or tattoos

Or anything like that,

But the conversations
we've had have come

To an understanding
of I'm my own person,

And if this is a choice
that I want to make,

It's something
I want to do to my body,

Then I should have
the freedom to do that.

It's not that I don't care
what he thinks,

But it's that he can't make
that decision for me.

Would you ever

Even slightly consider

One piercing anywhere?

On me?
On you.

It's a very serious question.

Not even like one ear?

You know, guys get,
like, nipple piercings.

Yeah, definitely not that.

The only piercing that I ever
liked or was tasteful to me

Was, you know, in the ear lobe.

No way. [ Chuckles ]

No tongue piercings for me.

How do people eat?
Do they eat off a tube

Or do they have to clean it
every time after they eat

If they get a piercing
on their tongue?

I don't know how that works.

Are you nervous for me?

A little. I wouldn't want
to have someone...

...poke a hole
in my bellybutton.

[ Laughs ]
what if my guts fell out?

Oh, my gosh.

My initial thoughts and feelings
on a navel piercing --

I didn't like it.

I know it's something
she's always wanted to do,

And so I think that's,

Like, contributing towards

Making a relationship work

And compromising
on certain things.

You ready?
Yeah, I'm ready.

You sure you're ready?
Yeah, I'm ready.

Ethan, why are you psyching
me out?

"Are you ready?
Are you sure you're ready?

Are you sure you're ready?
Are you sure you're ready?"

Oh, wow.

Ethan: I walk in, and I
didn't know what to say.

I was shocked.

Absolutely shocked.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

You're not gonna pass out
on me, are you?

[ Laughter ]

Moriah: ooh, ooh, ooh!

Ethan: we never really
celebrated any holidays,

Including the 4th of july
growing up.

We are on our way
to buy some fireworks

And we're gonna blow
some [bleep] up.

That was awesome!
[ Laughs ]

Hello.

I'm here for
a navel piercing today.

A navel piercing? Okay.
Yes.

I need you
to fill this out for me, okay?

Ethan: I walk into
the tattoo parlor

And there is a lot of stuff
on the wall.

Just feels dark.

My first thought was --

If I was, like,
walking through a field

And I saw something like
that hanging in a tree,

It would seem like death to me,
so I didn't like it.

Man: how y'all doing today?

I think he's more worried
than I am.

Ethan: my parents were
heavily restrictive

Of what they exposed us
to growing up,

So I'm having a hard time
thinking of any art

We were exposed to
because we weren't,

Especially body art.

Here. Do you
want to keep my
purse? Thanks.

You can pull up a stool
if you want to watch.

I'm gonna let you lay
with your head down here, okay?

Ethan: I had seen paintings.

Leo...da vinci --

Da vincinardi or...

[ Chuckles ] da vinciardi?

That was either a very
famous painter

Or some italian gangster.

[ Chuckles ]
I can't remember.

I get them confused.
[ Laughs ]

Alright, so basically,
what I'm gonna do

Is I'm gonna use
these guys right here.

I'm gonna clamp you,

And then we're gonna pierce you.
Once it's in there,

I'll cork you...
-Okay.

...and then we'll put
the jewelry through

And then we'll put the ball on
and you'll be good.

Ethan: I don't know exactly why,
but as I was sitting there

In the parlor,
it was uncomfortable for me.

You're not gonna pass out
on me, are you?

[ Both women laugh ]

Of course,
obviously out and about,

I had seen lots of piercings
on lots of people,

But actually watching it
all happen is quite different.

Alright, sweetheart,
take a deep breath in...

Okay.

...and release.
[ Exhales slowly ]

Good job. Big push.

Most excellent.

You okay?
Uh-huh.

Well done.

Did you watch it happen?

Yeah?
You look shocked.

Hmm?
[ Both women laugh ]

Or dazed or something.

[ Laughs ]

You look like
you'd seen a ghost or something.

Like you might pass out.

Ethan: well, seeing a large
metal object

Going through
my wife's navel,

It was very painful
to watch.

I'm just making sure
I get all the --

All the blood
out of there.

Yes, I did not expect
the piercing to hurt that bad,

But it hurt pretty bad.

