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["You give love a bad name by
Bon jovi]
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>> Shangela: it smells like gas
Out here.
>> Eureka: it's like bob's
House.
It's just gas, girl.
>> Bob: we are in sussex county,
New jersey.
A lot of silos, a lot of silos
And strip malls.
>> Eureka: hi, sister.
>> Bob: this is my long lost
Sister.
>> Shangela: this is not the
Jersey shore, this is inland
Jersey.
>> Shangela: hello, how are you
Sir?
Good, nice to see you.
>> Eureka: have you ever met a
Drag queen?
Is this your first time?
>> This is my first time.
>> Eureka: what do you think?
>> I don't know.
>> Eureka: what do you mean you
Don't know?
>> Eureka: I've been to new york
Several times but I've never
Crossed that little river.
>> Shangela: have you ever been
To a drag show before?
Never?
Well, hi, I'm shangela.
>> Bob: we're so close to the
City.
I, I think I am closer to
Manhattan than some parts of
Brooklyn timewise but it really
Feels like I'm in idaho.
>> Get chickens and go potties?
>> Uh, my name is ashley craig,
I am twenty-six years old and I
Live in sussex county new
Jersey.
>> Chicken time buddy.
>> Hi, guys.
Come on, I know.
>> Sussex is a beautiful place
But it is very rural, very
Conservative, um, a hard place
To be someone that's quote
Unquote "different."
>> I do consider myself part
Of a police family.
It started generation ago with
My father and my uncle.
Seeing my dad's career, seeing
How much he loved it, seeing how
Many people he had impacted
Throughout his career I
Definitely knew being a police
Officer was something that I
Wanted to you know to pursue
Myself.
>> So open the can, drain them.
>> Gotcha.
That's how much she trusts me
With cooking.
I cooked for myself when I
Had to.
>> Well microwaving a hot pocket
Doesn't really count.
>> Why cook when you guys cook
For me?
>> My family, we are
Exceptionally close.
>> Do you need this butter?
>> Yeah, I do.
>> My parents have been married
For thirty years.
I've grown up watching
Unconditional love.
I mean, since I was very little
I've always wanted to be a mom;
I've always wanted to be a wife.
I am a hopeless romantic.
The flowers, the cards, I'm all
About that.
But I haven't been able to meet
That person yet.
And I don't have a lot of hope
Meeting someone from sussex
County.
♪ ♪
>> Bob: hi, I'm assuming you're
Ashley, by how excited you are
To see me.
>> Hi.
>> How are you?
>> Bob: I'm good, how are you?
>> Oh my goodness.
>> Bob: oh wow these are
Massive, thank you so much.
>> You're welcome, enjoy it.
>> Bob: now I'm just assuming
You can tell me if I'm wrong but
I'm, I'm just assuming that
You're q*eer.
>> Yes, absolutely.
>> Bob: is your family very
Supporting?
>> They are, amazingly so.
>> Bob: that's nice.
Is that common around here?
>> No, not at all.
Not at all.
That's the really, really
Scary part is I mean we've had
People, we've had kids from my
High school sleep on my couch
You know what I mean, when their
Parents said you know either
You're straight or you can find
A different place to go.
Bob: is it, is it like
Religious or is it political or
What is that or just,?
>> I think it's a little bit of
Everything and I think that's
Why it's become like this mix of
Religion, like bible belt,
Sussex county.
And politics that it's just,
It's terrifying.
If it's like one of those things
Where even if you meet someone
Who might be interested in
Dating, they're closeted.
You're never getting invited to
A family function or you never
Get to meet their friends or
You're called their roommate.
>> Bob: do you get out to like
New york city very often?
>> I've never been, like I think
I've been to the city four or
Five times.
Like in my entire life.
>> Bob: in your whole life.
>> And one was for a funeral so
It doesn't even count.
>> Bob: do you, I just, you, you
Don't, you've never been to a
l*sbian bar before?
>> No.
No.
I wouldn't even know where to
Find one.
I mean, to be quite honest with
You, although I love it here and
It's so beautiful I don't see
Myself having a wife and raising
Kids here just because I don't,
I feel like it's gonna be a
Really hard place for my future
Kids to have two moms.
The only problem is my job.
I can't leave the state.
>> Bob: what do you, what do you
Do?
>> I'm a police officer.
>> Bob: how long have you been
Doing that?
>> Five years.
>> Bob: five years?
>> Five years, yeah.
>> Bob: is there, is there a lot
Of q*eer representation at work?
>> No, no, so I think there's
Three of us total.
>> Bob: I feel like i, I
Need to take you to a, you know
There are some great l*sbian
Bars in the city.
>> Absolutely.
>> Bob: you, I feel like I want
To take you there, they're gonna
Eat you up, you're gonna walk in
Like, like people are gonna be
Taking their bras off through
Their shirt.
>> Bob: so what do you, what
Kind of drag would you want to
Do?
>> So I'm thinking ultra fem,
Cuz it's been nothing I've ever
Experienced in my entire life.
I know it was.
>> Bob: I would not expect you
To say that.
Do you, do you think your family
Is gonna even recognize you?
>> Oh, hell no.
>> Bob: they'll be like when
Does, when does ashley come out.
She's not, no.
No?
>> I'm only gonna be sh**ting
Daddy.
>> Two points for daddy.
Oh, one point for eli.
>> It's my bunker.
>> It's your bunker, okay.
>> My totally, really cool
Bunker.
>> People perceive my wife and I
Like a normal straight couple
With two children living a
Middle class life but I'm
Bisexual and um, that is a part
Of who I am.
But where we are right now in
Washington burrow, it is very
Trumpy, so it makes it difficult
To feel safe and, and to feel
Like you're not in a hostile uh,
Environment here, but I want to
Be able to be me without like
Having to worry about it.
