Don't Say Goodbye to Dad
I'm coming
- hello - hi
Hi
- hey dad - hey honey
- do you have cutlery -I'll get it
- have you brought everything? -Um
Would you like white wine or red wine?
- where are the kids - dad doesn't want them to come
we can't find a babysitter
You leave the kids alone at home?
- Of course not. - You and Mom have done this before, right?
You guys go to the movies while we're asleep
yes sometimes
Luckily, my mother is free to help us take care of the children.
Dad, why can't the children come?
Dad, can you get us some water?
- dad? - it will be quieter
Dad, it's delicious
Are you sure the food portion is just right?
twenty one
this is unique
twenty two
Children have to divide like this every day
twenty three
- It wouldn't be too bad to divide this, would it? -is that so?
twenty four
Glad I got such a small piece of kamaboko
- do you want some - Is that red curry spicy?
-Only one item on the menu is pepper. -Don't be fooled
I had chicken cashew nuts with oyster sauce and it was super spicy
- super spicy? No. -Where did I go to eat?
"Top Thai style"? Or "Thai is delicious"?
can i have some of that
- come on - thank you love you
How is Alice's "Life Water" work going?
It went well
- is there any new development - doesn't count
I'm going to a seminar
-Where do you go? -South Africa
- you are going to south africa - yeah, poor
Are you going to South Africa? go alone?
Can everyone listen to this?
I invite you to come...
Because there's something I've been holding in my heart for a long time
- Have you met someone you like? -no
i love you all
but i have to tell you this
I hope you can respect my choice
Even if you listen to it, you may not like it
I decided that next year will be my last birthday
Are you no longer celebrating birthdays?
75 is a wonderful age but I don't plan on passing 76
i'm going to end my life
-Are you serious? -right
-Why? - because I'm fine now
I don't want to have to rely on you guys or doctors or whatever later on.
So I've been on meds for years
-how many years? - yes
Why didn't you tell us before?
I have to make sure
- so are you sure now - yeah sure
A new batch has arrived. The previous batch has expired.
- I don't want to live anymore. - Don't want to live?
Sometimes I don't want to do certain things
Kate and Noah never want to do things
we all have low tides
-but there's no reason to commit su1c1de over that. -su1c1de su1c1de...
- yes su1c1de! - I'm going to end my life, Alice.
- Dad, are you sick? -No
sorry
But if I don't tell you I will...
You can get used to it first
- Adapt first? -right
But Dad, it's illegal, isn't it?
The medicine I take is very humane and many people use it
I can't figure out which one is playing.
you're healthy with alice and me by your side
You don't need a wheelchair and babysitter every Tuesday
Children and grandchildren live in such a wonderful house again...
You, too, can be independent. Why?
I said I don't want to live anymore
What kind of logic is this? You're not a f*cking kid.
-Alice, please. -What, I just don't understand.
I don't understand and don't want to understand
i know it's hard to digest
But there's no such thing as a perfect time
either too late or too early
i'd rather leave early
That's why I want to stop in a few months
Next stop? Dad, are you taking the bus?
Maybe we should settle down
Um
Next stop... Dad, are you serious?
Can I put this here?
can't you sleep
- Coco, it's time to go to bed. - Are you going to scare your mother to death?
Is this the only way to do it?
Yeah that's the only way to keep her quiet
Although not very good for the environment
It's too late for an abortion
- jane wants to k*ll herself - what?
- are you kidding me -No
true and false?
hold one
- green light. - how is he going to k*ll himself?
Apparently he's been taking su1c1de dr*gs for years.
-What? - you heard me right
- is this legal - it should be illegal dill...
I can't go around it, mentally handicapped
annoying
do you want me to talk to him
Do you think you can make him change his mind?
yeah listen if you want me to do it i will do it
I'll make him change his mind, by force if necessary.
hateful
- you dropped it - i don't have one there
you can use that
- did you tell the kids -No
It's not your problem. Don't think too much about it.
- i didn't think too much about it
This is Jane's problem. It has nothing to do with you or Ivan.
- do you think he would really do that -Um
Well, I think so too
- take that thing away. - what do you think of this?
