Previously on "90 day
fianc"...
Patrick is concerned
about alla's intentions.
So, you're
Matt's next wife.
-Hello.
-Nice to meet you.
As a family,
you know, we talk,
and we're like, "okay,
is she using my brother?"
It's not fair.
He thinks I party too hard.
Before I came to Morocco,
I cheated on azan.
It's not something
I've done before.
I'm sorry,
but that's really not okay.
And coming up...
I was catfished
by my own fianc,
but I want to marry him
anyway.
She put a ring on it.
-Did you find an apartment?
-Uh...
I haven't been completely
honest
with anfisa about my past.
Chantel,
you can't run away from it.
You got to tell your parents
what's going on.
If you were my daughter,
'I would be upset.
Alla's looking good tonight.
I'm sure she's gonna get
some attention.
I had no idea
that Matt is a jealous person.
I respect your culture.
Can you stop talking
for a second?
You should know by now I'm not
a sit and listen kind of girl.
Get away from me.
It's a little scary to
be in America, away from home.
I left my life in Russia.
It was pretty nice.
Did you find
an apartment?
No,
I didn't find anything.
I went to check out
a couple spots,
and basically, they just
gave me the run-around.
It's not that easy.
Anfisa's getting
more and more frustrated.
And I am worried that if I
don't
find an apartment soon,
anfisa's gonna want
to go back to Russia.
Oh, so this is
your vacation.
I really don't like
the hotel thing,
but there has been
a little bit of hiccups.
And I haven't been
completely honest with anfisa
as to why I haven't been able
to get the apartment.
I'm sorry.
It's difficult for me
to get an apartment because...
Every apartment asks if
I've been convicted of a
felony,
and I have
a criminal background.
Well, I told you
that I work in
the medical marijuana
industry.
When I started,
it wasn't as legal.
Marijuana is ill*gal in
Russia,
and if you have it,
you'll get arrested.
If he didn't tell me before,
who knows what else
he has to hide.
-You were in jail?
-I got in trouble.
Uh, I went to jail
for a few days.
But it's really not
a violent crime
or anything like that.
I was arrested at 21.
I ended up pleading to a deal,
and I was stuck with a felony
for cultivating marijuana.
Now the laws
have changed,
and there's permits
to allow for medical marijuana
to be cultivated.
I just didn't want
to worry you.
Like, I didn't know
how to tell you.
I didn't know
how to tell you.
I didn't think you would...
Ever find out.
I came halfway across the
world
to be with Jorge,
but now I feel like
I don't really know him.
I didn't think
of the consequences
when this
was all happening.
You know, obviously, I want to
give you everything you want.
I need some time to think
about
what this means.
Just bear with me,
please.
Where the heck
is my stethoscope?
I hope it's in the car 'cause
I really got to get going.
My name is narkyia.
I am 37 years old.
I am a nurse.
My family is pretty big.
I have my son, Malcolm.
-How was school?
-Good.
-Good?
-Mm-hmm.
That's cool.
And my brother and then my
mom.
She has the keys,
so always in my business.
Three, two, one.
Go.
I spend a lot of time
with my son, Malcolm.
We may go to the pool.
We may got to the park.
He's like my little best
friend.
I can't do that.
-Your turn.
-You did it fast.
After I split up
with Malcolm's father,
I spent a lot of time single,
mainly because I didn't want
to
date a guy in this area,
'cause the guys in this area
are all
They're all
and I was just tired of it.
So I was looking
for something different.
My fianc's name is olulowo.
It is a bit of a tongue
twister,
so we call him "lowo."
We met on social media
about two years ago
in a group for plus-size
women.
And we just really
matched well together.
We're both kind of
adventurous,
outgoing, funny.
He's just like
a really fun person.
And at that time, he told me
he was a Nigerian prince.
He also told me
he was living in Alabama,
he had a son,
and that his son's mother
had passed away.
And I started to feel,
like, a little suspicious.
So I went into
inspector gadget mode.
I found some really big lies.
