01x04 - What's Your Gender?

[bunniefuu]

Ladies, gentlemen, and those of us

smart enough to transcend a gender.

I know I'm fabulous.

My pronoun's a fat b*tch.

For me!

This place is wild.

It's rule-breaking, gender-bending,

and it's at the forefront of

what I see as a gender revolution.

Gender: it's a subject that gets

a lot of people very worked up.

Leave the kid alone.

People get so upset when they

see someone like me in a dress.

What exactly is it?

Bender-gender, cis-tem offender.

And why does it matter so much?

- I wanna be a daddy.

- You are a daddy.

I want to find out, for me, for you,

for all the eight billion

inhabitants of Planet Sex.

PLANET SEX WITH CARA DELEVINGNE

Is this actually meant

to be serious? No

Quite? Half?

Quasi.

For me, I think gender is probably

the most interesting thing

that runs through all

of humanity and society,

but it's the conversation

that people have the least.

This is probably the first time

I've spoken about gender like this,

ever in my life and

it's been 29 years too late!

When I was a little girl,

I liked dressing up in boy's clothes.

I didn't like Barbies, I

liked Action Men. I liked cars.

But then if someone mistook

me for a guy, I'd be like,

"No, I'm a girl. Can't you see that?"

I started having these gender

identity crises as a teenager.

I felt very alone. Completely.

There was no one I could talk to.

The whole thing is very odd.

I'm still figuring it out.

- That's so sweet.

- That was good.

Shut up!

To understand myself better,

I need to discover what gender

feels like for other people.

So I'm putting myself out there

and going to meet some

fabulous gender q*eer folk.

There's no better place to start

than with someone who's had an

extraordinary gender journey.

This isn't the right place.

This is one of my nearest

and dearest friends, Mik.

You might recognise him as Gottmik,

from the legendary Ru Paul's Drag Race.

All right, stunning angel of my life.

This is Roland's studio.

A lot of artistry happens here.

I got ready for Drag Race here,

covered this place with all my stuff.

This is iconic.

I'm a trans man,

which means I was

assigned female at birth,

and then transitioned into a man.

But I definitely love

playing with femininity.

That's why I love drag so

much, it allows you to do that.

I wake up as a guy and

go to sleep as a guy.

Gottmik, that female-ish persona,

is 1000% just my art form.

When did you first discover

that people can transition?

I'm from Arizona, where

it's very conservative.

I didn't even know what trans was.

When I was 18, I met

a bunch of trans women

who taught me what trans

was and it just clicked.

I didn't transition for so long

because I was very feminine,

and all the trans guys I ever

saw were just very masculine.

So I used drag to see what

I was comfortable with.

It kind of helped me find

my gender and realise that

I'm 1000% not a girl and 1000% a guy.

It's amazing.

I started hormones and it was

like everything fell into place.

It was almost like every issue

I had was solved in one second.

It was like the world was like,

"You're on the right path, b*tch."

And it was game over.

Mik's journey, from being

assigned female at birth,

to a trans man who loves

to play with femininity,

has got me thinking about my own path.

If someone had asked me as a

kid if I wanted to be a boy

- Yeah

- I do wonder about this a lot.

If I hadn't become famous,

would it be different?

If I wasn't a model, would

it have been different?

It is scary.

When I started transitioning, I

was a celebrity make-up artist.

It was scary, I was like, my

God, what am I going to do?

Go up to my celebrity clients

and say "Hi, I'm a man today"?

I can't even imagine even

like playing with gender

and trying to figure out sh*t

in front of the world like that.

All right, so where do you

think you're headed with this?

I honestly don't know.

The older I've gotten,

the less I'm trying to get

approval from my family.

I wonder if I said, "Guys, I want

to transition into being a man,"

what they would do?

And by the way, I would

never say that to them.

This is the thing, it's nothing

against them. They love me.

It's just, some people don't

understand what that is.

And they look at you like

they don't know you, suddenly.

I love you so much, for who you are.

No, but I mean, that's

- I wanna be a daddy.

- You are a daddy, no matter what.

Maybe one way to explore

my inner masculinity

and play with gender

is to dress up in drag.

So Gottmik's put me

in the make-up chair.

- I love this, thickening your brows.

- Yeah, you are.

I haven't ever dressed in male

drag apart from when I was nine.

I would go down the

street dressed as a boy.

I used to get the foam shaving

cream and put it on my face

and pretend to shave with the end

of a moisturiser, because it's hard.

I used to do it next to my

dad, because I wanted to be

I get so nervous.

