17x22 - Relationships

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Previously onThe Real World:

Jose-- he doesn't know how to just be a normal guy.

No, he speaks like...

it has no meaning in it. It's like it's empty.

There's going to be that one day

where he's just going to let go and be Jose.

So you're just going to leave this like this?Do you not see that

I'm baking for an event that you're not helping for?

You don't let anyone help, dude.

You want to do everything on

your own so you can say, "Look what I did."

Tyler-- he's selfish and inconsiderate.

TYLER: I need to be constantly challenged.

And so I kind of want

to break into the sport of triathlons.

This is the true story...Gorgeous, man.

Of seven strangers...[ laughter ]

Picked to live in a house...

Work together and have their lives taped...

Whoa!

To find out what happens...[ gasping ]

When people stop being polite...

And start getting real.

ALL: The Real World: Key West.

Um, I think the marathon's on now, so...

JOSE:Yeah?

I'm registering... I'm putting my money in tomorrow.

I'm running a marathon in two days.

A marathon is . miles.

It's West Palm, huh? Yeah.

It's probably one of the most arduous athletic endeavors

for an athlete to partake.

Are you ready for that?

I will be.

[gulls cawing]

Because of Hurricane Wilma, it's been really difficult

to get a lot of good training in.

Most people train six months to a year

for a marathon, but it's just something

I feel I need to do.

I need that challenge.

I need to test myself.

And I think this is a perfect way of doing so.

It's a bit masochistic, but nonetheless,

I like doing crazy things.

[phone ringing]

MAN: Hello.

Hey, hey, hey.

Your voice sounds abnormal.Really?

Are you sick?I think I'm really nervous about the race.

Because you haven't really trained?Yeah.

Remember, don't go out fast.

Don't go... No, I learned that in Boston--

do not go out too fast.

I ran in the Boston Marathon in April.

I can't even describe how painful running a marathon is.

You know, the first hour and a half is going to be fine.

Yeah, it's the second half.

You run and then you're like, I've got more miles to run.

Doctors don't allow people to do more than two marathons a year

because it's so destructive for your bones and your muscles.

But the sense of accomplishment during and afterwards

is beyond compare.

My only concern about the race is dehydration.

Drink water every stop.

I think you'll be okay.

It's just... You just got to suck it up and do it.

JANELLE: I think that Jose

is such a nice, friendly guy, and I just wish that

he would step out of the shadow

and be his own person.

I want to see Jose.

I've tried from time to time to sort of just like ask you

like, oh, "So, what's going on?"

Or like, "Is everything cool?"

It's difficult because everybody in the house

is so like, "Ah, this is me, this is what's goin' on."

You know, yada, yada, yada.

And when I'm the opposite,

people will kind of be like, "But why is he like this?"

I love everybody in the house,

but being around them way too much is very stressful.Yeah.

And I'm very private, also.

And I don't really say what I am going through

or, you know, things I've been through in my life.

I haven't really opened up to the group,

and they don't really know what I'm all about.

They have to come to conclusions and kind of fill in the gaps

to understand my actions.

I would sort of just encourage you while there's this

last bit of time,

to sort of step out.

Uh-huh.

ZACH: I'm excited to see the race. Where is it running around?

Is it like on the...?It's on the beach.

On the beach? So cool.You can print out a map

so you guys can find where you guys want...

sit and cheer, whether or not you want to sit up there.

What time are we leaving?

Probably around noonish.

JOHN:Where are you going on Saturday?

So, John, I don't want to be offensive to you, Svetlana, or...

JOHN:You don't want me to come to the marathon.

I wasn't going to go anyway, dude. It's cool.

No, no, no, it's because they...Don't worry. I don't want...

I was just gonna go with Jose, 'cause he was the one that wanted to go.

And then Paula and Zach said they wanted to go.

So I was like...Tyler, it's cool.

I didn't want to go anyway, man.

Well, I just... I don't want to be like rude.

It's just whoever is coming...

With Zach, myself, Paula and Jose

going to West Palm Beach for the marathon,

they could share in this experience.

And they wouldn't try and steal the attention

for one reason or another.

JOHN:I just think once again, this is him

thinking about himself, dude.

This is the first I've even heard of it, honestly.

I heard about the marathon,

and I've been wondering the entire time,

how this is going to work.ZACH: Well, I was like...

I've been wondering. And it sounds like now there's been

all this planning going on, and all of a sudden

it's like, "You can't go."

And you know what, [bleep], I don't want to go, dude.

Not the first time he's dis-invited me to a place.

Tyler looks out for himself.