I found out that he had
another social media profile.
Then I see a picture of woman
with his son.
This was his son's mother,
very much alive and not dead.
I reached out to her,
and she told me that lowo was
in Vietnam studying business.
And that is when I realized
that I've been catfished.
I felt like a damn fool.
I felt like,
"how could I not see this?"
He was in Vietnam, and there's
like a 12-hour time
difference.
So there'd be times, like,
I'm getting ready to go to
bed,
and he'd be laying down
in the middle of the day
in the room
with the lights out,
pretending that
he's going to bed, too.
Like, he was really vested
in his lies.
I had to confront him.
And surprisingly,
he just confessed right away.
He just said, "you're right.
I'm sorry.
I'm glad you know."
And I was pissed.
So I just stopped talking
to him, you know?
But he wouldn't leave me
alone.
Calling, texting, e-mailing.
He's trying to apologize.
He's telling me that he didn't
think I would talk to him
if I knew he was in Vietnam.
Usually, I'm the type of
person
that I, like, really --
I will hold a grudge.
You piss me off, I will act
like
you never existed.
But it was
just different with him
because we talked so much
and we had
such a good connection.
I felt like
part of me was missing.
It was just hard for me
not to talk to him.
I think the reason why
I eventually forgave him
is because he really owned
what he did,
and he was trying
to make things work.
So, I booked a flight to
Vietnam
to go meet him.
And the nine days
that I spent with lowo
were probably, like,
the best nine days of my life.
While I was there,
he proposed to me.
Wow, wow, wow.
Ooh!
If anyone else would tell me,
like, they were getting
married
with lies
and, you know, the deceit
and things that happened,
I would probably be like,
"what kind of crack
are they smoking?"
I'd think that's crazy.
But with lowo and I,
it just feels right.
She put a ring on it.
I did.
We're hoping that his k-1 visa
will be approved very soon.
And I can bring him here,
and we will have 90 days
to get married.
So, I'm ready.
Right now, lowo is back
in his home country of
Nigeria,
getting ready
for his visa interview.
Yeah.
So, this is, like,
the last step.
Are you excited?
It's not like an exam.
Oh, yeah,
I feel pretty confident.
Unless there's something
I don't know about.
You got some skeletons
you want to tell me about?
Because he lied
at the beginning,
I question a lot of things
that he says to me.
You know, like, he really has
to
prove stuff, like anything.
Like, he could be like,
"I just got finished eating,"
and he'll have to show me
the empty plate.
Call me when you're done.
I'll be waiting.
Mwah.
Mwah.
I love you.
All right,
we'll talk very soon, okay?
My biggest fear is
that lowo is just not the
person
that he says he is
and that he's still just,
you know, catfishing me
in a way.
I made up this lie
that he was coming here
on a student visa
because my family
has never met him.
If you were my daughter,
I would be upset.
We had a huge fight,
and now things are really
weird.
You should know by now I'm not
a sit and listen kind of girl.
Pedro and I
have just gotten back
from our little beach getaway,
and I feel bad because
I was really way out of hand.
You seem drunk...
This is really not worth
fighting over.
There's more important things
that need to happen.
I'm thinking about
telling my parents
that Pedro and I are
actually secretly engaged,
but I'm not sure how to do it.
Today, we're here to talk to
a family friend, bishop
Watson,
about what to do
and get a little bit of advice
about how to tell my parents.
-Hey.
-Hey.
Come on in.
-How y'all doing?
-Wonderful, wonderful.
-How you doing?
-Hey.
-Good, good, good.
-Hi.
Come on in.
Y'all can have a seat here.
I've been knowing Chantel
ever since she was
in the third grade.
Her and my daughter was on
the cheerleading team
together.
She's a girl that dreams big
and go after her dream.
I wanted to talk to
you
about something
that's pretty private
right now...
Okay.
...that my parents
don't know about,
my family doesn't know about.
And I just want you
to please promise
that you're not gonna go back
and tell them.
Well, whatever you say here,
it stays in between us.
