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03x07 - Don't Push Me

Episode transcripts for the TV show, "90 Day Fiancé". Aired: January 12, 2014 – present.*
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Show is based on the K-1 visa process.

03x07 - Don't Push Me

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I think he'd be
a great underwear model.

Just give me your best.

I think that was
a big commitment,

for you to come
to the United States

and you're the right person
for Josh.

You have 61 days

to make sure that you're making
the right decision.

They know about noon?

I haven't dropped
that b*mb on 'em.

The visa is taking a little
longer than I expected.

If there's something going
on that just doesn't feel right,

I'm not tolerating it at all.

He's going back to Jamaica.

Had you ever heard
of mormons before?

I'm hoping, since
my dad's not around,

she'll be able to talk
to me more.

So how are things going?

Um...

After waiting a year,
I got the text from Carolina.

Going back and forth to Jamaica
and paying for the wedding,

there's nothing in the
bank account right now.

Hmm.

You know, I left everything
to be with you,

but don't push me

into something
I don't want to do.

mark and I have been arguing
because he wants me to decide

whether I want kids
before the 90 days are over.

You have to figure out
what you have in common.

I am somewhat Filipino.

There we go.

- Hi!
- Hello! How are you?

Oh, doing great.
How are you?

I'm pretty good.

Oh, school's good.

It's always good.

We can go look at some
shops, if you want.

Yeah, we can.
- Okay.

I'm a little shocked
that Nikki wanted to hang out,

but I'm actually hoping that,
since my dad's not around,

I'll be able to see like
who she is

and she'll be able
to talk to me more.

¶¶

I do miss my friends
back in Philippines, but...

Oh, hi.
- Hello.

Yeah, that seems like perfect
for a beach wedding.

¶ Da da da da da ¶

this dress is really,
really gorgeous.

Are you having a beach wedding?

They're not quite sure yet.

We're still on process.

Oh, that's nice.
What do you like about him?

She's marrying my dad.
- I'm marrying her dad, I mean.

Sorry.
- I mean, he is weird, yeah.

Wow. Okay.

If someone sees us,
they're like "oh,

they must just be
really good friends,"

or they might even think
we're sisters.

But I don't think
anyone like thinks

that she's gonna be
my stepmother.

Future stepmom here.

Well, not a sister.

A cool friend.
- Yeah.

My first time with Nikki,
I finally got to, you know,

get to know her because,
when she's around my dad,

she doesn't actually talk.

Oh, thank you so much.

Thank you!
- You're welcome.

Thank you, ladies,
for stoppin' in.

So, how are things
going with my dad?

Um...

There's been stress

and I think he's been upset

because of the "baby" topic.

Oh, yeah.

You need to really develop
your guys' relationship

as yourselves before you
add in, you know, a baby.

One day, we didn't talk,

no communication,
just give him space.

Already?

A whole day?
Oh, my goodness.

But, today, we did talk.

Her and my dad are actually,
like not really

on the best of terms
that they should be.

I feel like,
no matter how he feels,

like he just needs to make
her feel like she's loved

and, you know,
happy that she actually

flew all the way over here
to be with him.

Because, if it's gonna be like
this after the 90 days,

if I was in their situation,
I wouldn't want to be with him.

¶¶

When I started
the k-1 visa process,

I thought it was going
to be a short process,

but it's taken a lot longer
than we expected

and Carolina's very anxious.

The visa's gonna get
approved soon

and maybe we're just
gonna be apart a month.

After waiting a year,

I got the text that I've been
waiting for from Carolina.

It's like the most exciting news

I've gotten all year,
and maybe in my entire life.

- Hola, amor.
- Hola, amor.


I'm super excited.

Babe, I'm so happy
that you got approved.

Carolina's actually been
approved for the visa.

It's so exciting.

- Finally.
- Finally.

I got goosebumps, everything.

Every emotion, every thrill
that you can have.

Nervous.

- Yeah, nervous.
- Nervous.


All that matters is
that we're together

and we're happy.

I love you.

I love you, too, baby.

Once Carolina gets to the
states, we are on the clock.

Bye.
We have 90 days to get married.

This is it.
This is definitely happening.

It's crazy.

You wanna take one?


me and my mom were close

and some things changed with her

and I haven't even
spoken with her.

