02x03 - Wake-Up Call

[bunniefuu]

Previously on

"1000-lb sisters"

We're going to Atlanta today

to see Dr. Procter, and

[ Farts ]

What's your secret?

Even though Amy has lost

a lot of weight,

she's still a very

high-risk pregnancy

at 288 pounds.

Plus, this is going to put

a huge damper

on her overall weight loss.

I'm worried about Tammy.

Your chances of dying

in the next five years

are about 80%,

if nothing happens.

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What's your feelings about

the doctor's appointment, Tammy?

Come on, now. Stop it.

Tammy: When you don't feel like

doing something, you don't do it.

Just because she does it

don't make it right.

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Chris: We're going down here

to have breakfast.

After going through

what we went through

at doctor Procter's yesterday,

with Tammy,

she was pretty depressed.

So, I figured I'd talk to her,

and maybe just get her

in a better mood than what

she was when she went to bed.

Are you good there?

- Yeah.

I could push the table to you.

Tammy: No. I'm good.

Breakfast is gonna be

an egg-white omelette

and some yogurt.

Is this Greek yogurt,

or regular yogurt?

Greek yogurt.

Here we go.

[ Laughs ]

I know the temptations

are gonna be there.

I'm excited to be on

the journey with Tammy,

because it'll help motivate her,

and I believe it'll help me,

too, just stay on board.

Amy: Hey, Youtubies.

It's Amy.

Chris: There was three

beluga whales in that tank.

Tammy was the big white one.

Amy was the little gray one.

[ Laughs ]

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Amy: Today, me and Tammy

are gonna go see a therapist

because Dr. Procter wants us to.

Honestly, I don't feel like

I need therapy

because I've already had

the surgery.

Hi.

- Hello.

- Good to see you.

Amy: Nice to meet you.

Tammy: Hello.

I work almost exclusively

with bariatric patients,

and do pre-op evaluations, and

a lot of post-op care, as well.

Today, I'm meeting with

Amy and Tammy.

And Amy has already

had her surgery,

and Tammy's in the process

of trying to get ready

to have surgery.

And so, we wanted to talk about

if surgery is going to, indeed,

be an option for Tammy

in the future.

Dr. Stapleton:

Everybody's had covid tests?

Everybody's good?

You guys okay

if we take these off?

Amy: They smell. Please.

How are you feeling

about being here?

Good?

Oh. So, "therapist" sounds like,

"we have to talk

about feelings."

Not a comfortable topic, right?

We'll kind of go with

With what works for you, okay?

Where are things today?

Where are you in your lives?

Amy: I had gastric bypass.

Okay.

I lost 118 pounds.

And I found out

I was pregnant, too.

Oh. Wow. Well, congratulations.

Oh, my gosh.

Everything's going well.

Alright. Well, we'll come back

to that in a second.

I need to ask you, Tammy,

how do you feel about

your current circumstance?

It could be better.

It could be better?

So, you weren't able

to have surgery?

What happened there?

I mean, life happened.

Life happened?

It does that.

Do you still want

to have surgery,

or is that off

the table for you?

Okay.

So, what kinds of stuff

are you eating?

Ooh, look at that cheese.

Oh, yeah.

I think Amy is overdoing it

when she eats.

I'm giving her bad stuff

that's k*lling her,

but yet, if I don't,

she gets mad at me for it.

I'm trying to be nice.

Well, you're blaming

everything on me.

Of course.

Let's talk about the ability

to say "no."

We say "no" to kids

to keep them safe.

"I want to stay up

and watch a movie."

"No. It's bedtime.

You've got school."

But we fail to say

"no" to ourselves

because we want what we want

wen we want it,

because that's what addicts do.

Do either of you

consider yourself

to be an addict

A food addict?

- Yeah.

- Yeah.

So, how are you gonna learn

to say "no" to you?

Okay.

Are you willing, Amy,

to commit to not getting her

unhealthy foods?

No.

What you're responsible for

is what you do.

So, if you buy her that food,

that's the part

you're responsible for.

Right.

So, back to that "saying no."

Can you love her enough

to say "no"?

Maybe. Maybe not.

Amy and Tammy have a very strong

interdependent relationship,

and it's very, very unhealthy

for both of them.

The whole concept

of saying "no,"

whether it's to themselves

or to each other,

is pretty foreign,

and I think is something

that's gonna be critical,

in terms of either of their

success going forward.

So, when I look at you,

Tammy, I'm thinking

there are some things

you might be scared of.

Your sister's gonna have

all this other stuff

going on in her life.