-Okay.
-Okay?
Who is this?
This is Pedro.
Okay.
How you doing, Pedro?
-I'm fine.
-Good, good.
He's my fianc.
All right.
Okay. Fianc.
So, how long
have y'all been together?
-One year.
-Okay.
Just about.
We met in
the Dominican Republic.
And last October,
he proposed to me.
Okay.
Pedro, how do you feel
about Chantel?
Um...
Okay.
Y'all haven't spent
a lot of time together.
But you're in love.
So what's the problem?
The problem is
I made up this lie
that he was coming here
on a student visa,
because my family
has never met him
and they would probably think
that he just wants to come
here
for a visa.
But the k-1 visa
is the only option.
And Pedro and I
have to get married
before the k-1 visa expires.
And so how much time
do you have left?
A little over a month.
Okay.
-That's tough.
-That's tough.
That's -- that's tough.
I'm gonna be honest
with you.
If you were my daughter,
I would be upset.
Yeah.
I would be upset.
Chantel,
you can't run away from it.
You got to face it head-on.
-I know your father.
-Mm-hmm.
Expect him to get upset.
It's gonna be
somewhat of a thunderstorm.
That is without a shadow
of a doubt.
You got to sit down
with your parents,
tell them exactly what's
going on as soon as possible.
Maybe like tomorrow.
Tomorrow?
Oh, my goodness.
It's gonna be a hard --
a hard mountain to climb.
You have to just come clean.
Honestly, it's really
kind of tough love here,
but we need to tell my dad
and be straight up honest.
I not ready.
I not ready, baby.
-Okay.
-I not ready.
You ready?
You're not ready.
No, I'm not.
Baby, you and me...
But ready or not,
we're gonna have to.
I've been in Morocco
with azan
for almost two weeks now.
There's a lot different here
than it is in America.
The hardest thing to get used
to
is that we can't show
affection
in public.
Ah.
We're staying
at azan's mom's house,
and he's supposed to take me
around the town today.
But we had a huge fight
before the crew got here.
And it's gotten really weird.
Look, azan.
I tried to hug him
out in public,
and he kind of
pushed me away.
And the way he kind of looked
at me, it really upset me.
It's like,
"what are you doing?"
Just, I don't know.
No, please wait.
If Nicole, like,
she doesn't respect
everything about my culture,
I'm not sure I can spend
my whole life with her.
I don't know.
I feel like that's what
happened, like, every day,
and that's really making me,
like, sad and upset.
But I understand
the majority.
I understand
the majority of it --
we can't kiss and stuff
and have huge hugs and stuff.
That's why I told her
that she's...
But look, I'm listening,
talking to you.
Okay?
They're not
gonna arrest you
for assaulting
my shoulder.
You know, for me,
it's like I really don't care
if she thinks
it's a stupid law or stuff,
because it's my culture
and it's my country.
And I really respect it
and love it.
I respect it, too,
but I'm sure they don't care
if I put my arm around you.
Of course you don't care.
You just don't care
about anyone.
You don't care about
what people say.
No, it's not bad to talk much.
No, it's not.
I hate that.
I'm sorry.
I guess that's just how I am.
I know.
You should know by now I'm not
a sit and listen kind of girl.
I came all this way
to be with Jorge,
and he can't even find a place
to live for us.
Can you just
get over it already?
They still have no
idea
about all of lowo's lies.
He told me
his son's mom was dead.
You should not marry him.
Latoya here already?
Yeah, I think she is.
Tonight,
I'm meeting my cousin rana
and my friend latoya
for dinner.
And they're both gonna be
bridesmaids in my wedding.
We hope.
-Hey, boo.
-Hi. Good to see you.
-So, what's up?
-Nothing much.
When my friends
and family found out
that lowo and I were engaged,
the majority of them were
really
shocked and, like, surprised.
They were,
"where did this guy come from?
And all of a sudden
they're engaged."
-Oh, wow, that looks good.
-That is a huge burger.
Anything I can get
for you, ladies?