What are we trying to

build? Like a gender

Bender Cis-tem offender.

Yep.

- I'm writing it down.

- Why are you doing that?

- I think I have a problem.

- Bender gender cis-tem offender.

- Now we transform her.

- OK.

Fem-gen-gen-man, welcome to the world.

It's scary. But in a good way.

- You look like Zac Efron.

- It matches my eyebrows perfectly.

I mean, it's not not

You honestly look hot as all hell.

And after a bit of that Gottmik magic

I'm really feeling it.

Wow. What gender is

happening here, ladies?

Yep. Gentlemen.

You're cool.

For me, drag is an outward expression

of how I feel inside, in

some way, shape or form.

My gender is this kind of like

multi-coloured sea of

sometimes it's wavy and

sometimes it's completely still,

sometimes there's miles of

tidal waves, it's just

For me, it never feels fixed.

But hold off a second.

Before we dig too deep here,

I want to clear some things up.

Like, what actually is gender?

And is it different

from what sex you are?

Let's talk about gender, baby!

Gender.

So I've called in my fellow Brit

and expert, Dr Ronx.

- So right now

- This looks fun.

We're going to do cue cards.

- I'm a bit nervous.

- Gender.

Oh, my God, that's

- It's not an easy starter for ten.

- What is gender?

Gender is essentially

how somebody feels inside,

an innate feeling.

It's not necessarily related to

somebody's sex assigned at birth.

Shall we talk about what sex is?

Because I think people

can confuse sex and gender.

Yes, exactly. Sex.

OK. Sex

Sex is essentially a term

that's given to people at birth

and it divides people into two,

binary constructs, male or female.

It's usually related to

their external sex organs.

So What is your sex?

I mean, my sex is I have a vag*na.

So society assumes that

if you have a vag*na,

you are going to feel

that you are a woman.

And if you have a p*nis,

that you are going to

feel that you are a man.

Not everybody goes on to

fit neatly into the box

that society says they should fit into.

Wow. So true.

Trans / transgender.

So, trans people feel that their gender

isn't aligned to the sex they

were assigned to at birth.

So for example a female child

may not grow into a woman.

They might identify as a man.

But the thing we have

to be very clear about

is that the trans experience

is different for absolutely everybody.

I personally have grown up without

feeling like I have a gender.

But it's more that I didn't belong

in any of the gender stereotypes.

For me, the whole feminine

identity was so annoying,

I was like, I am a person

who likes to play outside,

build, climb, do crazy things,

and this dress my mum

used to try to put me in

with really long hair, I was like,

"I can't do any of those things."

So for me, for example, I don't

feel as though I'm a woman.

So I would call myself trans.

I have a vag*na and say

that my sex is female, fine.

But that doesn't mean I

have to walk around the world

in a kind of

- As a woman.

- Yeah, of course.

Some estimate that

for around 98% of folk,

their sex and their gender match up.

But about 2% feel differently.

Growing up in the UK,

I've been deeply influenced

by my culture's belief

that boys should be boys

and girls, well, girls.

But there are other cultures

where sex and gender aren't

thought of so rigidly.

OAXACA MEXICO

500 miles south of Mexico City

live the indigenous Zapotec people.

And for more than 500 years,

they've recognised not

two but three genders:

men, women and muxe.

I'm not a man, I'm not a woman,

I am proud to be muxe.

Welcome to my home.

Felina, like most muxe people,

was assigned male at birth.

I was in primary school

when I realised there were men

and there were women,

and I didn't fit into either.

Because I'm not a woman,

I don't feel like a woman,

but I'm not a man either.

But my brothers, my

aunts and my cousins,

they knew as soon as I started

walking that I was muxe.

It's a collective discovery,

it's not individual.

We don't have to prepare our

parents for when we tell them,

"I am muxe."

Instead, everyone knows.

I love that.

Muxe make up about 6% of

people in Felina's hometown,

where they play a unique role.

Some choose to dress in

traditionally masculine clothing.

But most wear dresses and work

in stereotypically feminine trades

such as cooking,

hairdressing and weaving.

Today, Felina is bringing together

muxe from all over the state,

for an annual festival

celebrating muxe culture,

visibility and bravery.

For me, it's very important

to keep our customs

and traditions alive,

so that they never die.

It gives us the opportunity

to get together, to hug one another,

to dance and spend time together.

The Catholic Church isn't known

for supporting gender diversity,

but here in Oaxaca, it's a big

part of the muxe festivities.

As muxes, it's very important

to receive a blessing.