>> Dirty horse.
>> Eureka: hello?
Hello.
Oh, hi.
>> Oh, oh my god, let me come
Out.
>> Eureka: I was getting a
Little nervous for a second, I
Was like oh my god, what, what's
Down here?
>> Nobody in here but us horses.
>> Eureka: hi, horsies.
Well this is amazing.
Josh, tell me about it.
>> So this is a therapeutic
Riding facility that I started
Working at a little over a month
Ago.
It's just equine assisted
Therapy.
It's been super beneficial to me
Therapeutically in helping me
Heal from my trauma and so I'm
Working towards getting a
Certification and being a,
Uh, instructor.
>> Eureka: I understand trauma;
You know but I'm curious what do
You mean by trauma?
>> Um, I was in the navy and um,
I served during "don't ask don't
Tell" right around the turn of
The century there.
And like when I was eighteen a
Year or two before I joined the
Navy, I had come out as bisexual
To like a couple of people and I
Let slip to somebody in the navy
That I thought I could trust uh,
That was bi and then um, I was
Assaulted by like five people in
A shower one day.
And uh, left me there and then
My chain of command covered it
Up so that none of them would
Uh, ever get investigated or
Held accountable.
>> Eureka: that's a lot.
>> Okay.
>> Eureka: well i, you know I
Understand trauma, I understand
Sexual as*ault.
I've been assaulted before too
And you know it took a really
Long time.
>> I'm sorry.
>> Eureka: I know I'm sorry for
You too so I understand the
Power of just being able to say
It out loud, that's the most
Awful thing I think you can do
To someone.
Is violate them sexually.
>> It's, it's hard to, to wake
Up and not give them the power
In the morning to, to let them
Make you mad every day.
I only was able to start
Processing it a couple years ago
And it's been ugly and messy and
Terrible, but I'm finally at a
Point now where I'm like I'm
Almost ready to be okay with
Myself but I just like, I don't'
Know how to do that so
>> Eureka: are you still
Bisexual or,?
>> Yeah, i, I never and, and
That's another thing is because
Of the trauma I was like deathly
Afraid of intimacy with men and
So then i, I fell in love with
Stacey and we had a family.
>> Eureka: so you have kids?
>> Yeah.
>> Eureka: oh, how many?
>> Two, I have uh, elijah is
Eight and julianna is eleven.
>> Eureka: congrats.
So um, what do you want to get
Out of doing this drag show with
Me?
What do you feel like you're
Missing?
>> Yeah, I mean like I would
Really like to express myself
More effeminately outwardly,
Like I want to, I want to just
Be fully me and I'm just afraid
Like to let it go.
>> Eureka: my goal with you is
To show you how to do for you
This week.
You know, and, and let them, let
Other people enjoy you being you
And having fun for yourself.
A queen realizes she is
Everything, darling.
♪ ♪
>> I'm brandon eagan, I'm
Thirty-nine years old.
I live in hopatcong, new jersey.
I moved around a lot when I was
A kid.
I was kind of a trouble maker
And I got myself into a lot of
sh*t when I was younger.
>> I've never really felt like
I've been part of anything for
Like really belong to any group.
Wouldn't say I'm the black sheep
Of the family, a gray sheep of
The family, well-loved but still
A pain in the a*s, like.
>> She likes the pool table.
>> I take care of intellectually
Disabled adults.
I get to dedicate time to making
Sure that their lives are as
Good as possible and I get paid
For that, which is awesome.
I can remember being told in
Third grade that g*y people
Couldn't get married and I was
Like, well that's not fair.
It just never made any sense to
Me, like why anyone would give a
sh*t.
Everybody deserves dignity and
Respect but everyone needs to
Stop getting their pussies hurt
So easily.
I hope we're hitting the
Precipice of the, the political
Correctness then people are
Gonna start to relax like you
Can be the butt of a joke and
It's okay.
Like, just get over yourself.
>> Nice, tommy.
sh*t, that's your shot buddy.
>> Shangela: hello.
>> Hi, how are you?
>> Shangela: hi, hi.
>> Hey.
>> Shangela: hi, I'm shangela.
>> Shangela, what's happening?
>> Shangela: yes, nice to meet
You.
And you, you are?
>> Alex, nice to meet you.
>> Shangela: hi.
Nice to meet you too.
So what's going on here?
I am your new drag mother.
>> Oh, fantastic.
>> Shangela: ta, da.
How excited, is
That, that's excited?
>> This is my, this is as
Excited as I get.
>> [Laughs]
>> Shangela: no!
>> You don't do that.
You got to get the rest of the
Solids in before you get the
Black ball in.
If you're my drag queen, I'll be
Your pool daddy.
>> Shangela: you're my drag
Daughter, get ready.
>> I don't know about that.
>> Shangela: oh yes, I believe
It's gonna be quite the
Transformation.
Now, if I make this shot I say
That you have to give me your
Best runway walk from table to
Here.
What do you say?
>> No.
>> Shangela: they put you on the
Runway.
>> This is, this is lake
Hopatcong, new jersey.
Bro, I live here, like I don't
Want to, I don't want to do
That.
>> Shangela: but I feel like
You're gonna be doing a drag
Show around here.
>> Oh, yeah, I am.
>> Shangela: so doing a runway
Walk, you may have to overcome
That, I don't want to call it a
Fear, but what do you think?
>> I'd do that on a stage no
Problem, but I don't want to do
It in my neighborhood bar.
>> Shangela: uh, I understand.
I'm from a small town called
Paris, I'm from texas.
>> Is that east texas or west
Texas.