Whether it's going to inconvenience anyone else

doesn't really matter.

Can you explain the whole situation?

TYLER: The reason right now that Jose and Paula and Zach

are coming, is 'cause they've come up to me

and they said they wanted to go.

I mean, you've never even proposed it to me.Well, it wasn't...

I never even had the opportunity.I didn't propose it to anyone.

I'm not going to invite myself to somewhere

where I wasn't previously invited to.

JOSE: He didn't invite me.

He was just saying when they run the marathon...

I came up to him.Exactly. So you knew.

This isn't invite-only.

This is what I didn't want to deal with.

From my perspective-- the way it looks,

it's... this is invite-only.

I'm sorry I didn't invite you,

but we've had a very busy couple of days...

And it's going to take so much time

to talk to one of your closest friends...

Me wanting to go

is for me wanting to go and support

one of my closest friends in the house.

This isn't about you,

and this isn't about anyone's feelings.

This is about me trying to run a -mile marathon.Hey, you know what?

I know this is about you.And you can try and twist this and get mad,

and I'm sorry that your feelings are hurt.

We'll talk about that at a later point, but you know what...

We don't need to.No, we do.

JANELLE: I didn't say you were being self-centered.

But you know what, I am inconsiderate,

and your b*tch a*s is, too.

So I don't want to hear any of that [bleep] anymore.

That's not true. That's not true.

But you're acting the victim right now,

and it's like "woe is me-- why didn't I get invited?"No, I'm not.

No one got a handwritten note.I'm not a victim.

But you are. You're like, well, why didn't I get invited?

Like it's a personal invitation thing.I'm not acting

like a victim. Don't go there with me.

I will go there.No, I'm not.

Because I'm trying to run a marathon,

and I don't want to deal with your feelings being hurt.

Because you know what, I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

You know what, don't worry about it.

Stop there, okay? And leave the subject alone.

Tyler is done-zo in my book.

Done-zo.

I've never heard someone make up so many damn excuses in my life.

Honestly, it's like I don't... I don't really care.

I've never seen it in my whole life.

And I thought you were going to rip his head off.

Doesn't even come up to me and say,

"I'm sorry that you can't go."

I'm not surprised that Tyler hasn't offered it to me.

I'm surprised that Tyler hasn't said anything to Janelle.

JANELLE: My attitude is like this--

do whatever you want to do

and I'm not going to sit and judge your decisions,

but expect a response.

I write the letter to Janelle and John

to let them know where I was coming from

with the whole marathon,

and kind of let them know I was sorry

the way it turned out.

Let's make this a drive to remember.

Yeah!

I'm really excited about the whole marathon.

I want to be there to say,

"Go, Tyler! Like, you can do this!"

Like, I want to be supportive.

TYLER: It's so exciting, guys. This is fun.

I'm, like, having flashbacks

about the most painful parts of the Boston.

JOSE: Oh, don't think about that.

ZACH: Don't think about those.

TYLER: I can't wait for it to be hours from now.

Butterflies in your stomach?Oh, my God.

JOSE: Tyler's kind of nervous. I'm excited to be there

and support him in this big, huge step of his life--

his second marathon he's going to be running this year.

Wonder when I'm going to do one.

TYLER: When you gain pounds.

You're too skinny to do it.

Not.Yeah, you are.

They got real skinny people doing it.

Yeah, but they're all muscle.

PAULA: Yeah, and I'll be all muscle.

Do not do what I'm about to do.

JOSE: Well, Tyler....

Obviously, you like to accomplish

a lot of things, whether it be swimming

or [mumbles] and, you know, running the marathon.

Where do you think you find this motivation

within yourself to kind of go out and do these things,

and try to accomplish them?

I am miserable and depressed unless I'm, like,

being proactive in my life-- accomplishing something.

I have to be achieving,

or else I won't be happy with myself.

That's definitely cool, man. That's definitely cool.

Now, you know, it's... it's an interesting question

that I had to pose on myself a lot.

The way I look at it is, my whole life

I've kind of been the underdog.

Everything, you know?

Whether it be my mom having me at years old.

Damn.Growing up in the ghetto.

You know? I mean, not having anything.

I was a welfare baby.

I went to school, I didn't do very well, you know?

In elementary school and middle school and,

I mean, I was involved with drugs.

I wasn't going to school.

I wasn't taking school seriously.

I moved to Florida.

I left New York. I left my mom.

My mom and I are very, very tight.

The hardest thing was for me to leave her

and move in with my dad, who I've never got along with.

When I flew down there,

I lived on the couch.

I had my luggage in a corner.