Thank you so much!
You're so welcome.

I'll be in touch.
Y'all have a good weekend.

Growing up,
no one in my immediate family

Had a navel piercing.
It wasn't really thought of

As something
that you would do or should do.

And obviously, you do develop
a lot of tastes

In the environment
that you grow up in.

But now, as an adult,
I am working on forming

My opinions apart
from what my parents thought.

It's a lot of blood.
Yeah, it is.

What'd she say?
Three months.

Olivia: I mean,
I kind of expected it.

You're puncturing a hole
in your body.

Yeah, it's gonna take
a little while to heal

And then sticking
a foreign object in the hole.

That's what she said.

[ Quietly ]
that's a long time.

[ Chuckles ]

[ Engine starts ]

♪♪♪♪

Weren't there some
left over here?

Barry:
when we bought our new house,

We decided to use our farm
as an investment property.

So we're out at the farm today
getting things cleaned up

So we can get everything
ready to rent.

Alright, put these in.

Okay.

Kim: whose sock?

We don't need any more
mismatched socks,

So if you can't find the pair,
leave it here.

Barry: we booked a family
from australia

And we're getting
ready for them.

Kim: we don't have to take
every blanket.

Just take blankets and sheets
that we really need.

Remember when this
bunk bed was here
and me and micah

Could sleep in it
and we had like a
little table there?

You had to deal with micah
snoring all the time.

Or his stinky feet.
[ Both laughing ]

Shh.

This is moriah's.
A lot of this stuff is moriah's.

Lydia, did you see this?
-Yeah.

-Did you read it?
-Yeah.

Kim: going through
the upstairs closet

Where moriah
spent a lot of time

Her last year or two
here at the farm,

I'm finding these things
that she's written on the wall,

Almost like songs or poetry,

But a little dark edge to it.

It says things like, "they're
trying to take our voices...

So we scream loud, louder...

But you can't stop the girl."

It really hurts to read these.

I knew moriah was unhappy,

But I guess
I didn't really realize

She was hurting that bad.

I tried to talk to her,
but, you know,

It's kind of like you can't
force a flower to open.

But I do love her,

And I'm here when she's ready.

Girl: okay, anything else
in all this?

I think this is good.

Let's carry this box out.

♪♪♪♪

A lot of memories here.

Kim: being at the farm,

There's so many emotions here --

I mean, good and bad,

This is where
most of our children

Have been born and raised.

And this is also where all of
the events

Leading up to the splintering
of our family happened

With ethan and olivia.

Now we're at the point
with ethan

Where he wants nothing
to do with us.

They want to move on
with their life and that's it.

And we just let him know
our door is always open.

We are always here
for you at any point.

If you change your mind,
we're here.

It just makes me
all the more determined

To not let this happen
with my younger children,

You know, to stay close to them

And do whatever I can do

To not let it happen again.

-You ready to go?
-You ready?

-Guess so.
-Let's go.

Barry: let's go.

Micah: my parents have always
found something wrong

With every holiday,

So that's why we didn't
celebrate any of them.

I got 25 bundles.

Yeah!

That's a good question.

♪♪♪♪

I'm excited!
It's the 4th of july!

What are you most
looking forward to about today?

We never really celebrated
any holidays,

Including the 4th of july
growing up.

History wasn't
a big priority in our family,

So why do 4th of july?

It's just like kind of one more
thing to do, so to speak.

We're gonna make
some memories.

It's kind of fun thinking, like,
the traditions you start now

Are the traditions
you're gonna have,

Like, when you have kids.

I think I would like to make
a tradition

Of bottle rocket fights.

I think that's
really cool.

Ethan, I have been processing
a lot of challenges

In our relationship,

But it's really important
to focus on positive things

And making memories.

Ethan's not coming into
the picture with any traditions,

And so it's kind of a blank
slate that we get to start

And figure out
what we want to do.

Kind of need to have
a game plan for food

Since micah and moriah

Are gonna be here
any second.

We knew micah and moriah
wouldn't have any place to go.

They didn't grow up
celebrating holidays,

And so we decided it'd be a good
idea to have them over.

Moriah: I'm so excited.
This is gonna be fun.