>> Shangela: it is, it's east
Texas, northeast texas.
>> How many hours does it take
To get to planned parenthood, oh
Wait you don't have any,
Anymore.
>> Shangela: oh, wow.
That hurt.
[Laughter]
>> Dude, texas sucks.
>> Shangela: come on, texas does
Not suck.
>> I mean can we just say, can
We just agree, f*ck texas?
>> Shangela: nope, we're not
Gonna agree on that.
>> All right.
>> Shangela: when I first meet
Someone, you know, I'm really
Like heart on my sleeve but I
Can see brandon has a wall that
He's built up around himself so
I really need to have this time
With brandon to really get us
Like bonded together cuz you
Can't call yourself mother
Daughter and you all don't even
Like trust each other.
>> Shangela: I have a question
For you.
>> What's that?
>> Shangela: why are you doing
This show?
>> An english teacher of mine
Who's an awesome dude, like from
Middle school.
Who is very inspirational.
And he said like hey there's
An opportunity for some dude who
Lives in sussex county who is
Cis-gendered and heterosexual
And I was like hey, that sounds
Awesome.
He's like want to do drag?
I'm like yeah sure.
And that's how that happened.
>> Shangela: do you understand
How important that it could be
For like you doing drag in a
Place that doesn't have a lot of
Drag and given that exposure?
Do you feel that it'll make an
Impact on anyone's life?
>> No.
>> Shangela: you don't think so?
>> I hope so.
So, like, I honestly like I
Don't, I don't expect well
Intention things to land.
>> Brandon, I worked with teens
In sussex county that were
Saying we can't openly be g*y,
We can't openly be trans, we
Can't use the pronouns that we
Want to.
Kids talking about bullying, and
Not having, like, staff that are
Protecting them, so people like
You who are cis-gender but still
Very comfortable with yourself
To be able to take a stand
Publically that would mean a lot
To them.
>> Of course, but kids will be
Mean to you no matter what you
Got.
>> Shangela: did you ever see
Any g*y kids get bullied?
>> I've seen everybody get
Bullied.
I was that kid that was able to
Navigate that sh*t by himself
Anyway cuz I was, I was
Different.
>> Shangela: do you ever put
Yourself in situations that make
You feel uncomfortable?
>> Oh yeah, all the time.
>> Shangela: if I stand up right
Now, I stand up right now, me
Shangela, hi, how you all doing?
Hello, and I said I'm gonna do a
Runway walk in this bar, boom,
Boom, boom, fashion week, fish
Boom, turn, that pizza, I live.
Boom, turn, turn.
Now I probably made six people
Uncomfortable.
>> Oh, dude.
>> Shangela: but I did it.
>> Listen to you, look at you
Playing puppet strings.
>> Shangela: listen to me.
You don't have to do it, you're
Not gonna do it, I don't want
You to do it.
>> We can be mutual.
We can talk about sh*t; we can
Do sh*t but don't f*ck with me.
>> Shangela: I'm learning right
Now that my drag daughter has no
Clue what she has signed up for
Or gotten herself into, so are
We gonna fully do a full one
Eighty-degree transformation on
Brandon?
I honestly don't, I don't' know.
>> Shangela: are you excited
About doing this at all?
>> I mean, a little.
>> Shangela: yeah?
Okay.
We have a lot of time together
Coming up, so I just want to let
You know that I'm really happy
To meet you and thank you for
Like having me even though I
Rolled in very strong.
>> No, dude, we're gonna have
Fun.
>> Shangela: I have a feeling
I'm gonna learn a lot from you.
>> I have a feeling I'm gonna
Learn a lot from you.
>> Shangela: I like that.
That makes me very happy.
>> It's gonna be an open
Exchange my friend.
>> Shangela: to the open
Exchange.
Ta da.
Well, on that note...
>> Pleasure to meet you,
Brother.
>> Shangela: it's great to meet
You.
♪ ♪
>> Bob: good morning.
>> Shangela: did you make these
Pies from scratch?
>> My sister does.
>> Shangela: I would love a
Slice of apple pie please.
>> Apple pie, you got it.
>> Shangela: good morning
Gentlemen.
Hello, how are you all?
>> Good morning.
Good how are you?
>> Shangela: good, I'm shangela.
What's your name?
>> John.
>> Shangela: john are you doing
A donation here cuz I was, am i,
Am I work voting for donald
Trump?
>> Yeah.
>> Shangela: uh, most definitely
Not.
No, but we are doing a show here
In the local area.
It's a big drag show that's
Coming up on this thursday
Night.
>> Eureka: yeah, at uh, seven
O'clock.
>> What's the show about?
>> Eureka: well it's about fun
Loving drag queens.
Do you know any g*y people?
>> Uh, yeah I have a neighbor.
Each to their own.
>> Shangela: what do you
Gentlemen do?
>> Running for mayor and
Financial officer.
>> Eureka: oh, wow.
>> I have to go to work, my
Helpers are ready to go.
>> Shangela: you need some help?
>> Can you handle a power saw?
>> Shangela: a power saw?
I can handle a death drop, have
You ever seen one of those?
Boom, boom, boom, boom.
>> Uh-oh.
>> Shangela: that was the move.
>> You gonna bust your a*s if,
Can you chip the brush, feed the
Chipper?
I got a job for a guy and he
Says to me well I'll give you an
Extra six hundred dollars if you
Run my son's wife through that
Chipper.
>> Bob: six hundred is that
Enough to hire a hitman, how
Cheap is a hitman in this town?
>> Shangela: right.
>> It's impossible to get the
Blood out of that machine.
>> Bob: well how do you know
That?
Wait, john, how do you know
That?
♪ ♪
>> Bob: hi.
>> Hi, how are you?
