01x02 - Episode 2

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We are completely in love but it
doesn't mean you can't screw around.

British couples are increasingly
questioning monogamy...

The biggest contraceptive known to
man is wedding cake.

..but is it possible to open up your
relationship without harming it?

It's a complete mystery, the whole
thing.

This is it. We don't know what to
expect.

These curious couples are about to
find out.

Oh, that is gorgeous.

They're travelling to a unique
retreat...

Hello. You all right?

..where, with the help of a
specialist relationship therapist...

Life is short. Why limit sex to just
one person?

..and a group of single, available
and sexually liberated residents...

It's just natural to have sex with
multiple people.

..they're about to discover if their
sexual fantasies...

Oh, jeez!

..can become a reality...

We like the idea of group sex. Ah.

We were just wondered if you'd like
to spend the night with us?

..and whether or not they'll be able
to break

one of societies greatest taboos...

Argh!

I should've been thinking about the
man

that I love and how he was feeling.

..and have sex with other people.

Oh, my God.

Wow, I was not expecting that.

Wow.

This is the most out of my comfort
zone I've ever been.

Already staying at the retreat

are married couple Jon and Danielle
from Bolton.

Are you ready for this?

Yes. Love you so much.

They were sent on separate socials
by Dr Lori...

Oh, thank you. Cheers for that.

I haven't gone out and met guys
separately for like 17 years.

Are you not sh1tting your pants?
Yes.

..to test their ability to be
intimate with other people.

How are you feeling?

Nervous.

New arrivals en route to the retreat
today

are married couple Jess and Mike,
from Essex.

We met at the gym.

I was Mike's stalker.

From the get-go, like, from our spin
classes...

We'd just be grinning like Cheshire
Cats at each other.

..our eyes would be locked at each
other

and the smile would just be, like,
endless.

The couple have been together for
almost ten years

and were married in 2018.

I pretty much forced Mike into
marrying me.

Yeah. Every time someone got
engaged, I was like,

"They've not been together as long
as us.

"Like, why are you not putting
a ring on it?"

Jess and Mike have two kids and a
happy home life...

CAMERAMAN: So, who wears the
trousers?

Me. I wear the trousers.

Jess doesn't wear the trousers.

It's a shared role.

..and their love life still hasn't
lost its spark.

We pretty much have sex...

..I'd say five days a week, every
week.

There's not really anything that we
haven't tried yet.

Apart from your bum.

Yeah, there's a reason why we're not
trying that.

It can stay an exit.

After nearly a decade of monogamy,

this married couple is looking to
open up their relationship,

starting with a threesome.

We're open to opening up sexually.

I think the best-case scenario is
that we come out of this happy.

Yeah.

Hey, guys. Hey. Nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you, too.

I think I just feel nervous.

How's it going, guys? You all right?

Everything's so new.

We've never done anything like this.

Excited for it, to be honest.

Hey, all right? Hi, guys.

Hi, guys.

Ready to help the couple see

if opening up their relationship is
right for them

is sex and intimacy expert, Dr Lori.

Consensual non-monogamy, including
having sex with other people,

with your partner's permission, can
be incredible.

But opening up your relationship
can be fraught with challenges.

Especially, if you have kids, it can
feel really risky.

So, it's my job to help couples
figure out

if opening up their relationships is
right for them.

Hey, how are you doing? You all
right? I'm good thanks.

So, what brings you here?

What is it that you are hoping to
accomplish?

So, we've always been interested in
a threesome,

so bringing a woman in.

We've always had that fantasy, so...

Yeah, it's just taking that next
step to see how we feel.

To actually do it.

Are you bisexual? I'd say like, I'm
bi-curious.

OK. I'd say I was straight.

What do you guys do for work?

Webcamming.

We had a really bad work-life
balance.

I was running an events company and
Jess was doing make-up,

so we'd pass like ships in the
night.

And then, we started talking about
webcamming.

Our popularity grew so much that
the money we were earning

was way better than we were earning
as doing these businesses.

When we have sex on camera...

We have only ever worked with each
other,

we only ever sleep with each other.

And this is something that we want
to explore

just within our relationship. It's
not about work.

What are your biggest fears?

I think my biggest fear is ruining
what we have.

You know, we've been together nine
years,

we've been married for four years.

We've got kids. We've got a life.

Yes. And to lose that would be my
worst nightmare.

Losing trust happens,

when you've gone behind somebody's
back and you've lied.