The priest says we

are all God's children.

Oaxaca is not paradise,

but we have worked

to gain visibility and recognition.

Bravo!

It's the first festival

since before the pandemic.

Today I feel very proud, very happy.

What can we show to the world?

Well, obviously, tolerance

and acceptance as people.

I think we should be loved

and accepted as human beings.

I am what I am.

This is part of me, of my culture

and my way of being.

I feel proud of my identity.

It turns out, it's not just Oaxaca

that has more than two genders.

India has the hijra,

in Naples, Italy, there

are the feminielli,

many indigenous Americans

recognise two-spirit people,

whilst Samoa has the fa'fafine,

and an island in Indonesia even

recognises up to five genders.

No, come on, don't eat the birds.

I think the Western

culture that I grew up in,

with just two genders, men and women,

is far too restrictive.

It's no wonder some people

just can't help but rebel.

Like Alok, who defines

themself as non-binary,

meaning they feel neither

like a man nor like a woman.

What do you want from me?

Alok's taking me to a

tailor in the West Village

whose family has been dressing

the gender non-conforming community

for 35 years.

- Hi.

- How are you?

- Oh, my God.

- Your dress is ready, I think.

- That looks great.

- I want you to try them.

OK.

- How do you like it?

- It's really great.

- The length is good.

- Yeah.

- It looks good.

- Can we get more room up here?

- More room here?

- My shoulders are kind of wide.

- We can do that.

- Thank you.

People get so upset when they

see someone like me in a dress.

They'll go, "That's a man in a dress!"

So what?

Why are we so concerned

with policing fashion?

Do you think the binary

has affected us badly?

- Yes.

- Is that more along the lines ?

We're constantly saying,

"You're not masculine

enough, feminine enough."

We're constantly made to

feel like we're not enough.

Being a man has to be

opposite to being a woman.

It only gives us two options.

There's so many different

genders and sexes and sexualities,

in animals and plants and humans.

Gender and sexual

diversity is what's natural,

not dividing billions of complex

things into two categories.

Why, when it comes to humans, do we say,

you all have to be this way?

Yeah, put it in a box, black

and white, this or that.

Meeting you, you're

so outside of gender.

And you have such confidence

in your masculinity.

And for me it was a wake-up call

that all of us are in this journey

of trying to figure out who we are

outside of what we've been told.

And that, actually, in a world

without that societal pressure,

who would we be?

These things are so ingrained in us,

I realise how much internalised

shame I have against myself,

not to anyone else,

But it's still whatever your

parents or grandparents believed.

It does take a long time to change

but the quicker it happens, the

more people will find freedom.

I often say, they'll try

their best to destroy you

and call it love.

But it was often the people who

said that they loved me first

who were policing my gender.

I had to

deny myself, erase myself,

invisibilise myself,

So I didn't allow any

video recordings of me,

I didn't want any photos

or audio recordings,

because I felt I was too feminine,

my voice and gestures too girly.

I was literally in a straightjacket.

So I wouldn't express myself at all.

Can I ask how your relationship

is with your family now?

It's so much better now.

I think because they saw how

this is what happiness is.

Yeah, it's so important.

I want to be happy, I want to be me,

I want to live life outside

of norms and binaries,

I want to live the question.

And one of the things

I wanted to ask you is,

modelling, do you feel

like it's difficult

to figure out what your own image is?

Yeah.

Yeah, really.

My identity as a person, I

don't really know what that is.

In the way of, like

I went from being a

suicidal, depressed teenager

to going straight out of school

and becoming a famous model.

I don't know who I am. Lots of

people don't know who they are.

- Right.

- I'm nearly 30 and I feel like 16.

Our experiences show

how harmful rigid ideas about

masculinity and femininity are.

Not just to people who

feel they don't fit,

but to all of society.

For what it's worth, if

I had grown up in a world

that understood the complexities

of gender a bit better,

I think my childhood would have

been a lot easier and happier.

When I was a teenager,

I mean, I had a lot of

mental stuff going on.

Pretty heavy depression,

suicidal thoughts,

you know, I had a mental breakdown.

It was all to do with finding

identity and sexuality and gender

Yeah, I think a lot of

that was pretty rough.

Because I wasn't like everyone else.

But actually, I was wrong.

Like me, a lot of people growing

up feel confused about gender.

The big question is, why?

Well, gender can be influenced

by how and where we're brought up,

social pressures,

and science tells us that some

of it is down to our biology.

That's you there, in the womb,

with a soup of sex hormones

running through your body.