How are you?
>> Bob: I'm well, thank you.
>> Hello, hello, how are you?
>> Bob: I'm great, what's your
Name?
>> Kevin.
>> Bob: kevin?
>> And jenny.
>> Bob: jenny?
>> Jenny craig, hard to forget.
>> Bob: ashley speaks very, very
Highly of the two of you and the
Life that you've made for her
And, and the, the example you've
Set as a family.
It's been really interesting in,
In town because we've had kind
Of like some mixed reactions to
Being here.
By the time we got to the, to
The car show I mean i, I
>> Actually saw that, i, it was
All over uh, social media.
>> Bob: and it, I mean every,
Every one.
[Laughter]
How has it been for you all
Around here, having, having you
Know a q*eer family member?
>> For us with ashley our
Biggest concern was that in the
Community there's so many
Closeted people because of the
Fear factor to come out.
>> In a, in a rural community
Uh, like this people tend to be
A little bit more sheltered
There is, there is certain
Allies among us but they don't
Tend to be the more outspoken.
>> Like when ashley finally came
Out, one day she's like that's
It, she goes mom we're going for
A ride.
And you know she told me in the
Car and like I still remember it
To this day, you know, she was
Crying so hard it bothered me
That she felt she had to cry to
Tell me because we knew and for
Me like that was the day that
Went down in the books for me, I
Was like this is it, she's free,
She can be out and about and you
Know it was exciting.
>> Bob: have you ever brought
Anyone home?
>> Yeah, yeah.
I've brought um, I've brought a
Couple of my, my partners home
You know and they've welcomed
Them with open arms.
They haven't been the best
Partners for me.
>> We also don't want her to
Settle for less than she
Deserves and less than she wants
That's gonna make her happy.
>> I want her to have that
Partner, I know how much like he
Is my best friend, he is my
Rock, he is my soul mate, he's
The first person I tell all my
Secrets to.
I want her to have that cuz I
Know how incredible it feels.
But i, you know for ashley I
Know it's so much harder you
Know she'd say well oh, I'm
Going on a date but I got to
Drive two and a half hours,
That's no fun.
>> Bob: ashley has a really
Strong family unit, she gets a
Lot of love from that, but at
Some point, you have to create
Your own community and I don't
Think she's ever had that
Before.
>> Bob: you're twenty-six?
>> Twenty-six, yeah.
>> Bob: so if she were you,
You'd, you'd have,?
>> I'd be married with, with at
Least a kid by now.
>> Bob: yeah.
>> Yeah, yeah cuz we, yeah we
Had you at twenty-six.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
♪ ♪
>> Get her before she figures
Out the kick stand.
>> Not yours.
>> You'll never catch her, not
In those shoes.
>> Oh my gosh, did you guys call
Each other?
You match.
>> Eureka: oh my god, we did
This on purpose.
Hey, josh.
>> Hi, eureka.
I'm good how are you?
>> Eureka: is this the family?
>> Elijah, this is eureka.
>> Eureka: I'm a hugger is that
Okay?
Hi elijah.
Julianna, may i?
>> Yes.
>> Eureka: and you're stacey?
>> That's me.
>> Eureka: you're gorgeous.
>> Thank you.
>> Eureka: do you know your
Dad's gonna do drag this week?
>> Yes.
He's talked about it too much.
>> Eureka: what do you think
About it?
Oh, really?
>> Just being excited about it.
>> Eureka: have you come up with
A drag name yet?
>> Yes.
It's, it's fionix.
Cuz I'm like rising like a
Phoenix and because I love the
Name fiona from "shrek."
>> Okay, there you go.
>> He's shrek, he's an ogre.
I'm gone, I was never here.
>> Okay, bye.
>> Eureka: thank you.
>> Come on, turn.
Anna, stop.
>> No.
>> Eureka: so how did you all
Meet?
>> I had gone to karaoke a bunch
Of times just one night we just
Happened to be in the same place
At the same time and like that
Was it, we just kind of
Connected that night and then
That was it, we were together
Ever since.
>> She's a musician, she plays
Like four instruments.
>> Eureka: but you sing too?
>> Well, so I'm a music teacher.
>> But they pay you to do it.
>> Yeah, they pay me to do it,
Yes.
So at the school where I work I
Teach uh, kids with special
Needs.
Recently an opportunity came up
For me to be the music teacher
It was like absolutely this is
My, you know, time to shine.
>> To see her kind of like
Really come into her own now and
Absolutely like love her job.
We're both now in a place where
We can enjoy what we're doing
And I feel like it's
Strengthening our relationship
Because it has been a little
Strained while I've been going
Through my uh, healing and, and
My trauma processing.
It's taken a lot of out of my
Family.
>> It's been a wild ride.
>> It takes a personality like
Hers, somebody who works with
Special needs and has all that
Kind of patience, to deal with a
Person like me.
>> Eureka: it's really
Interesting, the dynamic between
Josh and stacey, cuz to process
Trauma it takes some real soul
Searching.
I can only imagine it's been a
Lot of pressure for stacey to
Support josh through all this,
It's just incredible to see what
A devoted wife josh has.
>> Eureka: you're quite an
Amazing woman.
>> Thank you.
>> Eureka: I can tell.
You know in, in the way that
You're carrying yourself through
A lot of this.
It's, it's hard you know when
You have to be that person for
Someone.
>> Yeah.
>> Eureka: how has that affected
You and your...
>> It's tough.
You know it's, it's, it's
Emotionally exhausting but I
Understand that that's the
Situation.
You know, at the end of the day
Like he is with me and he's with
Us and he's here for the kids
And he wants to just be himself
And that's okay.
And we're teaching them you can
Be yourself and that's okay.
