10x09 - To Have and To Hold

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10x09 - To Have and To Hold

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[Ashley] Previously on


Do you forgive me, or do you
think you ever will?

I mean, I forgive you.

I haven't forgotten
what you did,

but I forgive you.

But we're actually together now.

I'm in America.
You have no excuse.

Like, I'm here, you know?

So I'm, like...
If you do anything like it,

like, I'm gonna be gone.

[Kevin speaking]

- You're real.
- [laughing]

Nick, being from South Korea,

he's really coming
into a strange situation.

[Nick] I'm the only one.

That's overwhelming.

Oh.

[speaking other language]

[in English] How did you and
Daniel come to accept my life,

my life, who I am?

[speaking other language]

[speaking other language]

[in English] I was like, "Do you
expect me to send money down there,

like, every month?"

And he was like, "Well, yeah."
And I was like, "How much?"

- And he was like, "300."
- $300?

[Manuel speaking Spanish]

We are on a limited time
before the 90 days are up,

and we need to
learn how to coexist

if we're gonna make it.

- Where's he going?
- [Ashley speaking Spanish]

- [Manuel speaking
Spanish] - [man] Wow.

[Manuel speaking]

Oh, look. I see grapes.

Yeah, many greats here.

And we are here.

[Nikki] I need a glass of wine.

[Justin] Yeah.

- Oh, it's so cold.
- Okay.

[Justin] Here we go.

Yeah.

- [Justin speaking] - Do
you think we could capture

some sweet moments together?

I hope so, too.

[Justin] Today, Nikki and I
are going to romantic place.


If she behaves, maybe we
can have sex the second time.

Oh, we're finally here.

Oh, it's nice and toasty.

Oh, I love it.

Let's check out this room.

[gasps] Pink bedsheets.

And I think we have
some closets over here.

His and hers, right?

[Justin speaking]

That side.

No, that side, like we
have at your house.

You're on that
side, I'm on this side.

- Yeah.
- Yes.

I really, truly feel
like our relationship

is a rollercoaster ride,

and sometimes I want
to get off and throw up,

and sometimes I want
to get back on it again.

But I think to myself,
"You know what?


Time is of the essence."

Ha.

So I want to actually just
enjoy my time with him,

because I do love him so much.

[Justin speaking]

Yes.

- Here? This one.
- [laughs]

Okay.

- Cheers, babe.
- To our new beginning,

or old beginning, I don't know.

- This is a continuation to a new beginning.
- Yeah.

- A new special moment for us.
- Yes.

How do you think about it?

I don't think anybody gets it.

Like, they just... I mean,

I still can't believe
that we're here again.

[both chuckle]

- Shut up.
- [laughs]

You always have
something stupid to say.

So, are you gonna
get ready for bed?

- Yeah.
- No.

I'm just testing how it's work.

No, no, no, no, no.

No.

Maybe after dinner, we
can have some sexy time.

Maybe, it's been about a week.

It's true.

I know Nikki really wants sex,

but for my mental, it's
not working like that.

If Nikki fight with me,
I go a few steps back.

But at this trip, of
course I want to try.

[both laugh]

[Justin] Oh, hello.
Who are they?

Who are these two girls?

[Robert] Ready to lose?

[Sophie] You're ready to lose.

- I'm never ready to lose.
- [Sophie] I'm ready to win.

[Robert] I've already won.

- [Sophie] Alrighty there.
- Because I got you.

[Sophie speaking]

[Robert] I can't lose, baby.
Because I got you, baby.

Okay, where do
we get our shoes at?

Tonight we're gonna
meet up with Ty and Tor'i


at the bowling alley.

I'd say bowling's actually
pretty big in England.

Like, 'cause in England,

there's not a lot of
outdoorsy stuff to do

because the weather's so bad,

so, like, bowling's
pretty popular.

It's like something
to do indoors.

Sophie and I have
gone bowling before,


and I like when she
actually releases the ball

because the ball's heavy.

There's a... there's
a reflex jiggle.

[laughs] I was wearing jeans.

You can still see
the reflex jiggle.

I only know my
England size. Hold on.

[Robert] I need a 10-and-a-half.

And she needs to work out
her English London sizes.

In American size.

[Robert] Those big feet.

Do you have, um, six-point-five

[woman] Yeah.

We call it six-and-a-half.

[laughs]

American is, like,
adopted from England.

And yet, you told me
you originally fell for me

because of the way I sound.

Yeah, I think you sound nice.

You like the way
the English sounds.

I'm saying British is like...

[Robert] You like the way...

Americans speak
British from England.

- Oi.
- [laughs]

That's so bad.

[in English accent]
Turn... turn off the telly.

Rob's English accent is rubbish.

He thinks it's good, but it's...

You're taking the piss.

That's awful.

- [in normal voice] Oh.
- [laughs]

Just like y'all to
start without me.

- Yeah, yeah.
- Glad you could make it, bro.

- You look all flashy and stylish.
- I appreciate you.