I don't know what happened.

¶¶

It smells really good.

There's orange juice and milk.

And my parents are arriving
to America today.

We'll put your dad and mother
downstairs where you are.

We'll need to probably
lay out some towels

and a few things
for them before they come.

Cows?

Towels.

Ah, towels.
- Towels.

¶¶

I miss my parents so much,
so I'm so excited to see them.

So, when they get off the plane,

how do you say
"welcome to America"?

Boom.

No practice needed.

You wanna take one?

I know how much aleksandra
loves her parents,

and so, gonna be amazing
for them to be reunited.

Whoo!

¶¶

It's so beautiful.

It hasn't been easy for noon
to adjust to living in America.

I want to make noon more happy
and feel more comfortable here.

Noon is a very devout Buddhist
and I've actually managed

to find a thai Buddhist
temple in new Orleans

that, hopefully,
we can have our wedding at.

Everything.

Oh, I know, baby.

Excited.
- I see.

Put the flower
in there and light it

and it floats?
- Yeah, yeah.

So beautiful.

Bye-bye.
- Bye-bye.

I'm sad, but...

So.

I want to see.

So sweet.

Mmm.

When you...

my parents and I

are not very close and

it's a hard subject for me
to talk about, so, I don't.

I haven't seen my mom
in like 10 years.

Same with my dad,
I haven't seen him

in maybe 5 or 6 years now.


me and mom were close.

Mm-hmm.

And some things changed with her

and we just didn't
stay close anymore.

I haven't even spoken with her,

like on the phone or anything.

I feel bad about Kyle did not
talk to him mom for a long time.

I don't know what happened.

It's been a long time.

Yeah.

The truth is
my mom has a problem

and it's not a comfortable
subject to address,

so I haven't brought it up
to noon yet.

We're under a lot of pressure
right now.

We have to get married
in 90 days

and I don't want to add
any extra stress to her life.

Yeah.

I got some balloons.

My mom hasn't always been
thrilled about

my relationship with Carolina.

She's always thought
that she was too young.

It's gonna be like
a child's birthday party.

Don't push me into something
I don't want to do.

¶¶

I can't believe we're
getting married so soon.

I feel like, ever
since you got here,

it just like flew by, right?

Mm-hmm.

And now we have forever.

My goodness.

Moving to America was a really
big adjustment for alexei.

And I appreciate it
and I want him to find something

that he's really
passionate about,

but, I really think that
that could be modeling.

Ugh, now we're talking!

This is weird.

Give me your best.

Loren is coaching me like
"do this, do that."

And I don't think
I'm good at it.

I don't know what to do anymore.

I know loren's
intentions are good,

she's trying
to help with everything...

But pushing me and more
and more to model

is not going
to be good for us 'cause

that's not something
I want to do.

I think that you're
a perfect model.

Mm...

Not as a full-time job,
but something on the side.

It's definitely something
you should really do.

You just need to want it
and I think...

but I don't.

But why?

Because I don't.
You saw me there.

I didn't enjoy it.
It was weird.

But it was your first time.
- So?

Second time will be good?
No. It's just weird.

You don't know. You have to
get comfortable with it.

It's like driving.

The first time, you're
nervous and it's scary

and then, you do it
again and again and again

and you learn to do it.

It just felt weird, not right.

It's not something
that I want to do.

You know, I came here
and left everything

'cause I want to be with you,

so, at least, eh,
you know, don't push me

into something
I don't want to do.

I see now that alexei really
isn't into modeling.

His heart's just not in it

and, if he's not passionate
about it, then, to me,

it's just not worth
causing a fight over.

It makes you that unhappy,

then I'm not gonna
push the issue anymore.

I want you to be happy.

I'm not gonna nag you about it.

Okay.

He came all the way from Israel
to be with me.

I don't want him to be miserable

'cause, if he's miserable,
then I'm miserable.

I think we should just focus
on getting married,

spending our lives
together, being happy,

and finding jobs for him
that he wants to do

and can really excel in that.

"Raluh raluh raluh."

Relationships are not easy
to make work, in general,

and, in our case,
I wish we had more time,

but, hopefully, everything
will be good and work out.

Love you.

Love you too.

Mm-hmm.

It's so exciting.

Carolina's actually gonna be
here tomorrow.