-No, I'm okay.
-Thank you.
-Enjoy.
-Thank you.
They still have no
idea
about all of lowo's lies.
But I feel like eventually
they're gonna find out.
And by the time he's here,
I need everybody to be on
board
with this wedding.
So, when is lowo coming?
Uh...Soon.
He should be here
in a couple of weeks.
He has his interview
really soon.
He's a really nice guy,
and I think
you're gonna like him.
I guess.
But, um...
Um...
I feel a little
scared
'cause I don't know
how they're gonna react.
Like, I'm forgiving
and accepting,
and I don't know
if they will be.
I mean, like, the thing that
I am kind of concerned about
is
we didn't really start out
on the best terms.
Okay.
And you mean by what?
In the beginning,
he was lying to me.
Lying to you about what,
kyia?
Well, when we first met,
you know, he told me
that he was living in Alabama.
He even gave me an address.
He was not in Vietnam.
It was pretty bad.
It was a deep lie, yeah.
Are you serious?
That's a big lie.
-Yeah.
-That's a huge lie.
-That's serious.
-That's a huge lie.
Well, there's more.
That's not the only thing
he lied about.
He also told me that
his son's mom was dead.
And you're okay
with those lies?
I wasn't okay with it.
I mean, what do you think?
Somebody's gonna lie to me,
and I'll be like,
"oh, it's fine,
just tell me anything"?
That's not really
a lie you should tell.
Right.
And I found out he had
two Facebook accounts.
I mean, that's kind of
how I found out
that his son's mom
wasn't dead.
Two social medias?
Two of them.
He was catfishing you.
If that's
what you want to call it.
We don't know
who this guy is.
He could come in
and take everything.
We don't know if he wants
money,
if he wants his green card.
I mean, you hear about people
being scammed all the time
from people in Nigeria.
He didn't know you.
He didn't have a reason to lie
in the beginning.
No, I guess he didn't
really have a reason, per se.
You know, honestly,
I really don't know
why he lied
from the beginning.
What he tells me
is that he never really
expected our conversations
to really go anywhere.
And when it did, he didn't
know
how to get out of the lies
because he started with them.
I mean, we have
a really good relationship
outside of the fact
that he lied to me.
How do you know he's not
already
married in Nigeria?
Well...
His family
is polygamist.
This guy could have fiances
all over the world.
The only thing she really
knows
is that he's a huge liar.
When you go through
this k-1 process,
they check all that.
He's not married.
He has never been married.
He's not married.
Because
you're so much in love,
who's to say you're thinking
with a clear head?
Who's to say you're thinking
with a clear head?
I see things more clear
'cause I'm not in love with
him.
This talk did not
really help how I was feeling.
It actually just pissed me off
more than anything.
Like, I'm looking forward
to getting married,
and I want my friends
to be happy for me.
You can't sit here and tell me
you ain't ever been lied to.
I just hope you really know
what you're getting
yourself into.
Ever since I told
anfisa
about my past,
she's been acting
a little cold and distant.
And to make things worse,
I still haven't found us
a place to live.
What?
Do we need to talk about
anything?
'Cause I don't want to
talk with you.
We don't need to talk
right now.
Good.
Really?
...I was okay with that
because not like he k*lled
somebody or something like
that.
Why do you have to
act like this?
What's your reason
of acting
like the way
you're acting right now?
Can you just
get over it already?
What? But why?
You're just
making it worse.
I put everything on hold
for anfisa,
and it's frustrating that
she won't cut me some slack.
Sometimes anfisa
acts like a 4-year-old.
Maybe I can distract her
with something sweet.
Thank you.
Do you like it?
Do you like yours?
-You want to try it?
-No.
Looks terrible.
You don't take care of me.
-You don't feed me.
- You don't do nothing.
Yes, I do.
Last night, it was late,
and I went out and got you
what you wanted.
So? That's normal.
It's not something
you should be proud of.
Okay.
What about
apartment hunting?
I get some stuff done
in the morning.