[ Chuckles ]

Micah: this is a pretty
special day for me.

We're celebrating freedom
cause it's the 4th of july.

But it's also like
me, moriah, and ethan,

We have our independence now.

So like, we're celebrating
two types of freedom.

-Hey, guys!
-Hey!

-Hey, micah.
-It's been so long.

Olivia: when micah and I walked
in the door,

I felt really happy

Because we don't really
see them anymore.

They're on their own,
doing their own thing,

Hanging out with their friends
and working a lot.

And so I'm excited
I get to be there

For their first 4th of july.

I like your beard.
Oh, thank you.

Olivia's like
a best friend/sister, slash...

Was once like a parent.
[ Laughs ]

So it's a very interesting
relationship,

Very interesting bond we have.
But I love it.

So, the plan is we'll go
get fireworks,

We got hot dogs,
and make a campfire.

And I was thinking we'd get
plenty of bottle rockets.

We can have like little

Bottle rocket battle.
Yeah.

What do you guys think of
when you think of

The 4th of july?
So, growing up,

We used to watch the neighbor
set off his fireworks.

[ Chuckling ]

Yeah, we would always run out
into the field

And climb on the fence, try to
watch the neighbor's fireworks.

They was like a mile away,
so you could barely see them.

Yeah, have to climb up
a real tall tree

To see them or something.

Micah: my parents have always
found something wrong

With every holiday,

So that's why we didn't
celebrate any of them.

So honestly,
we don't know a whole lot

About the 4th of july.

Um...

The declaration of independence

Is what was written

By...a group of people...

I know it's what was signed

Before the revolutionary w*r?

Because of all the taxes?

This is sad.

I honestly don't know.

[ Laughing ] we don't know!

I think, out of all of the
holidays, as an american.,

That's definitely one
you should celebrate.

I don't see --
I don't understand

How it could not be okay
to celebrate, at all.

You look back and you think,

"How come we didn't celebrate

For the past 20 years?"

And so, as young adults
on our own now,

We're just trying to make up
for lost time.

-Let's get some fireworks.
-Okay!

Alright,
let's go get them, guys.

-I'm so excited, guys!
-We need some smoke bombs.

Moriah:
yeah, 'cause aren't those the
ones you can throw at people?

Micah: let's go, let's go.

Olivia: your hair's standing up
in the back.

What can I tell you?
-He's just excited.

That I'm getting pumped.

Ethan: it's 4th of july.

We're on our way
to buy some fireworks,

And we're gonna blow
some [bleep] up.

Micah:
I'm gonna go over here.

We go to buy fireworks
and we walk in,

And there's just like
such a selection.

What about this one?

Trying to look at each one,

Just to imagine which one
would look the best in the sky.

I really want lanterns.

Should I get four?
One for everyone?

Yeah. Yeah.
Okay.

I want to get some
bottle rockets.

I really want the poppers.

Look, these are 50 cents.
Oh, my goodness!

So let's get a couple
of boxes so we can play later.

That's a good question.

'Cause it's like a party?

[ Chuckles ]

The more the better.

I got 25 bundles.

Yeah!

It's like cannons
and r*fles without b*ll*ts.

Okay, do you guys want one
bigger one or are you good?

I want one big one.

Yeah, that's $90.

$90?
Yeah.

Really?

[ Gasps ] ethan,

I see one I want.
What's that?

One -- oh, my goooodddd!

Mic drop?
No.

One bad mother-in-law.

I guess they make
those fireworks for a reason.

Sometimes people have
a little pent up...

It feels really good
to light a fire

And can see it go off
with a bang, you know.

Tempting, tempting.

Let's get it.

[ Laughter ]

♪♪♪♪

Barry: we're baaack.

The family that is running
our farm right now

Is from australia.

They're here in the u.s.

And they don't really know
anybody in the area,

So they invited us over for the
children to meet and have fun.

And we're looking forward to it.

-Hi.
-Hi.

-Hey, guys.
-How are you doing?

-Good. How are you?
-Good.

I'm skyler.
And I'm ross.

And we are from australia,

Barry: as I say in australia --
g'day, g'day.