Look what I bought.

So, my parents and I are getting
the house ready for her arrival.

I got some balloons.

She like balloons.

My mom hasn't always
been thrilled

about my relationship
with Carolina.

She's always thought
that she was too young,

but, hopefully, they get along.

What are all these
flowers doing?

I don't think she likes flowers.

I don't think so.

I think she doesn't.

Carolina has a really
strong personality,

so I wouldn't be surprised if
she had disagreements with mom,

because my mom will just...

she's outspoken,
she's opinionated.

I think she's well aware
that Carolina's gonna

take run of the house.

So, what are you gonna put?

"Welcome to..."

"Welcome home".
- "Miami"?

No!
- No?

Just "welcome home", simple.

Which home?

Which home you think this is
we're welcoming her?

She's not gonna look you?
She's not gonna like you?

She probably will say
that you're a crazy lady,

but it doesn't matter.

She's not used to fighting.

That you like to argue
and fight and scream.

I... I.

I doubt that you're
gonna disappear.

You know,
it's gonna be interesting

that I meet her tomorrow.

I don't know what I'm gonna say.

I don't know.

Simple.

Let's try that on.
- Yeah, that's nice.

Going to look
for a wedding dress.

At this point,
I have no savings,

so we're gonna be a little bit
on the inexpensive side,

I'm hoping.
It's too much.

Nikki and I want to get away for
a couple days, just to relax.

You're supposed
to smile more, Nikki.

My goodness.

¶¶

How are you feeling?
- Good, how are you feeling?

It's so freaking hot.

This isn't hot,
compared to Jamaica.

You're sitting here,
saying that,

once you start making
money, that you're gonna

send money back regularly
to your sisters.

If they call me one day
and said,

if I can give them
some cash, I will do it.

Okay. God.

So,

since the wedding coming up,

it's been pretty stressful.

Yeah. It's the wedding.
It's the job.

It's the money.

It's a little bit overwhelming,

knowing that we only
have 90 days to plan a wedding

and it's very, very exciting,

but at the same time,
I'm very anxious about money,

'cause I have to pay
for everything.

The cost of the reception's
probably gonna be

about $1,600.

Flowers, $400.

Mm-hmm.

Who knows how much
the bar bill's gonna be?

Oh, god.

Dress.

Between going back
and forth to Jamaica

and paying for the wedding,

there's nothing in the
bank account right now.

Hmm.

We still have a lot of things

to talk about, regarding
finances in the future.

But, today, I'm gonna look
for a wedding dress

with three of my friends
and my mom.

Hi.
- How are you?

Are you the bride?
- I am.

Lots of gowns to show you.

So, what month is your wedding?
- It's next month.

It feels really good
to be looking,

but at the same token,
it's very stressful.

At this point,
I have no savings,

so we're gonna be a little bit
on the inexpensive side,

I'm hoping.
- Mel, what about this one?

You're looking at about $2,400.

It's too much.

Look at this one.
These are much more like

I think what you're looking for.

Simple. I like that.
Let's try that on.

Yeah, that's nice.

All three of us were all on the
same trip when Mel met devar.

Who would've thought,
at that moment,

that it was gonna turn
into this?

I don't think any
of us thought that

it would turn into a wedding.
- It's almost surreal.

I'm coming out.
- Okay.

Come on, cinderella.

Oh, wow!

Beautiful.

It's long in the back.

It's poufy.

I look like a Barbie doll.

Too bad I wasn't as thin
as a Barbie doll.

Okay, could we do
the next one now?

Sara's like "I don't like it."
- No.

I don't like it.
- Yeah, it's too simple.

Yeah. It's too big.

I think if it fit me
a little bit better.

Yeah.
You need the "wow" look.

One more. One more.

Oh, wow-ow-ow!

I like that.

Oh! I like that.

Stand on the pedestal, hon.

Jump on up there.

Give us a twirl.
- Okay.

Wow.

Beautiful!

She's very pretty.
Very, very beautiful.

Don't you feel
like you're gonna cry?

She looks really beautiful.

So pretty.
- Oh, my god.

You're gonna make me cry.
- Aw.

I was relieved
that I found a wedding dress

because it was one thing less
that I have to worry about,

but I had to make sure there
was enough money in the budget.