I'm trying my best.
So you're not mad at me?
I'm not gonna
deal with it for much longer.
Jorge should find us a place,
or I'm leaving.
Alla's looking good tonight.
She's done a good job
of making sure that people
are gonna notice her.
I had no idea
that Matt is a jealous person.
I haven't heard from him.
It could be something
that he's hiding in his past.
Welcome, welcome.
-Okay.
-Okay.
-All right, have fun, babe.
-Yeah.
Alla's looking good tonight.
I'm sure she's gonna get
some attention,
which is what she's wanting,
so she's done a good job
of making sure that people
are gonna notice her.
-Bye!
-Max needs a hug.
It's my turn
to stay home and watch Max
because it's important to alla
that she gets to go out
and do what she enjoys.
What's the first thing we do
when mom's not here?
We get some beer.
Flying solo.
Juice.
-Yes.
-Toast.
To boys night.
Yes?
Hm.
All right, you ready?
Let's go get some drinks.
With no kids.
So, what are the places
in Kiev like?
Are they like this?
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think it's difficult for her
to be away from her family
right now.
And I think that
that's sort of hitting her.
But overall,
I think alla is doing pretty
good as far as adjusting.
So, was Matt being difficult
about you going out tonight?
Oh...Yes.
Mm-hmm.
Patrick had mentioned to me
that Matt has had
bad marriages before.
This one's
going to be bad, too.
He has doubts
about the relationship.
"What if alla is,
you know, like his exes?"
Well, I think you guys
don't have the chance
to live together and really
get to know each other
before you get married.
And I'm sure
that that is scary.
The process of the k-1 visa
is just like complete
You fill out a bunch of
papers.
You pay a whole bunch of
money,
and you wait.
You don't have any control
over anything.
You just wait.
And where we are,
I'm waiting to hear back from
lowo about his visa interview.
This is the last step,
and as soon as he gets
approved
he can finally be here,
and we can get married.
I am going to feel
like a crazy woman
until I hear the results.
Like, I can't think about
anything else.
I can't sleep.
I can't eat.
I can't concentrate.
Let me try that again.
Wow, I know
he has to be done by now.
I wish he would pick up.
I don't really understand
why I haven't heard from him.
I'm actually a little anxious
and a little angry
at the same time.
I've been trying to reach you.
I am so nervous.
I haven't even slept.
And I feel like
we have everything in place.
There's no reason
for us to be denied,
but, I mean, it could
possibly be something
that he's hiding in his past.
Toya.
Did I wake you up?
Oh, I'm sorry.
So, you know, I still haven't
heard from lowo, right?
Yeah, I'm serious.
Like, what does he think?
That I'm just over here
just calm, cool, and
collected?
Like, doesn't he think that
I'm worried, I'm concerned?
You know what?
I don't know.
I just really hope, like --
I'm trying to be as optimistic
as possible.
But I don't know.
I feel like
I'm losing hope right now.
All right, good night.
Bye.
We have our whole lives
planned out.
And if I were to lose the
plans
for my future
because lowo is just
one big old catfish,
I would be really hurt.
This is just, like, total b.S.
I can't even deal with this.
I'm really excited
to show her our new apartment.
Is this like
your Russian apartment?
Mm, no. My Russian apartment
was bigger.
-Nicer?
-Um...
You're making me feel like
I don't matter.
So?
-I don't matter?
-No.
Get away from me.
Between telling her
about my past
and staying in a hotel
since she arrived,
I'm worried
that I'm gonna lose anfisa.
Mm-hmm.
But I finally found something
through a friend of a friend.
And I'm really excited
to show her our new apartment.
So, how do you like it?
Yeah, looks new.
Oh, walk-in closet.
There a light?
You think this is enough
for all your stuff?
No.
I like it.
Is this like
your Russian apartment?
Mm, I think my Russian
apartment
was bigger.
-Bigger?
-Yeah.
-Nicer?
-Um...Yes.
Yes?