[ Laughter ]
skyler: close.

And we're here in the u.s.
Because of my work.

I work
as a leadership mentor,

But because we're
sort of world travelers,

We don't tend to stay in
any one place at the same time.

This is called
an american picnic.

Where does this go?

Uh, round the table somewhere?
I don't know.

[ Thunder rumbles ]

Plan an outdoor picnic
and it'll rain, right.

Kim: well, then we'll
have soggy food.

They've introduced me to this
concept called world schooling,

Where the world
is their school

And they're learning
as they travel.

Sometimes I find that
when we travel,

When we go to
particularly eastern europe

And went to places like hungary
and the czech republic,

The language
is so different.

It's not even close to english.

I'd learn most of my language
from from what they said

In the checkout counter
at the supermarkets.

I just know what to say
'cause I listen.

I admire
that they can do that.

I mean,
I couldn't be that...

Untethered.

Are any of your kids
interested in travel?

Lydia.
Lydia is?

Has she talked about
where she'd like to go?

Everywhere.

But she's really kind of

Bent towards romania
right now, so...

I know that the gilberts
love to travel,

And we like to travel,

But if I had to pick

A year on the road --
never coming home --

Or a year at home --
never traveling --

I would pick
a year at home.

[ Thunder rumbles ]

I've never left the u.s.

The furthest I've gotten away
from georgia

Is minnesota.
That's cool.

How would you feel
if one of your kids

Wanted to go on
like a gap year.

Like, take off and travel

Around the world?
[ Thunder rumbling ]

I don't know.

Skyler: in some way, we can
relate to the plaths

Because we are
also wanting to shelter our kids

From a lot
of negative stuff.

Like, we have deliberately
taken them out of middle school

And high school and provided
a different kind of education

'Cause we don't want
to expose them to all the crap

That goes on
in that environment.

And so,
I can see the appeal

Of creating a beautiful
little world to live in.

But at the same time,
I think if you do that,

You're possibly
missing out on

What else the world
has to offer,

Which can also
be beautiful.

But um, not yet.

[ Thunder rumbling ]

[ Thunder crashes ]
okay, time to go inside!

-Did you guys see that?
-Oh, no!

-That was cool.
-That was called lightning.

[ Thunder rumbles ]

Kim: everybody grab something
off the table.

[ Thunder rumbling ]

Ross: alright, looks like
we've got everything.

One time my mom saw me kiss
olivia, like, on the cheek,

And she came up to me afterwards
and was like,

"You were like
this close to her lips."

No touching,
no feelings before marriage.

Part of the reason why ethan
and I got married so young

Was because we were so tired
of all the restrictions.

We didn't think a whole lot
of things through for ourselves,

And I wish we had.


Olivia: you know, guys, I think
we should make a toast.

I want to make a toast to our
first 4th of july together.

And here's to learning
and researching

And becoming more educated
and better versions of ourselves

And overcoming
whatever hardships

We've had and coming out
stronger in the end.

Here's to...

The next year,

Restoring my old cars
and driving to the grand canyon.

Here's to getting out
of cairo.

Please touch mine.

Here's to my single life.

I'm having fun
being single.

I think that sounds like
a really good plan.

I'm proud of you.
I am so proud of you.

Micah: so I'm single right now.

And honestly,
since me and my ex broke up,

I do think I see things
a little differently now

Just because I've experienced,

Like, a very close relationship
with someone.

And I feel like that's made me
realize how much I need to learn

Before I'm ready
for something so serious.

I really thought I loved her.

I thought she loved me.

But...

...i didn't think it through
all the way.

I was considering marriage,

Mostly because I just thought

The first person
you have feelings for

Is the person you have to marry.

I mean, that's what my parents
taught and raised us to think.

But I'm not ready to settle down

Because I have so much freedom
ahead of me and so much time.

You ever feel like your
upbringing that was so strict

About relationships

And what was appropriate
and what wasn't --

Do you ever feel like

That's almost
a hindrance now

When it comes
to realizing that, like,

It's okay
to be young and date?

Yeah.

My parents
always just said, like,

God will show you the one you're
supposed to marry.

And I don't doubt that,

But I don't believe

It's gonna come without dating.