Yeah, I like that.
It's very simple.

Yeah, it's very.
Looks pretty.

Bend down just a hair.
- I'm hoping that devar's happy

when he sees me
in my wedding dress.

I love him with all of my heart.

I want to marry him,
and I want to make him as happy

as I possibly can.

But for me to say that
this is going to last

for the next 70 years,
to infinity,

the reality of it is,

you've no idea
what the future's gonna hold.

¶¶

Nikki, now, has been here
for over a month

and we have issues
and so Nikki and I want

to get away to ocean city
for a couple days, just to relax

and kick back and, you know,
have a fresh start.

Let me put the bag in here.

I want mark
to make me feel special.

Off we go.

I do feel that this small
vacation will be an opportunity

for us to reconnect
on many, many levels.

What is ocean city like?

Well, my ex-wife and I
used to get to ocean city

maybe four or five times
during the summer.

It was always a getaway.

We enjoyed it.

I remember when I was in Hawaii.

I told you there was a woman,

a beautiful Hawaiian woman.

I was young.

No, it was kind of fun.

And I rode the wave,
which was fun.

Well.

She was.
She looked like you.

Oh, look at that.

That's the day
I met my ex-wife.

I had bought the same car
for my ex-wife.

I'll try to control my emotion.

Well, and my ex-wife
also said that.

You're supposed
to smile more, Nikki.

My goodness.

Oh, are you?

You ready to get
in the water, Nikki?

You saw the beach
in the Philippines, right?

It's not like this. It's
not like a lot of people.

No, no, we had the beach
to ourselves.

You ready to get
in the water, Nikki?

You ready to get in the water?

Today, I don't know,
Nikki was a little bummed out.

Why is she frustrated?

It's a hard read for me.

She's processing it
and then, she'll talk about it

and then, we can talk about
exactly what the problem is.

So, dinner?

Yeah, sure.

I'm feeling
a little nervous right now.

I don't know what kind
of reaction she's gonna have.

Had you ever heard
of mormons before?

¶¶

Today, I'm picking up
Carolina at the airport.

God, it's been such a long wait.

It's been so tough.

It's just crazy that she
should be here any minute now.

Carolina's never been
to America before,

but I really hope she likes it.

She's landed.

I'm feeling a little
nervous right now.

I don't know what kind of
reaction she's gonna have.

If she's gonna be a total mess
or if she's gonna be ecstatic.

There she is.

¶¶

When I arrived in America,

I see Fernando

oh, my god. I want to cry.

In love.

- ¶ Light up the sky ¶

come on.

¶¶

You see how green it is?

It's very beautiful.

Very beautiful.

Look at this, Miami's Metro.

We're gonna ride
the Miami Metro.

Today, you meet my brother,

my mother, my father.

I have a scare.

You're scared?

Yeah. For mom.

Oh, my mom?
No, she's not scary.

She just talks a lot.

My mom?
She talks a lot.

Yakety, yakety, yakety
yak, she talks a lot.

I know.

But she's not scary.

You talk to my mom,

you could say something like

"I'm here for the money."

Ah?

You can say, "I'm here
for the green card

or the money," one of the two.

Both. Ambos.

Both, "I'm here for both
the green card and money."

- And the house.
- - "I want the house."

Okay.

I'm here for the money
and the green card

and the house.

"And the house,"
that's how you start.

Okay.

She's gonna love you.

¶¶

My parents arrived
to America from Russia

and they're gonna meet Josh's
parents for the first time.

Hello.

Ah!

Privyet.

I know that aleksandra's
parents, like in the past,

they've had some concerns
about her being mormon.

Thank you.

And so I hope
they'll be able to see like

that we're normal people, too.

Wow.

Hello, Vladimir.

Good to meet you.

I'm glad to see you, too.

They look like nice people, so.

I don't understand a word
they say, though.

Cheese.

This afternoon, we're gonna have
a cookout at my family's cabin.

I look Russian, don't I?

Can I see?

It's gonna be a good chance
for our parents

to bond together
and get to know each other.

Should we check that cabbage?

I think the cabbage is done.

I think aleksandra's parents,

when they start talkin' to us
and knowing our family more,

I think they'll probably
understand who we are

and what we're about.

We're a sort of normal family.

You think that looks good?

Does that look
like Russian cabbage?