Very shocking to both of you, of course.
But try to see it from Jane's point of view
Of course it won't be easy
It's okay for some people to decide their own time.
To be honest, I quite admire your father's courage.
It's time. It's a pity we didn't finish. We have to go.
He mentioned that he didn't want to go through the pain
He would rather have no pain at all
Sounds reasonable, right?
I've never heard of it
Alice, did you hear him say
i shouldn't have come
- are you leaving - kate noah bye
here
What was that storm called? Dennis?
hit the netherlands hard
But the situation in the UK is even more serious
character that sounds like a situation comedy
If we don't act, we will all sink eventually.
Let's talk about that Plan D
How was your weekend, Alice?
very weird
My dad said he didn't want to live
he wants to end his life
that's all
- oh my god - sorry
It smells so good. Is this your specialty lasagna?
Yes
- thanks for the pickup. - what are you doing
- you can't ride a lasagna on a bicycle . - yeah
alright
Honey, have you got my bag?
Hey
I'll take this bag for you
- and a case
- I think these are dolls. - What are these?
Can make a small river, like this side
let's watch a movie
The more time you spend, the less time you spend watching movies
Come on, don't... Noah, you too
- How is Laura? -completely fine
- she's sleeping - like a doll
- super cute - really
- Dad, do you want some? -Okay, thank you
looks great
- are you all right? - so far
- looks delicious. - does elizabeth want it?
It's not tasty when it's cold. You need to microwave it again.
put it back in the microwave
Can you?
Have you checked that website?
hmm but that's too complicated
i want to keep it simple
I want the ending to be as simple as possible
so you can save trouble
That's why I want to say choose a suitable day
around my birthday
It could be on or after November 28th
but i don't want to wait too long
How do you feel about your day?
- ok. - ok?
The day is most convenient for us
Alice what do you think?
I think it's f*cking inconvenient that day
-mom? -what happened, Babe?
- doesn't work - press play
- I tried - "play key"
- I pressed ten times. - Don't press ten times. Just one.
That's my work computer, and it's all in there.
I'll take a look
I've discussed it with Ivan a few times
I also think it's a good idea to write the script beforehand
I saw a script on the Internet that many people use
I think it's a good idea to write the script first.
Sorry it works now
there are too many things to take care of
Like dues, house, furniture...
- by cremation or burial? -right
What kind of coffin and urn to use
Which song to play, speeches and obituaries are all considered
I've also talked to some people about the house
it's wise to sell now
You don't have to pay so much inheritance tax
Are we really going to start doing this all of a sudden?
Suddenly it all makes sense?
Dad, do you want us there when you k*ll yourself?
Alice, can we talk about this later?
i want to know the answer now
Alice, I don't have an answer yet. Is this ok?
I thought you both had a plan.
that's not the point
I don't want to cause you trouble after death
- but you still celebrate your birthday, right? -Yes
- Then everyone will know? -of course not
- it's just a birthday party - it's a farewell
Dad, give me the plate and I'll pack some for you
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It starts with a lot of guitar...the melody is simple
wait, hum again
again
wait let's listen
- didn't detect - this melody is in my head all day
- who sang it - i only remember the melody
- the song is very old - wait and sing it again
- guitar first - you gotta sing it
Then there's the piano, and then we start all over again.
wait thank you
Hi
- are you familiar with music -um, yes
I hum some melody, can you listen to it for me?
-What? - there's a song i can't remember
good
First it's the guitar and then...
repeat again
a bit difficult
i think of two songs
"How to Stay in a Dream" by Tim Harding
The melody is also a bit like Rodriguez's "Why"
that song is now famous because of the documentary
but i'm not sure
good
- does it have something to do with your dad - can you send it to me
- what you said at lunch... - can you send it to me?
uh of course
Can you decide this today?
- oh ok thanks - thank you
You've entered Laura's voicemail
God, Luo, who the hell wrote this song?
And did you see my room?
We have space. It's a Dinon.
Wait a minute. See you later.
-hey-hey
Elizabeth doesn't want to join?
no she thinks... take
She thinks that's what we should do together
she has a point
- is she at home with the kids -right
- hi dad - hi
Of course, it is more lively and interesting when children come together
But they also have their own ideas
- so does elizabeth . - yes
It's really weird but I'm getting used to it
-And you? -No
Dad, I figured I could...