This apartment is okay for
now,
but after we get married,
I would like to have a big
house
with a pool, with big windows.
But I thought
you were gonna cook.
Not today?
When we started dating,
you didn't want me to cook.
You're like, "it's okay.
You don't need to cook.
You don't need to clean."
And now when I came,
that's what my mom told me.
Right before I came to
America,
I lived with my grandmother.
I don't really do any chores.
I don't cook or clean.
Grandma does all that.
But you told me
that you wanted to cook.
I want to try.
But don't pressure me.
I'm sorry, okay.
You don't have to cook.
I personally think
that the wife
should take care of the home
and take care of the family,
while the husband goes and
works
and provides.
Okay.
Yeah,
I'm okay with a sandwich.
Yeah?
Turn it.
Why it keeps
making sound?
Because it's on "light."
That's just to light it.
Oh.
See, it says "high."
You don't know
when the water boils?
So you see those bubbles?
When the water boils,
they start to raise to the
top.
And then when it bubbles,
then you know it's boiled.
Mm-hmm.
You have something.
See that?
I really don't know
how to do this.
Oh, we forgot to salt.
That should be good.
It's hot.
Let me see.
For the first time,
anfisa and I are getting to do
these daily things together,
and it feels really good.
Now we got a place.
Hopefully,
things will settle down,
and we'll both be more ready
to walk down the aisle.
I love it.
I think most of the time
we're gonna go out to eat.
So, you think
I'm gonna be a good wife?
You're already amazing.
This is stupid.
This is just so stupid.
Like, okay, I don't want him
to,
like, romantically hug me
and feel up my body.
I just want him
to have his arm around me
and to feel proud
to show me to people.
Maybe I just like
being shown off
and feel like
someone's proud of me
because before no one
really wanted to be with me.
Maybe that's just my insight.
Maybe that's from my
childhood.
I don't know what it is,
but it just pisses me off.
And he should understand me
a little more than that.
What?
Come here.
You really don't care
about my feelings?
I'm sorry.
You really don't care
about my feelings?
Live with what?
I can't live
with the way you feel.
The way you act
all the time.
You say you can't live with
it.
You don't always treat me
right.
Why do you do that?
Listen to me.
I don't care if you're living
in America, okay?
I don't care
about your culture.
First, you should respect
my culture because you are in--
I respect your culture.
You're not respecting me.
Because you are
in Morocco now.
Maybe I feel like
you're not proud of me.
That's not true.
Then why can't you
just show me off?
Listen.
Can I just talk?
Can you stop talking
for a second?
I really care about my
culture,
and I care about the law.
I care about the law.
And respect the old people
who can see --
you know,
that's shame and immoral.
You can't do that.
Putting your arm around
someone?
Yeah, you can't do that
in Morocco. Yeah.
That's true.
So I'm sorry.
So how are you
gonna show me off?
If you can't do
any of that stuff, h*
I don't know.
I promise that I don't know
what to do now.
You need to figure it out,
though.
Literally, you're making me
feel like I don't matter.
Yeah, so?
-So?
-Yeah, so?
I don't matter?
No, not anymore.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry,
but I don't like this.
Get away from me.
I don't know.
I don't know.
I'm sorry, but no.
You know, she really don't
care
about my culture,
about my religion.
And she even don't respect
my religion.
That's really bad.
I can't live with that.
I don't know now
if I can ask her to marry me.
Even if I love her,
I don't know.
Yeah.
Next time on "90 day fianc"...
I'm starting to
worry.
Maybe he's lying to me again.
Maybe he's not the person
he says he is.
-Hey, baby.
-Why didn't I hear from you?
So, this isn't
your guys' first time?
I have been married
three times.
This is the last one,
right?
When Jorge asked me
to come to the states,
he promised to get me
whatever I want.
The dress would be $45,000.
I'm not forcing you to kiss me
in public or anything.
I never thought
we'd have this many problems.
Oh, I'm scared.
This lie,
it spun out of control.
I'm going to get married.
I'm not gonna have any guests.
God! No.
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