One key ingredient is testosterone.

For many people, the more

testosterone in the mix,

the more male you may look on

the outside and feel inside.

Low testosterone may make

you look and feel more female.

But hormones combine in complex ways,

meaning sometimes you look one

way and feel quite different.

That's why gender is more of a

spectrum than just men and women.

And, perhaps surprisingly,

so is your body.

Genes and hormones influence whether

you develop a p*nis or a vag*na,

and there can be dozens

of biological variations.

Meet River Gallo.

They are not male or

female, they are intersex,

meaning their sex at birth was unclear.

I used to religiously

not step on cracks.

Of course, me too.

Two in a row's good,

three in a row's bad luck.

You have to spin round ten times,

kick a lamp-post, spit

and go, "Aye, aye, sailor."

Ow

That's what happens when you're

with your bad luck friend.

f*ck you, tree.

River's family runs an

El Salvadorean restaurant.

I cannot wait to find out more

about their extraordinary story.

- This is my mom.

- Thank you so much for having me.

I'm Cara.

Hi.

- Baby.

- Hi, Mom.

And to try their famous pupusas.

- These are really good.

- Cheese or meat.

Yes, pupusa!

I always say, the pupusas

paid for my college.

Tell me a little bit

about you growing up.

I knew there was something

different about me since I was 12,

which was when my doctors told

me I was born without testicles.

So the idea was, we're going

to give you the hormones,

you're going to turn into a boy.

You're going to have these testicles

and you're going to

look male down there.

And, essentially,

I was put on testosterone to

start going through puberty,

and then, when I was 16, I had a surgery

to implant prosthetic

testicles into my scrotum.

I wasn't until I went, I

want to make a film out of it

that I realised that my

condition was intersex.

So it wasn't until I was

26 that I realised that

- Twenty-six.

- Yeah.

There was a word that existed

and it was me that looked it up.

River's groundbreaking

short film Ponyboi

follows a young, intersex

runaway navigating love

and seeking self-acceptance.

It's one of the few films ever

to star an intersex

person as an intersex lead.

It opened up a whole

new world for River.

While writing the

screenplay, I discovered that

my condition is part of

the larger intersex umbrella

and found that there were

these intersex activists,

who were really vocal

about their experiences.

Was it something you were scared of?

Or were you just so happy to find out

- I mean, like, surely

- Yeah

Definitely, both.

It was a relief because it

was community, people, support,

and at the same time it was like

What the f*ck? Why

did it take this long?

Why did no doctor, in these last

10 or 12 years, tell me anything?

I recently looked at my

journals from that time.

It was heartbreaking,

because there was a lot of

talk of not wanting to live.

There was a lot of,

like, just confusion

Are you going to cry? OK

- Just checking.

- Shut up! God, you're annoying.

- It breaks my heart, though.

- My heart was broken.

I was crying, reading

these journal entries.

It was just, like, wow,

nobody was really

I needed help. I was, like,

"I don't feel good, I

want to see a therapist."

My parents got me therapists.

- Were you not really pissed?

- Yeah!

I turned that anger into activism.

Is it still the norm, if you're born

intersex, to be assigned a gender?

Pretty much, yeah. Most doctors

say, this is what has to happen.

Leave the kid alone!

It's also doctors preparing

children to have heterosexual sex.

Because that's what it is, it's

a hetero-patriarchal agenda.

That's part of the reason why this,

what I like to call the intersex

tipping point is now happening.

Now we're finally realising

that our shared experience

is collective power

to get these laws made,

so that no intersex child has to

go through what we've been through.

It was really, really

nice to meet River.

There was a sadness about like

being emotionally unsupported,

going through all this

medical stuff alone.

How crazy it would have

been to have someone

make medical decisions that I

couldn't even have control over.

So our sexual biology is actually

this kaleidoscope of diversity.

It's estimated that up to

1.7% of us humans are intersex,

about the same number

of people with red hair.

Our bodies don't always fit

neatly into two categories.

So is this the same for our minds?

The University of Cambridge,

home to Britain's brainiacs,

where scientist Dr Christelle Langley

has been investigating if

gender shows up in the brain.

What we tried to do in our study was

to look at whether we could identify

typically male or female brains.

Brain scans of almost 10,000

people from all around the world

have been analysed with

artificial intelligence

trained to pick out

patterns of neural activity

that differ between males and females.

Interesting. But why

are we looking at a cake?

The brain is made up of a

number of areas and regions,

much like the ingredients of a cake.

It's similar in the brain,

in that we can't identify

these individual components.