Put stickers on what we want
I bought some stickers I use green you use red
If both stickers are on the item
decide on a coin toss
-is it on sale now? -No
You haven't confirmed the date yet, can you hurry up?
- what now? - Yes, so we can settle the case first.
okay
Let me see
- on the day of the party? - tentatively
- ok i can - can you
- yes - all right, finalize the date
Does that make you feel better, Dad?
I started posting from downstairs
yes i'm here again
I'm going downstairs to put on the iron table lamp
no not sofa
- would you like something to drink -No
yes i know
I also posted it from downstairs
- do i need to go out for a while -Need not
it might be better to go out
- where did dad go -I have no idea
Mom's clothes are still there, you know?
have no idea
- i think i'd like to be there. - where?
Dad's Last Moment Scene
No way, dad said it all
Just sneak in
We can't just let him go alone, can we?
- Have you finished posting upstairs? -Um
- so fast - of course
I'm not like someone who wants to negotiate everything
(Tim Harding - "How to Stay in a Dream")
what can i say she is leaving
leave everything in front of us
what can i do i still love you
It turned out that everything was just a dream
How can I continue to stop in the dream?
How can... can I go back to the way it was in the past?
Hey are you going on a trip?
is to move in with you
dad
great huh?
- would you like some coffee - no i'm almost done
dad
- do you want to buy that -What?
that cup
-Uh, I... -No need?
go away
i'm talking to you
you're jumping on someone else's couch
What's wrong?
Do you let her jump on the sofa like this at home?
-What's wrong? - that sofa is mine
- so why is it here - some misunderstanding
my brother should have called me
So you can talk to my daughter like that?
- yes - mind yourself
Wow, it's fierce, take care of your stinky child
What did you say? Liv let's go
this woman is not normal
Sometimes it's crazy
Miss
- remember to check out - uh this is mine
Check it out, it's 3.5 euros
No, it's really mine. My dad gave it to me when I was four.
- class - what's going on?
Here's my stroller so I'm gonna take it
- you can't get things around - get things around?
This, those cups and that sofa belong to my house
- i'm taking it back now - sorry
I know it's annoying but I gotta take it back
pardon me for being inflexible
- how much again -3.5 euros
- can i swipe my card - this will add another 0.5 euros
Shall we just leave him like this?
Dad, you can become an actor
stop pretending, get up
dad
How are you moving?
uh... that's interesting
- Where's Ivan? - it went well
I still need to practice mixing medicine and yogurt
It must be added immediately, otherwise there will be an error
- should i buy more yogurt -Yes
Waking up in the morning to find you dead
What should we do first?
i just said
I just want to double check
The most important thing is to make sure that Dad is dead.
still can't move him
Then call the doctors and tell them to call the police.
the order is important
If you can't touch Dad, how can you be sure he's dead?
why didn't we wear gloves sooner
Now the lobby is full of fingerprints
Um
You're absolutely right, then we'll wear gloves.
We just put the gloves on on the sidewalk outside
Then put some gloves in a bag and put it in the garden
as a reminder
There's going to be fingerprints all over the house, the party's just over after all
Yell at
A lot of people on the Internet say they want to do this
It's common to make a video claiming to be voluntary su1c1de
Emphasize not being forced by anyone
with no one else present
Of course that's in my will too, right there on the table.
Hmm good idea what do you think?
- i want some wine - me too
Need help practicing video, or do it yourself?
i want some wine too
- hi - hi good afternoon
We're very interested in the house so take a look
- is this for sale - yes
- come in and have a look - wow i'd love to if i could
- of course - that's great
We are from Amsterdam, a family of five
That's great. It must be a lot of fun.
This is the hallway, the floor is made of glass mosaic
If you think it's too old-fashioned, you can replace it
- right dad? -What?
Can the glass mosaics in the corridor be replaced?
ok
- want something to drink -No thanks
let's go to the kitchen
It is completely designed according to the latest fashion
modern kitchen
There's a great window here too and the fridge is new
With ice machine
The cabinet is specially designed by the architect of this house
It's really one of those 70's classics
Totally out of fashion thanks to the design of the house
Right Ivan?