- Hi.
- I like your jacket.

[Robert] Hey, take that off.

You don't need to be
looking like me anyways.

You and Rob are twinning.

- Twinning.
- I know.

- I mean, yeah, we're twinning.
- Twinning it up.

Good to see you.

[Ty speaking]

[Sophie] I'm all right.

I feel like it depends
on the game.

- They have bowling in England.
- [Ty] Do they?

- Yeah, they got bowling all over the place.
- Oh, my bad.

I love anything,
like, competitive.

So like anything, like
any type of games,

I just always want to b*at Rob,

because like I'm
great at a lot of things.

[Robert] That's
absolutely not true.

[laughs]

She just talks a big game,

but no, she's definitely
not a better bowler than me,

and she's not better
at any sport than me.

False. Tennis. I'm
way better than you.

Okay, you're better
at me than tennis

because I've
never played tennis.

- Start it off. Y'all ready?
- Start her off.

[Sophie] Oh!

- Aw.
- [Tor'i] Bad start.

[Ty] Are you cooking over there?

- Whoo!
- [Sophie] Ah.

[Ty] Uh-oh.

Aye, I broke a nail, though.

Aye, that's what's up.

- Came to play, baby.
- Nice.

[Ty speaking]

It's been good.
Just been chilling.

I don't have much to do
because I can't work, so...

- I hear you. I hear you.
- I just be at the house.

[Sophie] Yeah.

Hey, Sophie, what's all this
going-through-phone stuff?

I heard you was going
through Rob's phone.

Why you was up there
in the phone like that?

Because did he not
tell you what he did?

I mean, that's what y'all do?

[Rob] It's your turn.

Basically, if you haven't
told them properly,

he was online
on, like, Snapchat,

and he was getting nudes
and videos from girls,

and he was, like, you
know, sexting them, like, back

and telling them, like, "Oh,
like, your ass is so amazing."

This, that.

[Ty speaking]

You didn't tell them?

Do I need to dive into
every detail of what it was?

I should not have responded.

Yes, bro, because
I'm forming an opinion,

an unfair opinion, based
off of what you're giving me.

[Robert] I don't know why.

If you're giving me half
the story... Okay, bro.

- I don't know why you're forming that unfair opinion.
- Oh, okay.

Because I said I was wrong.

The conversation took a
little bit of a turn, though.

It did.

I think it was that Leo energy.

- Big Leo energy, I
mean, - Big Leo energy.

Rob didn't tell
us the full story.

I'd say the whole going
through phone thing

just ain't a healthy thing,

- and it ain't a healthy situation.
- [Sophie] I agree,

- I don't want to do
that, but I also... - Yeah.

I'm trying to be like,
how can I gain trust?

Like, I'd need to know

I'm not gonna find
any more videos.

I'm not gonna find
anything, and it's like,

this is what helps me kind
of try to get the trust back.

Because if I still resent
him, I'm not gonna marry him.

Understood.

I mean, that gives me
major respect for you, Sophie,

for still being here and still
saying, "You know what?

I'm gonna stick it out with
you," and that says a lot.

I feel like my blood
leaked into the water,

and all the sharks
was like, "Oh [bleep]

here we go, it's feeding time."

That basically made
me feel like, "Okay,

nothing I've done
has fixed this.

Nothing I've done
has made this better,

regardless of how much
I've tried, regardless.

Doesn't matter."

I don't get it.

And the last thing I
want to be is the person

who just doesn't get it.

If everything I
think is just wrong,


is Sophie just
right to come at me,


is Tor'i and Ty right in feeling

like I deliberately
left out information?


I don't know. I don't know.

I'm pretty lost after
this whole situation.

[phone ringing]

- Baby.
- [Citra speaking]

[Sam] I told my fiance,
Citra, about my drug past.


I've never had
anyone believe in me

the way she believes in me.

Me and Citra have
not had sex yet.

[Sam speaking]

Has there been any girls
that you [bleep] around with?

Uh-huh.

So I applied for the K-1 visa,

and you already [bleep] b*tches.

- [yawns] - ♪ Wish always
we could be heroes ♪


♪ It didn't tell us that we
were supposed to say ♪


♪ We'd chase the
life on the high road ♪


♪ It just takes that
cross without grace ♪


[Sam] My name's Sam.

I'm from Cameron, Missouri.

I am 30 years old.

♪ 'Cause you can't
hide the shadow ♪


♪ Without the song ♪

I'm sleeping in
my car these days


because I'm
working double shifts,


and it's an hour each way,
so it's easier to take a nap

than just do that whole commute.

- All good, have a good day.
- Thank you. You too.

I work for an online retailer,

stocking like a dock
worker, basically.

It's definitely not
my career choice,

but I don't have any
options because of my past.


Back when I was 15, I got
addicted to pain medicine,

and I stayed addicted
to it for quite a few years.

Being addicted to opiates,

it makes you, like, a
really cold, numb person,

so I never had a real
relationship that lasted.