>> Eureka: I know the drag
Experience for josh ... I think
It's really about the hyper
Femininity, like getting to just
Be as sissy as possible in this
Protected place.
You know and hopefully he can
Find a lot of release in it.
>> Yeah.
>> When josh told me that there
Was gonna be a drag show
Honestly my initial impression
Was, you're being someone you're
Not, you're not a drag queen,
That's not who you are.
It is a lot to take in.
But hopefully this is a step in
The right direction for all of
Us.
>> Eureka: so, I'm drag mama now
So you, if you need someone to
Scoop you up I'm a good big
Mama.
Give me a hug.
>> Eureka: what's up?
♪ ♪
>> Hey.
>> Shangela: I brought some
Friends with me.
>> Wonderful.
>> Bob: hello, creative q*eers
How are you all?
>> Hi.
>> Shangela: we're thinking
About your look and I want to go
Like a mod sixties into like a
Groovy kind of thing.
>> Like jackie onassis kind of
Meets twiggy?
>> Shangela: yes, there, hey,
You better know a reference,
Give me a five on that one.
♪ ♪
>> Bob: when's the last time you
Were in a gown?
>> Prom.
>> Bob: prom.
>> Eureka: you do have some
Stuff that you wear already
Right?
>> I have the one dress that
I've only felt comfortable
Wearing to like pride events.
>> Eureka: would you mind
Sharing your dress with us?
>> It might be a little wrinkled
But okay.
>> Eureka: we don't care about
No wrinkles.
>> Eureka: okay.
There she is.
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Bob: do you wear like a lot
Of makeup?
>> No.
>> Bob: even for like halloween?
>> No.
>> Bob: how about heels?
>> I, the last time I wore heels
Was my junior year of high
School.
>> Honestly, I look like getty
Lee.
>> Shangela: who is getty lee?
>> He's from rush.
♪ ♪
>> Eureka: how does this feel?
>> I can go tighter.
>> I'm still breathing.
>> Then it's not tight enough.
>> Shangela: just walk to me
Nailed it, nailed it.
>> Step into your a*s, sir.
>> Eureka: uh-oh.
Little bawdy.
>> Bob: when this is all said
And done you're gonna be so
Attracted to yourself you're
Gonna be like I think I found
The woman for me.
>> I think I found the woman for
Me.
[Laughter]
>> How do hookers run in these
Things?
No, that's how you know
Someone's a hooker is cuz they
Can run in these shoes.
♪ ♪
>> Eureka: what do you think of
The body shape?
>> Yeah, I think it matches my
Body.
>> Shangela: do you know what
Drag entertainers do?
Tell him.
>> Oh, I've run into it.
>> Shangela: oh tell us.
>> You duct tape and super glue
Your d*ck to your a*s.
That looks uncomfortable.
>> Super, I've never,
>> There's a whole thing about
Super glue.
>> There are no super gluing
Your d*ck.
>> Well there's people who do
It.
>> That's where we draw the
Line.
>> Eureka: so I'm curious, does
This feel like a piece of that
Release you're looking for in
Your life like to have moments
Like this or...
>> A little bit, yeah like this
Was really fun, i, I kind of
Like, like I like wearing my
Dress I enjoy it, I feel good
And feel pretty.
>> Eureka: it, I don't know if
You notice it, just the comfort
That comes over you, the
Calmness.
It's such a relaxed version of
You.
That I haven't seen all day.
You know, it's interesting.
How do you, what do you think?
>> I don't know what to think.
I ... No comments.
I have to process all of this.
>> Eureka: it's okay.
>> That's okay.
>> Eureka: that's okay, we'll
Talk.
Yeah, it's a lot.
>> Yeah.
>> I've never really looked at
Josh this way; I've never seen
This side of him.
But I want him to be able to
Look in a mirror and be like
"Hey, this is great, I love me."
So if this gets him just even
The tiniest step towards him
Accepting himself like that
Would just make such a
Difference.
Is a
>> We're going fishing.
>> Shangela: let's do it.
>> You ever hook a minnow
Before?
>> Shangela: I've never hooked a
Minnow.
>> How many you want?
>> Shangela: uh, brandon?
>> A dozen.
Let's get a dozen.
>> Shangela: a dozen.
Should I put the lid on?
>> Yep, put the lid on.
Before they hop out.
>> Shangela: there you go little
Minnows.
All right.
Thank you very much.
>> Cool, all right so we got
These, those hooks and some
Worms and we should be good to
Go.
>> Shangela: it's gonna be
Pretty cool do a show around
Here, I think.
Have you ever been to a drag
Show before?
>> I haven't, I've been invited
To a couple of ba*ls but I never
Went.
>> Shangela: are you nervous
About this show that's coming up
At all?
>> A little bit.
I'm hoping I don't deal with any
Bull, I dealt with a tiny bit of
Bullshit already which was
Mildly disappointing, keep an
Eye on your bobber.
>> Shangela: oh.
When you're around people that
Maybe cast judgement on other
People, like how do you react in
Those moments?
>> Um, it depends, you know like
Around here like an old guy will
Sit next to you in a bar and
Just say like start telling
[Beep].
Jokes like it's a thing to do.
>> Shangela: that word, just so
You know that word really rubs
Me the wrong way because of my
Grandmother and my fams.
>> It should, it, it's a hate
Speech.
>> Shangela: so I would prefer
If you don't mind just say n
Word.
>> I don't think that making
Words against the rules is
Helpful at all.
It just gives those words more
Power in my opinion.
>> Shangela: it can but it
Doesn't change the way that it
Makes some people feel.
>> Oh no, absolutely not,
Pronoun thing is a little bit of
A b*tch.