ZACH: Listening to Jose talk about his family and his father

has really given me the opportunity

to understand Jose and see a little bit more

of where he's coming from in life.

I remember it like it was yesterday.

I was in his living room,

and I was on the computer.

And I was like, "Oh, I want this car."

And he was drinking. My dad is a big alcoholic.

And he was drunk, and I was like "Oh, I want this car, you know?

Can you help me out?"

And he says, "No, I'm not helping you out.

"What do you think this is?

"Who do you think you are? You're nothing.

You're going to be a piece of [bleep] just like me."

Like that. And, at that point, I was just, like, you know.

Hell, no.Yeah, yeah.

And it hurt, man. It really did.

And I just went... I went to bed,

and, you know, it was devastating.

It took... from my dad, to kind of call me out, and tell me that

you're never going to be anything

made me realize, you know what?

I've come so far, but I'm not where I need to be.

And that kind of motivation, for me,

has led me to what I've done today.

Everything happens for a reason,

and I wouldn't change anything.

Cheers to that, right?

Cheers to that, guys.

All right, so what's the schedule like?

Let's see. Whoa!

PAULA: What's that?

It's the... all my registration stuff.

Should I do this pose at the end?

Should I give a fist pump and a jazz hand?

You already do that pose all the time.

Oh, so here's my number-- .

.

That's a goodnumber.

So, Mom, I'm going to need you to pin on my... my number.

Is this, like, a big marathon?

Tyler didn't train.

Tyler hasn't been treating his body the way

he should have been for a long time.

Oh, so here's the course.

It starts here...

PAULA: It's a huge deal, running.

Because I know it's really hard, and I know what a mental game

this whole marathon is for Tyler.

I'm getting nervous. I get mom nervous.

You should be a little nervous for me.

I'm really nervous right now.

We're going to drop Tyler off.

JOSE: We're up at : a.m. At this point,

Tyler's kind of nervous, and

he's saying that his stomach hurts.

He ate meatballs.

He ate a meaty-sauced

pasta dish

with bread and oil,and he's

running in a freaking marathon today.

He's probably nervous [bleep].

How did it go?

I feel a lot safer.Good.

That would have been a mess.

How do we get to the parking lot, sir?

Back up.Back up.

Wait. Tyler, do you want to get out?

Want to get out here, Tyler?

Yeah. My shoes back there.

PAULA: Tyler's nervous. We're all nervous.

It's kind of, like, exciting anticipation.

He jumps out of the car and, basically,

we don't get to see him start.

TYLER: I'm ready, I'm pumped, I'm excited

because I know that I have

a huge character test in front of me.

TYLER: I think to myself, "Rest up.

Do not spin your wheels. Do not go too fast."

The first ten, miles, you're just finding a pace.

♪ 'Cause I've given you

♪ All the best I can...

PAULA: We're trying to, like, judge, as the time passes,

where Tyler should be,

so we're trying to, like,

guesstimate where we need to be, and when

Tyler will come to us.

There he is!Where?

Hey, Tyler! Hey!Whoo!

I see now.You need anything? Yay!

Attaboy!Go, Tyler!

more. Whoo!

I love him.Feeling great.

Let's see him say that when we see him again.

TYLER: After the halfway mark,

I decide to pick up the pace.

I feel really good, and I know I have a lot left in me.

I'm thinking to myself that there is no going back.

♪ Clean slate, there's not a reason to be down ♪

♪ After one break at this age ♪

♪ So confidently carry on

♪ You got a long way to go.

PAULA: We're walking in the opposite direction

to try to, like, help bring him forward if he needs us.

We keep walking, we keep walking-- no Tyler.

Uh-oh. This might not be good.

TYLER: At around mile ,

my knee gives out totally.

It feels like someone's stabbing me.

I don't know if I can finish the race

at this point, and I'm scared.

ZACH: We end up walking and walking and walking

down the course and we see no Tyler.

Where is he? What's going on?

And I see him on the ground.

Let's go, let's go, Tyler. Come on.

Tyler, you okay?

PAULA: I'm watching Tyler convince his brain that he can

keep going when his body's like, "Absolutely not.

You stop right now."

I think he's feeding off us and our support for him.

Let's go, man. Let's go.

TYLER: It meant so much to have Jose,

Paula and Zach there with me

and kind of bring me through to the finish.

When you think you're done

and you think you can't go on, and someone

pulls you up and says, "Come on, you can do it,"

it's one of the most amazing experiences.

♪ Gotta keep things strong

♪ Moving on, moving on, like I know you do... ♪

Good feet, man. Let's do it.