Yeah.

So, I can easily see if you went off
with somebody,

where she didn't consent, that could
be a big deal, right?

Cos there's a trust-loss there.

So, today, you're going to have a
social together.

There will be time to get to know
people.

If getting one-on-one time goes
well,

you can take them and invite them
back to your room

and just go as far as you want to
go.

Sounds good. Yeah.

OK, so, have a wonderful time.

Thank you. Thank you very much.
My pleasure. Thank you.

Even for a couple like Jess and
Mike,

who are sexually really compatible
and well-versed

and whose communication around sex
is excellent,

the move from monogamy to
non-monogamy is quite challenging.

They're going to need to learn how
to deal with their emotions

in a different way.

So, what are you like...

..thinking now about tonight?

I don't know, really. Just...

I think overthinking is the worst
thing to do. Yeah.

Dr Lori definitely makes me feel...

..a lot more comfortable in the
experience.

I would say the stakes are pretty
high.

Is it weird that we're like, "This
is our relationship"?

Yeah, so weird.

This experiment could really change
the dynamic of our relationship

and make it a lot more stronger.

But then, the worst case scenario
for me would be that

he didn't find me attractive
any more

and he wanted to pursue something
with someone else.

It could happen.

Initial thoughts?

I reckon they'll want a girl.

A girl? Yeah. Yeah.

I don't think he's a... He's a
sharer?

He's going to share her. No, I
wouldn't share her, to be fair.

She's stunning. Yeah, she's got good
t*tties, too.

Is that the first thing you noticed?

Yeah, her boobs were just like
bouncing nicely.

I was like, "Girl, bring it in."
I was looking at her smile, first.

Is that it? Is it on? That is it.
OK.

Oh, no.

I can't wear that, can I?

Upstairs, Jess and Mike are minutes
away from their social,

where they hope to meet someone to
invite back

for their first-ever threesome.

I think the more I think about it,
the more nervous it makes me.

This is a completely new experience
for both of us.

This one. Yeah, I love that.

It's exciting. The only word I have
for it is exciting.

The social is hosted by open
relationship veteran, Jess.

Oh, my God, you both look amazing.

Thank you very much.

The best thing about being in an
open relationship is the freedom.

The freedom to be yourself,

to experience the different
relationships that happen

without any worry that I'm going to
cause pain

to the people that I love.

The party is jam-packed

with the retreat's sexually
liberated residents.

Follow me.

Marriage and monogamy and everything

is just like a bunch of social
norms.

All the rest of the animals in the
world,

they don't stick to one partner for
life,

so they just shag all around them.

So, yeah, I don't think humans
should be any different.

I'm a woman that knows what she
wants.

And I've been very, very interested
in having a relationship

with a couple, who have an open
relationship.

You scared me, right now. Hiya.

How are you doing? You all right?

Good. How are you? Yeah, good
thanks.

Your eyes are amazing.

I don't know why I didn't see them
before, but I was like...

Sort of like, "Don't look at her."

I went upstairs, I was like, "I
couldn't stop looking her boobs."

Oh, when I was wearing the leathers?

Yeah, cos you had like the smiley
face things over it.

I was like, "When life gives you
lemons."

Literally. And then, I was like,

"Oh, I want to look like disco ball,
now."

If you were to have a threesome with
a girl,

would you be comfortable with you
sleeping with them?

I feel like I could sit and watch.
Yeah? Oh, really?

So, you would be OK with him having
intercourse with another woman

and you sitting there just having
some strawberries?

Strawberries? I mean, she's got to
have something, right?

Don't forget the cream, though.

Strawberries and champagne. Like,
literally, would you?

Honestly? I feel like I would. Wow.

Cheers to you, girl. That's nice.

Yeah, I think the thing is...

Bisexual Precious from London is
keen to get to know

what turns the couple on in the
bedroom.

I mean would it ever get you to
cl*max in any way,

if you was really, like, you know,
turned on... What, just rubbing?

..by three women touching you?

Would like a blindfold would be
good, maybe some toys?

Oh, definitely, all that stuff goes
a long way, doesn't it?

It makes it better.

Precious definitely catches my eye.

I do like confidence and she oozes
it.

Precious caught my eye and we did
pick up a vibe with Precious.

Hi, guys. Hi!

The residents have organised an
erotic game.

OK, so, now, Jess, you have to pick
who you want to kiss.

It's always been just me and Jess.

It's never been with anybody else.