I mean I call half the girls I
Hang out with dude most of the
Time anyway you know so it's
Like...
>> But yeah.
The whole point is that that
sh*t offends me and it, it
Offends me even more that you
Would just come up to me and say
Something foul like that
Thinking that I'm going to agree
With you just because like you
Think I look like you or
Something like that and f*ck you
For thinking that I'm as, as
Narrow minded and ignorant as
You are, like...
I mean I already had one friend
Suggest that uh, you know I was
In, participating in grooming
The next generation for
Pedophiles and I was like go
f*ck yourself I'm like dude like
That's f*cking Ret*rded.
I mean, if anything I would
Think it'd be more uncommon with
Trans folks, like they've got
Enough,
>> Shangela: it's not just trans
It's just the entire I think
Lgbtq.
>> Well I'll just say lbgtq
>> Shangela: what's it called,
Name, name the
Community, what's the letters?
>> Lbgtq,
>> Shangela: that's
Good, close.
Lg-btq.
>> Oh, jesus christ.
Now you're busting my ba*ls.
>> Shangela: if you want to
Sound, I think because so that
People don't misinterpret your
Connection, your interest, your
Empathy, it's important to say
Things the best you can.
>> You and your f*cking
Alphabets.
See, this is the nitpicky sh*t
That I'm talking about.
Did you know what I meant?
>> Shangela: uh, you know what,
>> Did you feel like I had hate
In my heart when I left out the
G?
>> Shangela: I feel that you are
A very empathetic person like...
>> It's true, I feel people's
sh*t, which sucks a lot.
>> Shangela: brandon is not
Politically correct or for the
Matter correct in the derogatory
Slang words that he uses in his
Conversation.
I have to get him to understand
That when you say those words it
Totally turns me off to anything
Else you're saying.
Now I have my idea of who you
Are because you used those
Words.
If you want your message to be
Heard, then you do have to care
About how it's delivered just do
Better.
>> Bob: do you feel like you
Have game?
>> No.
>> Bob: no?
>> I have zero game.
>> Bob: what do you think of is
You goal going into the city
Tonight?
>> I know nothing about any of
The scenes down there or over
There, so experience it.
>> Bob: bob's taking me to a
l*sbian bar in new york city of
All places, I mean we're not
Taking no path training we are
Going, we are going right up to
The front door honey.
>> I, this is wild.
>> Bob: do you ever find it hard
Time dating in like, and
Balancing your work a lot of
People are kind of nervous about
What you do for a living?
>> There are a lot of people who
See law enforcement are like
Absolutely not, like we.
Which I understand.
>> Bob: how do you feel when
You, when you see that kind of
Stuff?
>> It, it really bothers me that
There are people out there who
Are just fearful of me or um,
You know, upset with me because
Of the uniform I wear, that's
Really hard sometimes.
>> Bob: yeah.
>> I mean, I haven't dated in a
Year and a half like nothing, no
Sites, no anything.
I kind of just gave up for a
Little while.
>> Bob: welcome to new york.
Welcome, honey.
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>> Bob: I really love this
City so much, I got to tell you
Like this city means a lot to
Me.
>> Bob: we're in brooklyn,
Land of the q*eers.
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>> Ooh, yes.
>> Bob: hi.
I've lived in your city, well I
Don't live here anymore, I lived
Here for like twelve years and I
Never heard of gingers.
>> It is a l*sbian bar.
>> Bob: drag me.
>> Bob: thank you.
She was kind of cute, she was
Very cute.
>> Yeah.
That's like, that's like my
Type.
>> I'm also kind of attracted to
Lesbians yeah,
>> Are you?
Me too.
[Laughter]
>> Bob: just gonna find some
Rows.
>> It's so nice to meet you, I'm
Ashley.
>> Oh, ashley nice to meet you.
>> Nice to meet you.
>> Bob: full disclosure um, from
Across the room we were both
Admiring your beauty.
>> Absolutely.
>> Bob: you're very stunning.
>> You are.
[Laughter]
>> What brought you to gingers
Tonight?
>> Um, to meet some, some new
People.
>> Bob: five, six, seven, eight,
Nine, I'm getting ten shots.
Tequila.
Y'all are trying to party, we're
Doing tequila, all right.
>> I, I'm, I don't know what to
Say, I'm speechless.
You guys are my people.
This is so cool.
>> Bob: I've got some tequila.
All right if you want a shot of
Tequila.
To finding exactly what we need
This evening, yay.
Cheers.
Mine is more symbolic.
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>> What apps are you on?
>> Bumble and tinder.
>> Okay, good stop.
>> Okay.
>> We need to up it.
>> Yes, we do, yes.
Those are my sisters.
>> Bob: well this, this is you
But it looks like it's about
Her.
That's the profile picture.
That's the profile picture for
Sure.
>> Do you identify as a l*sbian?
>> So I identify as l*sbian but
I am having a top surgery coming
Up.
Yeah.
>> Congratulations.
>> Thank you, yes.
Okay, first of all, the fact
That you guys just reacted to
That like that I got to keep
Myself together.
>> It's sort of like fantastic.
You should celebrate that, like
Every day.
>> Bob: so this is like a, this
Is like a really big deal.
>> The fact that I can just be
Me.
>> You should come here more
Often.
>> Oh, I'm coming to your show,
Not the show, your show.
>> Bob: how did this night feel
For you so far?
>> Mind blowing.
In the best possible ways.
>> Bob: it's not being accepted
Despite your queerness, it's
Being accepted because of it.
And it just really, it, it, it
Really hits different.
>> It hits so different and I've
Never experienced that in my
Life.
>> Bob: girl, oh, now let's get
You laid.
Let's go.