The important thing is how the

whole brain functions together.

Male and female brains are

structurally very similar,

but the team discovered differences

in the way they communicate.

Brains were given a score

for how typically male or female

their connection patterns are,

and plotted onto Get ready for it!

A brain-sex continuum.

You'd maybe expect the 10,000 brains

to neatly divide into two

groups according to their sex.

But what Dr Christelle

discovered was a surprise.

So in our study, what we

managed to show was that

approximately 25% mapped onto

the male end of a continuum,

and approximately 25% mapped onto

the female end of the continuum.

The really interesting

finding was that 50% of people

had what we call an androgynous brain,

and didn't show any of these

very stereotypical

male and female traits.

So the majority don't have brains

that are clearly male or female.

They're somewhere in between.

The brain, in terms

of sex, is a spectrum.

And that's not all.

We also showed that the 50%

that had the androgynous brain

actually had better mental health,

specifically internalising symptoms

such as depression and anxiety.

Both the female and male ends of

the spectrum had worse mental health.

The study showed people

with more androgynous brains

are happier and healthier.

All things, considered, I would

choose a slice from this cake.

It's dropping. Sorry!

I think it is way too

easily seen for most

as black and white, male and female.

It's so much more dynamic

and interesting and fascinating

than just what it is.

But it's so much more complicated

than just the simple

way that you're born.

The whole thing is so

archaic, in so many ways.

Okay, story so far:

Rather than being

strictly male or female,

our bodies and our minds

are more fluid and varied

than they ever thought possible.

A massive mix of circumstances

creates millions of unique people

with their own gender identity.

and that's generating

lots of revolutionary ideas

about who you can be in the world.

In Japan, there's a gender phenomenon

that's grown over the last 15 years.

Touch your tie.

Dansō: people assigned female at birth

working and often living as men.

I became dansō when I

was about 20 years old.

My identity is complete

when I am dressed as a man.

There are dansō boy-bands,

dansō bars and dansō heartthrobs.

But behind the showbiz glitz

of dansō as entertainment,

lies a really authentic way of life.

Meet Jin, who lives

as a dansō full-time.

Welcome.

I usually explain that I live

my daily life behaving as a man,

while acknowledging that I am female.

In the past, in Japanese society,

men should be like this,

and women should be like this.

I feel there's a lot of pressure.

I don't like it, I think it's wrong.

Like many dansō, Jin

works as an escort.

A strictly non-sexual one,

playing the perfect boyfriend.

Jin's got an escort date tonight.

- Ayaka?

- Yes.

Good evening. Nice to meet you. I'm Jin.

- Are you nervous?

- I am nervous.

It looks so good.

I'd love to hear what you've been up to.

I work in sales.

I think that most women have

a strong desire to be heard.

Cheers.

Because I was born female,

I know what a woman wants.

It certainly seems Jin knows

how to make a woman feel special.

But I'm curious to know

whether wearing masculine

clothing is enough for him.

There was a time

when I wondered if I was transgender.

There are parts of me that are female,

I can live as a dansō,

so I decided not to have surgery.

I am going to live with both the

inner part of me that is masculine,

and the feminine part of me,

That's what feels right to me.

I think it's a new form,

a new way of belonging.

I totally get why the dansō

want to live and dress like men.

So far, I've only expressed my more

masculine side through what I wear.

I've never quite worked out whether

I should go further than that.

I'm going on a date Wednesday night,

so what are we doing on Thursday?

Oh, my God, you'll never escape.

When I first started

learning about trans people,

I was like, "Wait, but I felt that,"

or "I went through

that when I was young,"

or "that's kind of crazy "

And then thinking, "Am I living a lie?"

"Is this this giant secret

that maybe I should be a man?"

And then like, but also, "No."

Alfie

I love him so much.

What would it be like

to have a man's body?

And is that me?

That's a tough question to answer.

There's someone in Spain

who can give me a taste

of what that might feel like.

This lushly-coiffed

cognitive neuroscientist,

Dr Marte Roel Lesur,

is the brains of a

cutting-edge laboratory

packed with very cool tech.

Welcome to the gender swap.

It's just so cool.

I'm very excited. Can we do it now?

Ready?

You can sit down here.

Here comes the curtain.

Say goodbye to yourselves.

Apparently, I'm going to swap bodies

with the guy sitting

opposite me, Carlos.

I don't know why, I'm a little scared.

My VR headset is not showing my body,

it's showing his, on me.

They have a camera in front so

they can see their full bodies.