I'd be scared to death.

I've had a lot of other people

tell me that they're scared

to have to take responsibility

for their lives.

That's a very good question.

She's seen me,

with her own frigging eyes,

walk without a Walker,

and she's making a big

[Bleep] deal about it.

So, your baby would be fine.

It hurts your feelings

when she says that?

She don't care.

Amy: Yeah, I do.

No, you don't.

I'm just worried

that you might fall.

You're not stable enough.

Don't sit there,

and make me out to be

the [bleep] bad guy.

I'm not the bad guy.

I'm just trying to say

Whatever.

I told her I didn't want to do

this [bleep] in the first place.

I know.

I had my surgery.

But did you just want

the surgery,

or did you want a better life?

I have a better life.

I got what I wanted.

I wanted a baby.

Do you want a better life

for the baby,

in terms of how he learns

to communicate,

how he learns

to talk with people?

I don't want to be called a bad

mom because I don't know

Tammy: Nobody's calling you

a bad mom.

You're going to be a great mom.

I hear that. I see that.

I feel that.

I know.

I was taught the same thing,

and I wanted to be different.

But I couldn't just snap my

fingers and know how to do it.

I went to individual therapy,

group therapy, couple's therapy.

How do you learn

how to be a good mom?

I guess watching "Brady bunch."

[ Laughs ]

If we were sad,

and we needed a hug growing up,

it was always, "toughen up."

I want me to be able to have

my kids come to me,

be able to get

all his emotions out.

What about you, Tammy?

What's something you're gonna do

for yourself going forward?

What do you plan to do

for the rest of your life,

keep all this stuff in you?

Eat at it?

Who are you mad at?

Yes, you are.

You shut down for a reason.

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Tammy, you've got to choose

to take care of you.

Okay?

Because I see that

you are more capable

than you're giving

yourself credit for.

You know,

it's about loving ourselves.

"Can I love myself enough

to stop harming my body

with food?"

Tammy clearly shuts down.

And mostly because

this is too much,

she fears she's not gonna be

heard anyway, so why bother?

But it's a clear sign that

she's communicating something

through that silence,

like, "I need help.

I need somebody to teach me

how to get this out of me."

You're welcome.

Thank you both for

You know, for listening.

I hope that some good

came from today,

and that you'll listen

to each other.

Based on what Tammy

was willing to put in today,

and based on what she's saying

about how she's eating,

absolutely she is not

a good candidate

for bariatric surgery

at this point in time.

Amy: In my mind,

I'm thinking the worst,

I'm thinking

I'm having a miscarriage.

Amy: Going home to Kentucky is

like a whole different experience,

because we're all on edge.

We're all just tired.

We're all kind of perturbed

because of how our appointment

went with Dr. Procter,

and then, me and Tammy's

appointment with the therapist.

We just want to just go home.

Let's go.

We rolling?

Let's go.

We're looking at least

eight hours driving time.

I'm glad that I'm able to

help Tammy along the way,

with the diet

Would you let me finish? Damn.

He's not my size,

but he is closer than what

you were, a little bit.

b*tch.

Oh. Has she?

Doing this trip, I would say

it has brought us together

a little closer.

[ Laughs ]

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Amy: Coming back from Atlanta,

I realized that I was on the

wrong track for a long time.

So, today, we're gonna be

making a healthy dinner,

just because

we want to be healthier,

and I need more nutrition

in my diet.

Yeah.

So, today, we're attempting to

make what was it?

Eggplant parmesan.

Yeah. Eggplant parmesan

and sketti squash.

Spaghetti squash spaghetti.

Spaghetti squarsh spaghetti.

Still didn't say it right,

but okay.

Yes.

Tammy's pretty knowledgeable

when it comes to food

because she watches

a lot of cooking shows.

That's the only thing

she's knowledgeable in.

b*tch, what?

Mama!

Okay, girl.

My damn.

Give me that spray.

Alright, this is ready.

Yeah.

Amy: I hope Tammy is serious

about changing.

Me and Tammy need

to work on ourselves.

We need to work on our

relationship with each other,

and our relationship with food.

I want my child to know

what a healthy relationship is

between me and my sister,

and be a better role model

for my child.

Trying is better than nothing.

I've still got to learn

how to say "no" to you.

Doesn't matter.

You're still gonna overeat.

Let me see it. Let me eat it.

Amy.

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I kind of liked it.

Compliments to the chef.

I'm the chef.

sh**t.

I put the batter on it.

That does not make you a chef.

[ Farts ]

[ Both laugh ]

I hate you.