Because it's something new to us...

..it's just nerve-racking.

SHE TALKS WITH MOUTH FULL

ALL: Woo!

I definitely feel attracted to
Precious.

The soft touch of a woman is
completely different

to kissing a man.

I feel like me and Jess have a good
vibe.

Whoa!

There's so much chemistry there.

Are you ready? Oh, OK, yeah. Yeah,
ready.

Oh! Oh, statement!

Woo.

Woo, woo, woo!

Watching Mike kiss...

..another girl, my heart, like,
raced a tiny bit.

Like, when it first happened, I
thought,

"Oh, my God. Like, this is real."

They're still going!

We both enjoyed the kissing game

and we both know we would want to
take that further.

Game over,

Jess and Mike have decided to ask
Precious back to their room.

Precious. Yeah.

We was wondering whether you'd like
to spend the night with us? Yeah.

Yeah? Of course. Come on, I would
love it.

We had such chemistry

but it doesn't mean that they're
naturally going to be open

to having somebody else step into
their relationship

and the fact they've never had
threesomes, that's a bit concerning.

It feels exciting that we're about
to dip our toe

into consensual non-monogamy.

We've spoken about it for so long

and we're now literally at that
doorstep.

Given what we've experienced so far,
I'm thinking it's going to be good.

At a luxury retreat nestled in the
English countryside,

a remarkable experiment is taking
place.

What would you say your
weirdest/naughtiest fantasy is?

I could be in a plane and I want the
flight attendant to come and get me

and go into the toilet.

Tell you what, though, go and have
sex in a steam room. That will...

Oh, I've had sex in a sauna. sh*t!

Sexually curious men and women are
here to challenge

one of society's longest-standing
institutions - monogamy.

The idea that the only appropriate
way to have a relationship

is a monogamous one is outdated.

Monogamy works for some people in
some relationships

but you can only know that that is
the right choice for you,

if you're aware of all the other
things that are out there,

so you can make a clear, informed
choice.

You guys look amazing.

Married parents Jon and Danielle are
on separate socials

to explore how they cope with

their partner spending time with the
opposite sex.

You and your wife came for...?

Generally, we like the idea of group
sex.

Ah.

Although the couple wanted Dr Lori's
help to open their relationship,

starting with an orgy, she became
concerned over their past affairs.

I has a... I cheated like ten years
ago.

I was very angry.

I didn't fully recover, until I had
an affair more recently.

It is so much harder to open a
relationship up,

when there's been an affair...

..because the trust is broken.

I never really went out on dates.
It was always friends.

Tonight, Dr Lori wants them each to
pick

a different resident from the
retreat

but she's imposed a no sex rule

to help the couple establish
guidelines for the evening ahead.

We've got a nice sex swing on the
door. Harness.

What is the...how does the sex
swing work?

Hands up, legs up like that, fully
exposed, fully opened up.

Interesting.

I've got to tear you away for a
second. Right.

I didn't know if you were joking
or not then.

I don't know why I've got
to take you away.

Danielle is getting closer to Lewis
from Blackburn.

I don't know. Recently, I just like
experiencing life.

That's my thing right now.

Yeah, that's exactly my motto.

I just want to do every single thing
I can, before I die.

It was really nice talking to Lewis.

I think it's quite nice talking to
people one-on-one,

cos in a group situation, it's a
completely different dynamic

to having that little private
conversation,

which is nice to have and get to
know people a bit better.

Jess from Belfast has caught Jon's
eye.

Do you played poker? No, I actually
don't know how to play poker. No.

Do you not? No. I'll teach you.
Have you ever played strip poker?

I've played strip poker. Yeah.

I've played all kinds of poker.

She is an absolutely stunning lady.

The Irish accent just kind of came
through

and looked like she was my kind
of girl.

And as the party slows,

Jon and Danielle have invited their
new acquaintances

for some one-on-one time.

I am looking forward to spending
time with Danielle.

She's a cool girl, I swear. She's a
really nice girl.

So, yeah, I'm looking forward to
actually getting to know her a bit
more,

in a bit more detail as well.

Ladies first.

Thank you.

That is quite nice.

Jon's really friendly. He's a
good-looking guy

and I think he's quite sure of
himself as well,

so it's nice that he came in with
confidence.

And, yeah, he just really shone
tonight, yeah.

These dates are crucial to Dr Lori's
plan...

Thank you very much. No worries.

Mate. Smashing the place up.