What we do is swap the cameras.

The sensation is making me feel queasy.

But my head is actually starting

to get in sync with this male body.

My God, this is so weird.

Cara will see how we grab

his hand, and stroke it,

And at the same time, my

colleague is stroking Cara's hand.

It really feels like

I'm in the body of a man.

I've got man hands!

No way!

That is crazy, guys.

We open a curtain that is separating

the space between the two people,

and they face themselves

as another person.

This is your hand. This one, right here.

- No, so confusing.

- This one.

What?

I feel like I've become Carlos.

Dude, this is crazy.

Our self identity, the

way we perceive ourselves,

is very grounded on our bodies.

However, it is possible to shift this,

to feel that we are somebody

else, something else.

This tells us that

gender is much more fluid,

it's not as fixed as we once thought.

I'm so confused.

That's so weird.

The coolest thing in

the world oh, my God.

The experiment is short

but so intense and

completely mind-bending.

That was so crazy.

I knew it was going to be amazing

I just didn't understand

exactly how crazy that was.

- That was.

- Yeah, it's really a lot.

There is a moment when you lose

your perspective as your body,

and then you are fully into that body.

Once you're in it for

a while, it's like, wow,

you get so used to it.

How come I've got such muscly legs?

It's like, that's me but

then how to feel me?

You know? It's

But it was emotional at the end,

when you see yourself and hug yourself.

It's quite shocking, yes.

That really made me feel quite

sad, it was like, that's adorable.

That was just so scary,

and so interesting.

I don't know how much I liked

it, it was quite uncomfortable.

The feeling, the sensation

of touching someone,

that's when it became real,

otherwise it was "This

is cool, technology "

But when you touch

it was "I'm in a man's body!"

It was really quite crazy.

It made me happy to be

a woman, in so many ways.

It was like, I'm weird.

Because usually I but would

I want to look at my d*ck?

And it was like, not really.

It made me feel weird.

Trying to be a man, I realised

I was a lot more feminine in the

way that I move than I thought I was.

I am a she, right now.

But I also like dressing

as a man and being a him.

I could just be a woman that

wants to be a man sometimes.

I know I started this journey as

a slightly confused young woman,

not quite sure of my place in the world.

But this bizarre experience

is making me realise

that gender is way more interesting

and fluid than I ever imagined.

Maybe I don't have to

put a label on myself.

I'm in my home town, London!

I'm ending this journey where I started,

with the fabulous folk at

cabaret night Bar Wotever.

A very, very special haven where,

gender-wise, you can

literally be whatever you want.

Tell me what it's like.

I've never been here.

- I'm

- Your first time.

Bar Wotever is The name says it,

it's a night that we put on

where everything's welcome.

All you have to do is

walk through the door

and there is a room, a whole

community of people right there.

- It's so incredible.

- That's so cool.

How do you What are your pronouns?

They, them, she, her.

He, him, they, them.

They, them.

She, her, she-daddy.

She-daddy, I like that.

I feel it's going to make a

lot of people happy when they

I like that.

There's no pressure, everything

should be allowed to be fluid.

You can try pronouns,

try different names,

different expressions.

There's just so much freedom within it.

Especially at a night like

this, it's just freedom.

It's liberating to now

feel able to talk about

this tricky subject that I

used to just run away from.

This is the place to see,

both on and off stage,

just how diverse gender can be.

Ladies, gentlemen, and

those of us smart enough

to transcend a gender.

Come on, it's time for the world

to open up its arms to gender

in all of its fantastic forms.

People need to have

conversations about gender,

no matter where you're

from, how old you are.

So let's talk about it.

Now I feel like I dance between

the lines, I sway back and forward.

Whether it's masculine or

feminine, it's just who I am.

I'm a loose willow tree,

blowing in the wind of gender.

I don't think there are actually

words to express how freeing,

and how "right" I feel in myself now.

I've realised that

gender has no signifier

on how you look, how you talk,

what you do with your life.

I don't think it should matter at all,

people should just be people.

despite what their gender is, or isn't,

I hope that in the future,

we can all exist in

the same space together.

And every single gender

expression is completely valid.

I'm just living off this q*eer energy.

It's a beautiful place.

I've never really been out and

seen this community in this way.

It's a lot of emotion, a lot

of support, a lot of love.

People can feel very weighed down

by a conversation about gender.

But it is fun, it should be

fun, it should be an experience,

an experiment, a way of expressing

yourself and playing with it.

Can I go back in?

Okay, here I go, I'm going

Planet Sex, yeah!