[ Laughs ]

I seriously [Bleep] hate you.

Oh, my god.

I didn't know we would need

some air freshener for outside.

[ Both laugh ]

It kind of tastes

like Sauerkraut

with hamburger and sauce on it.

It ain't bad. I'm just saying.

The texture is kind of weird.

Tammy: No, you're not

on life support.

What?

Amy: Today, we have an

appointment for an ultrasound,

and it's perfect timing, because

I've been having a lot of pain,

a lot of cramping,

and I just want to make sure

the baby's okay.

- Hi, there.

- Hello. Amy.

Woman: How can I help you?

I'm here to see the doctor.

Have a seat.

I'll be with you

in just a moment, okay?

Having these symptoms

are really, really scary,

because I'm high-risk

because I am overweight.

Plus, I just had gastric bypass.

So, all of that together

really worries me.

Amy.

Come on back.

I'm five months pregnant,

and with these cramps,

I'm really scared that

I'll have pre-term labor.

We're just gonna have you sit

right there on the table,

and she'll be

right in with you, okay?

- Okay. Thank you.

- You're welcome.

In my mind,

I'm thinking the worst.

I'm thinking

I'm having a miscarriage.

Something's going on.

- Hi, Amy.

- Hello.

Laura: How are you today?

I'm having some, like cramping.

Laura: Okay. We're gonna

take a look,

and make sure everything's

looking okay today.

I'm Laura.

I'm gonna do your ultrasound.

Alright.

So, what I'm gonna do first is,

I'm gonna have you

just lift your shirt up for me,

and then lower your pants down.

I'm gonna put something here

so I don't get

any gel on you, okay?

So, have you been feeling

okay during your pregnancy?

Really? Yeah.

I'm looking at the sonogram

pictures like,

"is the baby okay?

Is the baby alive?"

If something happens,

I don't know what I would do.

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Well, everything looks great.

It could definitely be that

you're having Braxton Hicks.

And, you know,

they will get stronger

as baby does continue to grow.

So, what is Braxton Hicks?

Uterine cramping.

Do you ever have cramping

with your periods?

Yeah.

It's like that,

except for a lot stronger.

Braxton Hicks do present,

a lot of times,

in the second trimester.

And I think that's probably

what she's feeling.

Amy is considered a high-risk

pregnancy due to her weight.

If Amy would have lost more

weight before she got pregnant,

it probably would have been

a smoother pregnancy.

And I think that

she could face challenges

as it's time to deliver.

Are you taking prenatal

vitamins every day?

Yes, ma'am. Good.

Are you keeping on

a healthy diet?

It is very important

to maintain a healthy diet,

just because, a lot of times,

with obesity,

a what runs hang-in-hand

is high blood pressure.

And those are things

that they will continue

to monitor

throughout your pregnancy,

to make sure that

those do stay stable.

You want to hear

baby's heartbeat?

Yeah.

[ Machine warbles ]

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It's such a relief to hear

that it's just Braxton Hicks.

And the baby's got

a good heartbeat.

Everything's healthy

with the baby.

No.

It's nice and insolated

in there.

Just listen to your body.

Rest when you feel like

you're not feeling well.

Sometimes, your body

just needs that extra rest.

Okay. Thank you.

Alright. Do you want me to

Yeah, you can pull this down,

put your feet up here.

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[ Cellphone buzzes ]

Hello?

Amanda: What is going on?

Amy's on the way

to the hospital.

Alright.

- Alright. I love you. Bye.

- Love you, too. Bye.

Amy went to the E.R.

this morning.

I'm waiting to hear

what happened,

why she went to the hospital,

if she's okay.

So, I'm kind of, like,

freaking out,

just hoping everything's okay

with her and the baby.

♪♪

Michael: No. Not yet.

Is she admitted, or are they

just monitoring her?

Alright.

[ Amy crying ]

You're not dying.

What the [bleep]

are you talking about?

[ Amy crying ]

Amy.

[ Amy crying ]

Amy, relax.

Relax.

The baby

Is making you sick.

Amy.

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Tammy: I can only hope that

nothing's wrong with the baby.

Chris: Tammy's hard to deal with

when she gets upset.

So, if that doctor says

the wrong thing,

and pisses her off,

it's gonna be hell on wheels.

Kind of dreading it,

'cause I'm afraid the scale's

gonna be like, "you're fat."

Well, clearly.

I'm nervous because

I've had some bad days

where I just eat whatever.

I didn't even think

that was humanly possible.

But apparently, it is.