- yes - this lady is interested in buying a house
Shouldn't the realtor handle it?
Why bother? Isn't she all here?
- uh... - let's go to the courtyard
The courtyard is very secluded and can fit all the bicycles
Our old swing is still there
unless my brother took it away
Still here, this is our terrace
Great for playing on the grass and great for barbecues
let's go to the living room
This needs to be lubricated
As you can see, the space is spacious and the lines are beautiful
Bright enough with a fireplace and double windows
- this is everyone's dream house - i think...
multifunctional training equipment
-Dad, is this going to stay too? -right
The house is for sale and you won't find a better one
I think I'll check back later...
No need to look around now
This man has lived here most of his life
If you have any questions, my dad, Jane, can answer you.
he will die here on november 28
right where we stand
Is it convenient to change hands now?
Or wait until you sell the house first?
But the real estate market is so crazy these days, don't stick to formality
- Want to give your realtor's phone number? -OK
What's wrong?
I'm sorry my sister...
how ah?
god stop
I knew it would be no good if you moved back
Yeah, so you'd rather just let Dad die like this?
No, we should follow the original agreement.
But now there's a new way, I'm moving
Do you feel like spending time with him
Will he change his mind?
not what you said
Hey Ivan what are you doing here?
- good question what are you doing here - what am i doing here
You tend not to let daddy get his wish
Why are you still here?
Take time to spend with dad
Dad, is that what you want too?
You know this is not what dad wants, right?
get along well
Let's go according to the original script so that everyone can feel at ease
maybe it's hard for you
but not everyone has to revolve around you
Hey
you are really nice
Allie... I got the wine
- where's your cup -I have no idea
- take it and i'll get it again - ok
Why don't we all drink like this anymore?
because we're f*cking old
- your dreams will come true - your dreams will come true
- your dreams will come true - your dreams will come true
Alice are you there?
Um
I am going home
Stay here, Coco is asleep
yes but i have to work tomorrow
It's wednesday night and you said the plans don't change
it's closing here
Then let's renew the stall
no i'm tired i may be too old
- no - my class starts in a few hours
hello
Alice
-Um? - you're not with that kid, are you?
No, what's wrong?
God, he's really not your type
Ally...
- don't do anything stupid. - okay
- i'll call you again - ok
- have fun - bye
- he probably just needs sex. - what?
My dad wants to k*ll himself, but he probably just needs sex
What the hell? Why are you mentioning your dad now?
I don't know, I just thought of it
stop blowing
I have to go. I have class tomorrow.
Please, this is what every man yearns for
no really not
sorry it's really ok
What are you doing?
- can you let go -cannot
- let me go - don't
I gotta go
i don't think you want to go
let me go
Hold
Feel sorry
How are you?
Shall I get you some ice cubes?
-What do you need? - i got a call...
Well, I'm going to call the manager
- two cups of coffee - thank you
Alice here I come
I heard
i ordered coffee for you
coffee?
May I please get up?
no
You know they purposely designed it to be
A place where guests don't want to stay?
The odd proportions between the tables and chairs are intentionally designed
super bright lights
I think they forgot...
It's not too bad if you lie down
- two buckets of your fried chicken - thank you
enjoy
Dad, fried chicken bucket?
I think it would be nice for you to move back
- is this from 2009 -right
- hi - hi
-Do you need help? - help me get this
Is it too early to do this now?
I don't have time for the rest of this week
So I want to say prepare first
-with Laura? -Um
Laura is helping too
She doesn't sleep in her own bed lately
you started crying again
come see this
This is for the freezer. This is the yogurt that Dad asked for.
I checked the best before the 14th
Alice, we should get some treats for dad's birthday too.
Can you help me buy it?
- um - thank you
Alice and Grandpa are going shopping, isn't it great?
yeah baby grandpa's birthday is coming up
Isn't the hypermarket going to turn right?
no we're going straight
- alice is going to turn right here - no
we're going straight
How is this, Alice?
don't worry i bought a backpack
It's got everything in there. Toothbrush, passport.
and clean underwear
- i don't want to travel - i don't want certain things to happen
- Where's Ivan? - how is ivan
He'll be mad. I don't want that, Alice.