..to test if the couple can cope

with the idea of their partner
having pleasure with someone else.

I'm really hoping Jon's not jealous.

I just keep thinking, "I hope he's
OK."

I hope it's going well for him. I
hope he's having a good time.

There we go. We've arrived.

I'll be worrying about Danielle and
what she's doing and...

..all the demons that will be in my
head about that whole situation.

I've got to have a little bit of
faith in her.

You can't be a size eight with D
breasts. No, I know.

Jess and Mike have invited business
owner Precious

to join them for a threesome.

I have to say this is a f*cking good
evening, I'm not going to lie.

Oh, cheers.

f*cking great.

He's so excited. Look at his little
face.

The married couple have only slept
with each other

for the nine years they've been
together.

So, what do you...?

PRECIOUS AND JESS LAUGH

Seeing Jess with another woman...

..was really arousing for me and it
being my wife,

who I love more than anything ever,

was just a really good feeling.

MOANING

My first experience with a woman,

I'm thinking, "What is this? What am
I doing?"

Yeah, it was really good. It was
amazing.

That was amazing.

Tap, tap.

He's like, "Yeah, yeah!"

Now that the girls have pleasured
each other orally,

Mike takes the lead with Precious.

I've never had a threesome before.

It's always something I've
fantasised about.

But seeing them passionately kissing
made my heart drop a little bit.

I had a slight worry that maybe he
would end up...

Yeah, like, shifting more to her
way.

That little worry that he'd find her
more attractive than me.

You just don't know how you're going
to feel in that moment,

until you're...you're there in it.

Back in their private yurts...

I love sex and I want to have sex as
much as I can,

before I'm f*cking too old to
f*cking have as much sex as I want.

Count me in. I am there.

..Jon and Danielle's separate dates
are in full swing.

Dr Lori said, "You can't have full
sex."

So, you are saying, if I've had sex
with a girl,

I've not had sex with that girl
because I've not got a d*ck

and I'm not bent? Do you know what
I mean?

At what point is it sex sex, then?

Yeah, well, actually, I need someone
to clarify this for me because...

If you have sex with girls, can you
give me a call?

I am 100%.... I really want to...

I want to have sex with lots of
girls.

As a trust exercise, Dr Lori has
imposed a strict no-sex rule.

It is definitely a hard challenge
that she's set us, tonight.

Sex isn't on the cards, but then,
she said everything up to sex.

So, I don't actually know where my
head's at with it all,

to be honest. Sorry. Um...

Yeah, I don't know.

Dr Lori is keen for Jon to focus on
his date and not his wife,

which is easier said than done.

So, we unfortunately had an affair.

Was that like a hard time for you
guys?

How did that even happen? Was it the
same time or...?

No. Danielle's was about...

..ten years ago. Yeah. About two
months after we got married.

Two months? Yeah. That's quick.

To be honest with you, when we went
back to the yurt,

I was thinking about what they were
up to and what they were doing.

But I knew I just need to try and
get out it of my head

and not think about it.

Cos I think if I think about it,
then it's all going to be a loss.

After we decided to stay together,
then I thought I wish I didn't know.

He's a really gentle soul.

But he talked about their
relationships a bit

and I could tell that he was kind
of nervous or on edge

about what she might be getting up
to right now.

With Jon's focus firmly on his wife,
the pair decide to call it a night.

Well, goodnight. Nice to spend some
time with you.

It's been a lovely evening.

Thank you. See you soon. I will see
you soon. Bye. Bye for now.

Jess is a lovely girl. We had a nice
chat

but I think it's the same
anticipation

that I always have when I've not
been with Danielle.

But I hope I don't go back to the
room on my own

and don't see her again until
tomorrow.

On Danielle's date...

I just wanted to kiss you because,
like, you were kissing all the boys

and I was like, "No, I want to kiss
you separate", so it's different.

I thought you were really holding on
to that card

like you didn't want to.

..things are heating up.

I am really hoping Jon's OK

but I'm just hoping when he gets
back later that he's OK

and it's not all been a front, and
then, breakdown afterwards.

I want a kiss, now. Oh, do you? Will
you do it?

I'll kiss you. You have to come
here, though.

I'll jump over the table.

Urgh! We are allowed to kiss.

You're just not allowed to turn me
on.

Urgh. Stop it. You stop it.

So, it is going to go one of two
ways.

It's 50/50 at this point but I
can't...I can't call it.