♪ Even when your hope is gone ♪

♪ Moving on, moving on

[cheering]

♪

TYLER: I am so spent, and I think I needed to be, at this point

in order for me to finally realize

that, you know what, Tyler? You need your roommates.

You need them to help you.

We did it, man.

ANNOUNCER: Congratulations

and welcome to the finish line.

JOHN: I looked in my mailbox and there's a letter from Tyler,

so I begin to read it and the letter's just

all these justifications as to

why it wasn't possible for us to go.

Did you see this?

See what?

There's nothing, there's nothing different here

than what we were discussing. Yeah.

I don't understand this part.

"I assume that if you guys wanted to go,

you would have come to me like the others."

JOHN: After this laundry list of justifications for his action,

not once was there, "I'm sorry."

There's, there's certain ways you approach a situation.

It was more of just

what I expected from him.

It must have somehow been voiced to them some way

and I'm sure that they were like, "Yeah, we want to come."

Well, a little more informed than we were.

Yeah.

TYLER: The last thing I wanted

was to cross the finish line like a [bleep ]...

But I appreciate you guys being there.

It was one of the coolest things I've seen in a long time,

I'll tell you that.I agree.

TYLER: I do not like to show weakness, and for me

to need my roommates to push me through the end of that race,

is not something I wanted

and it's something I'm learning about myself.

And I think for the first time I showed

that I needed the help of someone else.

PAULA: Do you need help?

I'm good. I'm just getting ready for the battle.

Miss Daisy here will be up the stairs shortly.

Like, last night, listening to Jose,

I respect him.

PAULA: I'm so happy that I was there to hear that.

It's one of those things where I can encourage him

to open himself up, but he's

so genuine that Jose doesn't want to open up just for

the sake of it, but I was like, there was a respect.

PAULA: I got to hear a side of Jose and things

that Jose holds very dear to himself.

Damn, Jose. You're awesome.

Just to be able to pull

that off to become such a positive person

despite where you came from, that's amazing.

Sitting at the table, I could look at all three of you

and say that I respect you all.

It was a bonding weekend

for the four of us. It was

a perfect opportunity for Jose to kind of

find his footing and... find a great time

to open up to Paula and Zach

and share with them whohewas.

That was an empowering moment

for me because I, you know,

really wouldn't have wanted anyone else

there with me at that moment.

I agree.

I gave up, dude.

I told him what I thought and it's just like

you know what? I'm done being disappointed by this guy.

I will just... he is what he is

and I'm just gonna accept that.

I'm gonna expect that.No, I feel you.

Obviously he was affected

by what went down this weekend.

I really want to get it through to his head that

he needs to be considerate of other people, you know

what I mean? Right.

JANELLE: I'm really not the type of person

to hold onto grudges, especially

when it comes to close friends

If you sit down and you talk to someone

nine times out of ten it will get resolved.

Honestly, Tyler is a cool person

and he's fun to be around.Yeah.

And I don't want this to be a situation that causes

the end of any friendships

between anyone.

JOHN: What are you doing, people?

I was going to try

to put glitter on to see how it looks in the sun.

JANELLE: Let me see?

It looks good.

So that letter that you, um, wrote

was very nice and I appreciated it.

It was nice, you know, hearing what you had to say.

When you live your life,

you can't always think about your roommates

who are also your friends, and there has to be

a clear division at times.

Yeah, I understand

exactly where you're coming from with that,

but I also still want you to be able to be considerate.

Oh, absolutely.Especially towards, you know, those people

who really make an effort with you.

Like myself. Yeah.

JANELLE: Any sort of friendship you're going to

of course, run into problems

and occasionally people will do things

that will feel very hurtful

but if you talk about them,

they can get resolved, and I think that me and Tyler

talking about this has definitely stitched up

some of those loose ends between us.

♪

I saved the glitter. I saved the glitter.

Next onThe Real World:

I can't wait for Martin to come.

It's a great feeling to see somebody

after you've missed them for so long.

If you love me, you'll stop the annoying.

Well, then I guess I don't love you. You don't...

I write this e-mail to my mom and I'm

going to let her know

that Keith still is in the picture.

I'm scared to deal with it, but I know I'm going to have to.

where West Palm Beach will be.

[passengers giggling]

[car horn honks]

Watch out. I'll hit you. I don't care.

You're good.

Oh! [gasps]

TYLER: Worst driver ever.

Oh, shut the ... up.

No sex tonight.

None for you.

PAULA: I'm about to jump out this car.

I really... I really hate you all.

[laughing]