How long are we going to drive?
And where are we going?
-to the mountains. -the mountains? so crazy
No, we're going through Germany, Austria...
will be there
Thanks
How many years did you buy it?
not a week is a year
so i buy a year
Are you going to get in the car?
take a look
take your backpack
- come - thank you
wait alice
we're almost there dad come on
have a look
Ten, nine, eight, seven... damn, six, five
four, three, two, one
Today is your birthday, ok ok ok
I'm pretty sure it's your birthday
we are very happy
So to sing this song for you:
I wish you a long life, I wish you a long life, yes
I wish you a long life, yes
congratulations dad
sorry it's not what you expected
i have a gift for you
Wow that freaked me out I can't believe you still have this
When I was sixteen, we were supposed to come
Yes, but your mother was seriously ill for the first time.
here we are
you wrote something in it
"Be Great Be Complete"
"Accept everything and be humble"
"Everything has to work hard"
try to do every little thing
Every lake is sparkling
because the moonlight shines on it
Thank you dear
Come
Why are you doing that?
- are you peeking at me -Yes
It is better for blood circulation
Is it bad for you?
I don't know, I just like it
You just love it!
do whatever you want
Do whatever comes to mind, completely disregarding others
dad
Don't you have something you really want to do?
- like going to la coupole for oysters - no
Going to a Bob Dylan concert?
his show is coming
don't want
-go to beach? -don't want
- sex - no
- What if it's with a beautiful woman? -don't want
- what about the escort? -don't want
- i pay for it - no
Still need to talk? Confess to a priest?
Are you crazy?
So what do you want?
nothing Alice I really don't need anything
Why don't you explain clearly?
Even if you explain it, you won't understand
- so it's because I don't have empathy? -no
- that's what you said. - I didn't say that.
i mean no matter what i say
You can't even think from my perspective
- how do you know unless you try it - i just know
- give it a try - no
Am I not worth your while?
Alice you are always full of energy
you won't understand how i feel
the worst is feeling lonely
born this way, die like this
now more proof
We can't see things from each other's point of view
It's not like that, just try it out
You just reject me thousands of miles away
I'm right here talking to you
but you didn't say anything
I said you were not listening
- you pushed me out on purpose - what are you talking about?
Would it be too serious to say "exclusion"?
That's how I feel
- of course you don't understand - I don't understand
go away, bored
you gotta let me go
Everything feels so alien to me
I do not want to live
i miss mom alice
I miss being with her
I can not stand it any more
Where is she now? Waiting for you in heaven?
I have no idea
- but i know she ' s not here - but i am
I'm here
- thank you very much. to your father. - to jane
hey noah
- who needs such a big house - must make a lot of money
or he can rent it out
- gerald do you have a lighter - um yes
Rent it out, if you rent it out...
- but it will be troublesome - it seems easier this way
Thanks
- whoa - who?
Are you following me secretly? Don't run, I'm coming to get you
-Alice -Kate How are you? Got to go
go quickly
- i'm leaving. - ok
-Call me again, will you? - um, of course
- ok, bye, bye. - fight
- jane here we go - hold on give me a hug for laura
hey thanks for coming
- bye - thank you jane
You know how to go out and shout?
Are you going to sleep? Are you going to sleep?
come to mommy bye darling
goodbye
come on honey
-Kate how are you? -coming
you get in the car first
wait and see
Kate are you coming?
Have you hugged Grandpa yet?
- come here - bye bye
- bye darling - bye
Goodbye, see you tonight, drive carefully
Alice
what is that?
It's an antiemetic. Need a booster dose.
I started taking it yesterday
- what is that -powder
I can not do it
- it's all right. - are you sure?
- do you want to stay -Yes
- Dad, did you ever think of that song afterward? -No
My life is over, it's complete
It's time for me to choose to k*ll myself
as you can see i'm alone no one pushes me
I left a farewell letter and a last will
Don't Say Goodbye to Dad
Pink Moon (2022)
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