Urgh! f*cking hell, I'm going to be
having words with this doctor

in the morning, I tell you.

I feel like Jon's definitely
expecting me to do stuff,

because obviously, we both know that
we both like sex

and we both like other people.

Argh! Sorry.

You're not sorry. You're f*cking
loving it.

So, I feel like he's going to be
expecting me to do stuff already,

so I don't know.

I feel like I don't want to let him
down,

but then, I also don't want to...

I don't know.

Argh! You're pushing it.

Married couple Jon and Danielle went
on separate romantic dates

with people outside of their
relationship,

for the first time in nearly 20
years.

Dr Lori wanted to assess

whether the couple were ready to be
with other people,

following their past affairs.

My mind's awash at this moment in
time...

..with nerves, anticipation, stress.

Everything, really.

I don't know, if I'll be spending
the night on my own.

You OK?

All right.

We just sat and talked. Did you?

Night. There you are.

f*cking hell. I'm so pissed off, I
can't even tell you.

Why, though?

I am not bothered about talking
about it.

I don't see what there is to talk
about.

So, why are you closing yourself off
from me? I am not.

I'm just trying to think about the
whole thing.

I'm just not feeling it.

It's the morning after Mike watched
his wife Jess have oral sex

with another woman for the first
time.

All right? See you in a bit, yeah?
Yeah, see you in a bit.

Take care, see you in a bit.

But for Jess,

the couple's first attempt at a
threesome wasn't plain sailing.

I can tell...I can tell there's
something on your mind.

Do you?

It's more me feeling like I'm not
good enough.

I want to be comfortable with this.

Like, I want to battle... Like, I do
want to...

I enjoyed it, so I want to battle
through my emotions but...

Say it however it comes to your
head.

Emotions are difficult to...to
process, like,

so that becomes hard to...to deal
with.

I thought that I'd enjoy it.

I woke up this morning and my
belly's just all over the place.

There was a moment, when they were
kissing.

Like, I don't think I've ever felt
that rush of fear.

Like, thinking, "Oh, actually..."

Like, you know, when you tighten up
inside?

I feel that I'm not good enough.

I feel like you're more excited
about her than me.

I've been trying to complement
you

and tell you that, you know, you are
worth more than everything.

I saw you, last night, do it to her
more than you've ever done it to me.

More than I've ever done it to you?

Yeah. We've been together for nine
years. You're telling me...

I don't need to be dug into when I'm
not feeling emotionally

completely stable at this present
time.

Do you think it's going to make me
feel better, you shouting at me?

No. No. No, exactly. But I'm
asking you...

You won't understand, though.

And you don't try and understand.

OK, but if you don't tell, me how
can I understand?

Ready to help the couple tackle any
issues

from the night before is Dr Lori.

So, how did last night go?

I had a moment, where...

..he was kissing her and it felt
like it sort of prolonged

like a little bit further than...

And then, I was sort of was like,
"Oh, OK." Like...

"Maybe they're more into each other
than me."

OK.

Was it a feeling of insecurity?

I think fear. Fear? Yeah.

Once it finished, I literally
couldn't sleep.

I literally was like, "Whoa."

My adrenaline was like running.

And then, I started thinking, "What
if I go to sleep and it carries on?"

And how likely do you really think
that would be?

I think it's more of a "me" issue.
Like, more of a...

That I'm...that I'm not good...

That he fancied her more. Like, that
her...

So, I'm not good enough. Yeah.

He's going to realise I'm not good
enough? Yeah.

Have you ever felt like that before?

I think I'm going to cry.

That's OK. It's allowed.

Yeah, I think previous
relationships.

Ah, OK.

And have you had a situation in
previous relationships,

where they chose somebody else?

Yeah.

But I really don't want that to,
like, hold me back.

It doesn't have to.

You'll have to allow yourself the
emotion...

Yeah.

..and recognise that what happened
was you were triggered.

And suddenly, you didn't trust
anybody in the room.

Yeah, it was hard. It was...

Yeah, it just took my, sort of,
breath away.

And yet...

..you recognised it was a response
that didn't belong in the room.

Yeah, cos I know that he's not that
man.

I know that's not the case. Right.

And just for that moment, it just
triggered it.

It was a really volatile
relationship

and I just wanted a good man.

Like, I knew, when I came out of
that relationship,

that I wanted to be with someone who
treated me nice

and I didn't want to go back.

So, how is that situation...

..and that relationship different
from this one?

He was untrustworthy.