We're making cabbage
and sausage.

We're also making onion soup

because we thought that's
something Russians would like.

Meat.

It seems like I just heard about

aleksandra and Josh meeting
just a little while ago,

and, now, they're
gonna get married.

So it's 8 more days now?

Do they think
it's been too soon?

Had you ever heard
of mormons before?

She never heard about that.
- Ah.

She read about polygamy.

It was a different time, huh?

When they had to come
across the plains

and there were no men.

It didn't surprise me
that they were like

wanted to look on the
Internet about mormons

and they found some facts
that aren't quite true.

Polygamy's not a practice
in the church.

When the government
made a law against it,

we stopped doing it, so.

My great-grandfather

had four wives.

Mormons don't believe
in that anymore.

I really hope that aleksandra's
parents can be happy

that aleksandra's gonna be
a part of this family.

You make me feel sad.

I have to be more careful.

¶¶

I was hoping
our trip to ocean city

would be a fresh start.

At this point, things are
not going so well for me.

So, you want

to go out on a limb
and try something raw?

Mmm-mmm-mmm.

So many choices.

So, you always say I'm 90%
serious and 10% happy.

What were you today?

I didn't see that Nikki
that I know.

I didn't see the smile today.

I feel like jealous,
I don't know, insecure.

I don't know.

Mm, you shouldn't.
The past is the past.

Well, I can't help it, though.

I think I have the right
to feel like that.

I haven't thought
about anybody but you.

My ex-wife was Filipino
and my bride to-be is Filipino,

so, yes, the history
of my previous marriage,

unfortunately, plays into, um,

what may be my future marriage.

Well, I have a lot of past.

I'm going to have to
work more, 'cause, you know,

you've shared
that it upsets you.

You make me feel sad, upset.

I have to be more careful.

I know mark loves me,
but I want him to try

a little more harder
to make me happy

'cause I'm here for 90 days.

If not,

I might go home.

I do my best
to make Nikki happy,

but sometimes
I get really frustrated

because it's like
there's nothing I can do.

I'm damned if I do
and I'm damned if I don't.

¶¶

Awww!

Eso te lo hice yo, mamita.

Carolina's gonna see my house.

See her house, actually.

It's gonna be her house.

And she'll meet my mother
and father and my brother.

- You wanna wait a minute?

I don't know

what happens in my life

with Fernando now in America.

I am scared Fernando's
parents not like me.

Oh, it's open?

Oh.

Hi, Carolina.
Nice to meet you.

Hi.
- Welcome, home.

My god, you must be tired, no?

- Me encanta.
- This is Fernando.


- Mucho gusto.
- In English.


My brother Johnny.

So, was the first time
that you used plane?

No, but, yes, long time.
- No?

¿Muchas preguntas?

They ask you a lot of questions?

No.

My mom has not been
the greatest supporter

of our relationship,
but I hope we can all get along

because we're gonna
share a house.

Soy tan bonito.

Tan bonito.

I love cats.

I think my mom and Carolina
might be more maybe frenemies.

Oh, let's go to dinner, okay?

Let's go to the table.
- All right.

And fernandito over there.
You sit here.

I should've gotten
the first one.

Always, I'm afraid because
it's different culture,

different, you know,
she's from Columbia.

We are from different countries,
but let's see.

You like it?

- Delicioso.
- ¿es rico, no?


No, she's not gonna
get fat in a month.

You watch. She's not.

I think the mom,
Fernando, is hard, is...

Está muy fuerte.

You thought she was gonna
be tough and mean.

Your mom talk mucho.

A lot.
She talks mucho.

Yeah, she does talk mucho.

That's not true.

I know Fernando's mom is strong
and a little crazy, but...

Carolina only has 9 days

to see if she's going to
like America or not

and I'm really worried
that my mom's gonna

convince her to go home.

There's no real men
hitting on your girlfriend.

Why did you take her there?

It's really not cool.

Fernando!
What is this?

Uh...

The collar's so cute.
Thank you.

I can't believe
that my wedding is tomorrow.

I'm still wondering if I'm
ready for all these changes.

You're not gonna
hook up with him

just so you can get a free
pass to America, are ya?

Before we get married,
mark have to be more sweeter.

This is your beautiful
fiancée in the dress.