[Laughter]
>> Eureka: ooh, is this a new
Shirt?
>> And I got shoes to practice
In.
>> Eureka: you call these, what?
What is this?
That's so cute that you think
That that's how tall they're
Gonna be.
>> Bob: you ever seen chicago
The musical?
>> No.
>> Bob: I'm so g*y, I'm so g*y.
Velma kelly and roxy hart they
Do everything in perfect unison
And we're trying to do that.
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>> Shangela: you need to
Bring that leg across like this.
>> My left leg?
>> Shangela: left leg.
>> What if ronda has super thick
Thighs and she doesn't like to
Cross her legs?
>> Shangela: well ronda can't
Sit up there like this though.
>> Ronda could.
>> Shangela: please, I bet
>> Ronda does.
>> Eureka: close, we'll get
There.
>> Bob: you're doing this, look
At me, this is you, this is me.
>> Oh.
>> Bob: yeah.
>> Oh, like this.
Like west side story?
>> Shangela: yes.
>> We're getting into a fight?
>> Bob: armpits are sexy.
Armpits are sexy, trust me.
Trust me on this.
>> We're tough, mother f*ck.
>> Shangela: there it is.
Ronda a tough mother f*ck.
Come on.
>> Eureka: do you know what
Twerking is?
>> Uh, yeah it's when you, when
You pop your a*s up in the air.
>> Eureka: well give me a twerk.
>> Is it something like,
>> Eureka: you got to try harder
Than that.
You know how you're having sex
And you get lazy, and you just
Kind of start letting the, the
Crotch do it by itself?
Do that while you're bent over
And try.
Trust me.
Just the crotch.
Why are you laughing so hard?
[Laughter]
>> I got to make sure I don't do
The donald trump; I don't want
To do this.
>> Shangela: oh don't do that.
No please don't do that.
>> I'm jerking off two guys at
The same time dance.
>> Shangela: let's not do that.
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>> Eureka: ooh, she's going
On, honey.
>> Bob: we need miss
Congeniality at the end of the
Film.
>> Yes, yes, yes.
>> Bob: not in the beginning.
♪ ♪
>> Eureka: now we're ready to do
Some karaoke.
>> Shangela: oh yes.
>> Bob: you all karaoke a lot?
>> I used to.
>> Bob: there's a thing that at
Every party, if shangela has two
More of those, shangela will end
Up hosting.
>> Shangela: you having a good
Time, jersey?
Baby, new jersey knows how to
Party so we came to party.
[Applause]
>> I need some jersey fist
Bumps.
Wow!
>> Bob: my name is bob and I'm
Gonna sing a song.
[Cheers and applause]
>> Shangela: take it brandon.
>> Eureka: we're gonna get a
Little, a little naughty in the
House.
I did this for my seventh grade
Talent show, ripped my shirt
Open, I got in trouble.
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>> Eureka: ashley, ashley.
[Cheers and applause]
>> Shangela: we'll see you
Thursday night, eight o'clock
Halleyloo.
[Cheers and applause]
>> I can tell you that this
Entire experience has been so
Important and empowering for me.
This is the first time I ever
Came out as getting a top
Surgery and going like a non
Binary route.
>> Is it rude for me to ask,
Does that mean you get to keep
Your n*pples?
>> Yes, that's the best part.
>> People get so mad about that
Though I bet.
>> Yeah.
>> It's about as righteous as
Getting mad about somebody
Else's haircut.
You know it's on their head why,
Why do you care but,
>> Thank you, I appreciate it.
>> Hey, my pleasure.
I'm very happy to meet you.
>> Thank you I'm very happy to
Meet you as well.
>> Bob: where are we going?
>> Eureka: down here girl to the
Dock.
>> Shangela: be careful no one
Trip or fall please, we have a
Show.
>> Bob: how you feeling?
>> I have been on cloud nine, I
Feel like it's not real, I don't
Want to wake up from this,
Having that experience of being
Fully myself, I have never lived
That before until I met you.
It has been life changing,
Lifesaving I would say, because
I don't know where I would be
Without people that I could look
Up to like you guys.
>> Bob: you, you think you're
Changing your life, you're like
Out here like there's a young
Ashley at home watching right
Now being like, I can do that.
>> I hope so.
I hope so.
>> Bob: I can do that, you know
What I mean, so I think you're
Just...
>> It's really empowering
Knowing that what we're doing is
Gonna eventually make a
Difference.
>> Eureka: what about what it's
Doing for you?
>> I mean that's awesome too,
Look at me I got my ears
Pierced, I'm wearing a new top.
>> Shangela: what, you got your
Ears pierced just this week?
>> Yeah.
I've been talking about how I'd
Feel like more like me if I got
My ears done and, and I did.
>> Eureka: that a girl.
>> Shangela: tell me what does
This mean to you?
>> I mean honestly I'm glad I
Went last because I started like
Contemplating like, oh, like
Maybe it's like, maybe this
Wasn't a great idea, it's not
Gonna be positive, but then
Listening to you two describe
Like how amazingly positive it
Has been for you, like, makes me
Really happy this is a choice I
Made like you know cuz that's
Awesome.
You know.
I'm impressed that it means
That much like that, that,
That's something I
Underestimated which is, I'm
Really happy to see, it's, and
It's, that's awesome.
>> Shangela: I'm proud to be
Working with you.
>> Well, I'm happy.
>> Bob: I think we're gonna have
A remarkable show.
♪ ♪
>> This is the fun part because
You're gonna feel and look
Completely insane for a moment.
♪ ♪
>> Wow.
I can't stop looking in the
Mirror.
♪ ♪
>> You're wearing fake eyeballs.
>> Eureka: are you?
>> No.
>> Eureka: why not?