I look back
when I was your age,

And I was so entrenched

In everything
I was taught.

And I don't let so much
like what my parents taught me,

At least anymore.
It took a lot to
grow out of that.

Mm-hmm, yeah, and
that's what I meant
-- like that period.

Olivia: I really want to see
micah and moriah do well,

And I don't want them
to make the same mistakes

That ethan and I made.

We just both grew up
in an environment

Where we really couldn't think
for ourselves,

And that carried over
into our dating life, as well,

Where...

Everybody made
all the choices for us.

Like, my in-laws
and my parents

Made all of our dating choices
for us

And what we were
and were not allowed to do,

And...

It just isn't healthy.

We were basically taught
no kissing before marriage.

You know,
no sex before marriage.

Practically no looking
before marriage.

Yeah, almost down to that.

One time my mom saw me kiss
olivia, like, on the cheek,

And she came up to me afterwards
and was like,

"You were like
this close to her lips."

And so stuff like that makes it
even more awkward, you know,

No touching,

No feelings before marriage.
[ Chuckles ]

Part of the reason why ethan
and I got married so young

Was because we were so tired
of all the restrictions.

We weren't allowed to text
each other until we got engaged.

When we first started dating,

We were allowed
to talk on the phone

For one hour every three months.
It was really stupid.

And that's part of the reason
why we got married so quickly,

'Cause we were just like,
"screw that."

There's a quote that I love
that says,

"A strong woman can do it
all by herself,

But a good man
won't let her."

So it's just like, you got to be
capable of doing it all alone,

But somebody that loves you
that much

Will just, like, be
right there for you.

Moriah: hearing so many things
from my siblings,

I want to move slow
in max and I's relationship

So that we don't make
the same mistakes

And end up losing
something special.

I think like even
for ethan and i,

We didn't think a whole lot of
things through for ourselves,

And I wish we had.
And so I like hearing

You guys' perspective
of where you are.

Yeah, that's one thing that
I've tried to learn to do more,

Is think a scenario
through before you do it --

Before it happens.
And you guys can learn from us

Like, we've made mistakes.

And you can look
at our relationship

And you can say,
I don't want that.

Like, that's totally fine.
You can learn from from us.

Honestly, you all have been like
the best role models

As in like...

Every relationship
struggles and stuff like that.

But being able to watch
you guys mature together

And stuff like that's just --
it's been relieving.

We're a family.
We all make mistakes.

-Yeah.
-It's what we do with them.

I'm just so glad
to have both of you as siblings.

I consider you my sister.

I am your sister, yeah.

Moriah: I feel like how we were
raised has really affected me.

Like, I've been judged
and not accepted.

I'm letting go of my past
and following my black heart.

♪♪♪♪

[ Indistinct chatter ]

Barry: today, we're having
a cookout with the gilberts.

We were planning for outside

And then the skies opened up.

Favorite movie.

Uh...

I don't have a favorite.
Top five.

Well, just name a few
that you really enjoyed.

All of them. [ Chuckles ]
[ laughs ]

Like...
Every movie in existence.

It's fun being
with the gilberts.

Don't!
Don't make us smell it!

But it's a little hard
being back at the farmhouse

And seeing another family
all interacting with each other

Just because our family

Is now fractured
into three separate households.

But I love all of them

And I just wish
we could all get along.

Thank you.
I'm doing it.

But in the meantime, it just
makes me all the more determined

To not let this happen
with my younger children.

Alright, guys, so you fed us
some southern cooking.

So I know we've got some good
australian chocolate biscuits.

It doesn't involve
everyone drinking

Out of the same jug of milk,
right?

-No.
-Oh, yeah.

You just chug
this down and...

And pass it on!
...pass it on.

Oh, look at the time.
[ Laughter ]

Although, there's a ton of sugar
in this.

But we're good, right?
Yeah.

We normally don't do
very much sugar, you know.

-This is iconic.
-It's iconic!

It's a special occasion.

Yeah, I mean,
it's not very often

We have somebody australia

Offering us, you know,
their native food.

I guess it's fine.
-Alright.

Normally,
we try to avoid sugar.