>> Because my eyes are f*cking
Awesome.
>> Eureka: oh, she's got the
Attitude.
I live, she a bitchy queen.
Audience member: don't get too
Close to the lace, use a filter.
>> Eureka: now what is going on
Over here?
>> I feel hunking gorgeous this
Is amazing.
Yeah.
♪ ♪
>> Holy f*ck.
Well done, sir.
>> Maybe I'd f*ck me.
I don't know.
Probably not.
♪ ♪
>> Eureka: ladies and gentlemen,
How are you doing tonight?
[Cheers and applause]
>> I am definitely wondering
What backlash I'm gonna face
Around here.
I'm sure there's gonna be some
People who have to say some sh*t
About it.
It might be good; it might be
Bad.
But if I say I'm gonna do
Something, I'm, I do it.
[Cheers and applause]
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Physical physical
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>> Shangela: how you doing
Tonight?
[Cheers and applause]
Woo, oh I am so thrilled to be
Able to introduce you to one
Amazing person here in this
Community who has tried
Something very new and very
Different and very fabulous.
[Cheers and applause]
The one and only ronda!
[Cheers and applause]
>> Pleased to meet you.
>> Shangela: is there anything
You feel you've learned in this
Experience or that you would
Like to share with all these
Beautiful people here who are
Here to support you and everyone
Else tonight?
>> There's a lot of love in
This town, and there always has
Been and always will be.
>> Shangela: I love that.
[Cheers and applause]
>> I feel like I've been holding
Back so much of this part of
Myself for so long this gives me
An opportunity to kind of like
Be who I really am and come out
And let all of my gayness out.
[Cheers and applause]
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>> I'm calling you back.
She's been b*tch tonight.
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>> Eureka: woo.
This young individual identifies
As non binary, so this new
Nibbling of mine is also a proud
Partner and father to these
Three beautiful people in the
Front.
Why don't you all come on up
Here?
[Cheers and applause]
>> I was looking for a way to
Express some of the femininity I
Was repressing and um, it was so
Transformative and incredible
Because of the tutelage of my
Drag mom.
[Cheers and applause]
I want to let people know that
There are people like us here in
The community who care about
Come find us.
We'll love on you.
>> Being from sussex county you
See kind of one generic person
And then you go out into the
World and see people living
Exactly as who they are and it's
Helped me figure out who I am.
There are parts of my journey
That aren't over yet, but I'm
Excited for that.
I'm gonna lean into it.
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>> Bob: oh, my goodness.
[Cheers and applause]
>> First of all, I cannot
Believe I am standing here right
Now.
You guys are the reason I'm here
Today and you guys are the
Reason that I am here.
>> Bob: it's true.
>> It is.
You guys are my family and yes,
Yes, yes, yes.
And I wouldn't be where I am
Today without you.
But to the deepest corners and
Closets in this country, I hope
You know that if you don't have
A support system at all, we're
Your family now, we're your
Family now.
[Cheers and applause]
>> We love you, we accept you
And just be who you are because
We're here baby, we're f*cking
Here.
We're here.
[Cheers and applause]
>> One, two, three.
Amazing.
>> Amazing.
>> Love you.
>> I've been working on my
Smolder.
>> Real proud of you, baby.
>> So proud of you.
>> It was awesome.
>> Is that cool?
>> I don't' want to ruin your
Makeup.
>> Oh, kiss her.
>> Please do.
>> Shangela: we all have the
Same goal here and that is to
Put something on stage in this
Area that has not been there
Before and to represent for a
Community that does not get to
Have a voice around here.
>> What's this for?
>> Suicide prevention, bullying
Awareness.
>> Oh, that's great, thank you
Very much.
>> You're welcome.
>> Shangela: they don't get to
See this very often, oh my god,
Wow, this exists and it even
Exists in my little town.
>> Eureka: oh my god, oh my god,
Oh my god, I'm so proud of you.
That was so much fun.
>> It was empowering.
>> Eureka: this spirited person
That's right here, is who you
Are.
It's all you.
And you're allowed to accept all
Those emotions, you know what I
Mean?
>> Yeah.
>> Eureka: promise?
>> I promise.
>> Eureka: I'm proud of you.
What do you think, stacey?
How does it feel like seeing
Josh all dressed up?
>> Just processing all of this.
>> Eureka: are you gonna be
There with her while she
Processes this with her?
>> Yeah.
>> Eureka: I think that's the
Biggest thing.
You all still love each other
Regardless.
>> The drag queen community is
Its own tribe, you need a place
Where you feel like you belong,
Where you can just like be
Yourself and people get your
sh*t.
And you get their sh*t.
>> You look amazing, swear to
God.
>> I wouldn't deny an invitation
To that tribe but at the same
Time I also don't feel like I
Really belong you know.
>> Shangela: baby, that's how
You start a show, okay.
>> f*ck yeah.
>> Shangela: now when...
>> Well you don't want to come
Out too strong, cuz everyone
Else is like f*ck.
>> I didn't think I could have
Such an impact just you know
Putting on a dress and dancing
Around, but it meant a f*cking
Lot to a lot of people and like
That's really cool.
It's like a good thing, it's a
Beautiful thing.
>> Bob: there is the opportunity
To empower, when people see you
Up there being yourself.
So that the further generations
Down the line won't have to be
As afraid.
>> So f*ck, everyone's so happy.
I did very little.
I did very little.
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03x04 - Sussex, New Jersey
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Featuring former Drag Race contestants, documenting the drag queens as they travel across the United States to recruit small-town residents to participate in one-night-only drag shows.
Featuring former Drag Race contestants, documenting the drag queens as they travel across the United States to recruit small-town residents to participate in one-night-only drag shows.