In this case, though,
I kind of look at it

As a little cultural taste
for the children.

Alright, levi, show us how to
do it tim tam slam.

So, usually, you bite both
sides,

And you use it as a straw.

Pressure.
This is pressure.

[ Laughter ]

-Is it soggy?
-Oh, yes.

And then you have to shove
the whole thing in your mouth,

Bite down on it,
and then just keep sucking.

Mm.
It's coming?

Oh, I loved the chocolate.
[ Giggles ]

Skyler: it's tricky.
Got to stick it in your mouth.

Now you just eat it.

And then you drink your milk.

Mmm! [ Laughs ]

Lydia:
it's really good and so messy,

But I always love trying
new foods, meeting new people

And seeing how other people
live their lives

And, you know, other cultures.

It's always a wonderful
experience.

Who came up with this?

Pure genius.
[ Laughs ]

Barry: plath family,
get ready to go

'Cause the night's
drawing to a close.

[ Indistinct chatter ]

Kim: it was really fun being
with the gilberts,

And we might do things
differently,

But we have similar goals.

It does my heart good
to see a whole family

Just really enjoying the farm.

It just feels like this
is what the farm was here for.

So long.
Farewell.

Now we got to clean
up all this mess.

[ Laughter ]

♪♪♪♪

Well, the sun is setting

And everyone's sh**ting
off their fireworks.

Yeah, we have our own.

We should get ours now.

Why don't we
move into that,

But we'll start
with our lanterns.

We got these lanterns, and
olivia thought it would be cool

To write on the lantern
what we wanted

To let go of
and kind of move on from

In the coming year.

I know, like, personally,
I want to let go of fear.

I want to be more confident
in who I am

And not let other people

Take my voice away
from me.

Yeah.

That's a good one.

I want to put down on here

That I want better
self-control.

Micah: I'm definitely enjoying
my freedom,

Especially when it comes
to dating life

And my romantic life.

But I want to be the best person
and like as mature as I can be

And not get into anything
that I'm gonna regret later.

What'd you write?

I wrote on my balloon
"my parents."

Just...

That was the only thing
I wrote.

Pretty pointed.

Yeah.

In looking back
over my childhood,

I do feel like I was sheltered
to an extreme extent,

And I feel like it's affected
every aspect of my life,

Including my marriage.

Not being able
to see my siblings,

It almost feels degrading
in a way.

That's something that is
very hard for me to get over.

I honestly do not know
how I will get over that.

To me, that's a boundary
that has been crossed

That I don't know
how it can be taken back.

Okay, can I read mine?

Yeah, I want to hear
what you wrote.

Okay, I wrote,
"I'm letting go of my past,

But never forgetting
what it taught me,

Remembering where I came from
and why I left,

And chasing my dreams

And following
my black heart."

I feel like how we were raised
has really affected me.

It's like I've been judged
and not accepted,

But I don't want my past
to decide my future,

Especially if I'm gonna trust
somebody in a relationship.

So I need to kind of
let go of a few things.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

Olivia: high fives for your
first 4th of july!

I'm pumped mine went up.
[ Chuckles ]

Ethan: alright, guys,
let's go blow some stuff up.

You light it.

Micah:
you get it in your face.

Ow!
[ Laughter ]

This stuff stings.

Smells like sulfur.

Olivia:
[ speaking indistinctly ]

That was so cool.
Moriah: I know!

Let me see it.

I'm not rubbing it in.
I'm sorry, I'm not rubbing it in

But...

Micah: that was cool.

♪♪♪♪

♪♪♪♪

What do you think about
this one?

next on
"welcome to plathville..."

I've been watching this house
for a while

And they just had
a price cut.

Olivia: I've been looking
at homes for over a year

Because ethan and I know that we
really need some space.

And by space,
I mean moving out of cairo.

Do you want to
call the realtor?

I invited helena to go
get a burger and just hang out.

I'm definitely getting signals
that micah is attracted to me.

♪♪♪♪

Anything could happen.

♪♪♪♪

Max and I have done very little
talking the last few days,

And I know that frustrates him.

I understand that it can be
really hard to open up.

And I feel like
time after time,

You just shut me out.