And it made life really hard.

But jobs, if you're
sick every other day,

it's hard to commit to anything,

and trying to get dr*gs,
like buy dr*gs on the street,

getting b*rned, it's
just a dirty, ugly world.

When I was around


and it's been
almost 10 years now,


and yeah, at times that's
even been a struggle.

I've relapsed a few times,

but now it's more important
than ever that I stay clean,


because my fiance
is coming soon.

Her name's Citra. She's 26
and from West Java, Indonesia.


♪ Just take me for a ride ♪

[Sam] Citra has the
most beautiful open heart.


She doesn't judge you,
and she's just the most kind,

calm, patient
person I've ever met.

Hi, baby. I love
you, and I miss you.

[Sam] I met Citra on an online
dating app over three years ago.


Citra reached out to me first,
and I thought she was hot,


but, like, I didn't get
attached right away,


but it was just really
easy to talk to her

with some flirting in there.

Not only, like, she has
just the best personality.


I love a nice big butt,
and she's got that big butt.

♪ The bigger the boom,
the bigger the bang ♪


[Sam] Oh, I've been
dreaming for so long,


of squeezing that butt
and just, like, slapping it.

She's got what I like.

A year in, we fully
started letting each other in

and just telling everything.

I told Citra about my drug past.

She still looked past all
that and, like, loved me.

When I didn't love myself.

I've never had
anyone believe in me

the way she believes in me.

After two years, we finally
met face-to-face in Indonesia.


[Citra] Oh, my God!

[Sam] Finally, my heart
was racing so much.

- [laughs] - It was
the best trip of my life.

[Sam] It was
just, like, surreal.


Like, you know this person,

but you kind of
feel like you don't,

but you're already
kissing and hugging,


and the bond just...
It built pretty quick.

I knew I wanted
to propose to her.


I didn't have money for a ring,

but I got on one knee.

[both laughing]

When she said yes, I felt
like a million-dollar man


just on top of the world.

[woman speaking other language]

[indistinct chatter]

[Citra speaking]

And I found his profile,

and then I was like,
"His face is so young,

but his profile says
that he was 26."

[speaking other language]

[laughs]

[Citra speaking English]

[man vocalizing]

[Citra speaking]

[Brian] Hey, Sam.

Just got off work?

[Sam] Yeah.

Growing up, my mom's side
were really religious, Christian.


I live with my dad now

and he doesn't believe
in any kind of God at all.


He heavily believes in aliens.

And he's just waiting
for them to pick him up.


Part of me thinks
it's kind of silly,

but I've seen a UFO.

It was some white
little circle in the sky

with four lime green lights,

so I believe it's possible.

All of that kind of led
me to be an atheist.

I'm nervous because
I definitely think


it's gonna be hard to
live by the strict things


that they have to live by.

I'm not gonna be able to drink

and even just Ramadan
where you fast till sundown,

that alone makes me hurt.

So I hope I can do it

because I know there's
gonna be no wedding


if I don't convert.

- [phone ringing]
- [Sam tutting]

Baby.

Just getting stuff
together and ready for you.

A few days?

[chuckles]

Citra's dad, Herman.

He's a police officer

and doesn't want there
to be a whole lot of time


of me and her being
in the same house

because he worries
that we'll have sex.

Me and Citra have
not had sex yet.


We've kissed and all
that, but in Muslim culture,

you can't sex till
marriage like that.

It's just, uh-uh.

He's a policeman and like,

I don't know if it's
because he's Muslim,

there's just something like,

I love you like a son,
but I'll [beep] k*ll you.

[Citra speaking]

That's awfully quick.

There's so much stress

because I gotta please her dad,

make sure he feels
comfortable like with me

and like knowing I'm
gonna take care of her,

getting the wedding
together and converting.


If I don't get everything done,

it's gonna make me look
like I'm not a man to her dad

and she'll just end up going
back with him to Indonesia.

Well, we'll figure all
that stuff out, okay, baby?

Be safe.

Just hurry up and
get here, okay?

Okay.

- I love you.
- [Citra speaking]

With everything going
on, all the damn pressure,

like, I don't know how the
hell I'm gonna pull this off.

This is a statue of a
Confederate soldier.

Right.

[Nick speaking]

[Ashley] Manuel.

[speaking Spanish]

"Mucha walla walla,"
his favorite statement.

You're talking too much.

[speaking Spanish]

♪ You can give me
all your troubles ♪


♪ And nothing but bad news ♪

♪ You can take all my money ♪

[Devin speaking]

- Are you kidding?
- No.

- [Devin] No?
- No.

♪ Ever since I found my baby ♪

♪ I ain't got the blues ♪

[Devin speaking]

[Devin] It was such a
long flight from Korea.


We decided to stay in
a hotel near the airport

and then drive back home today.

Hey, good morning.

[Nick] Yeah, ready, let's go.

My first impression of Devin's
parents are they are nice.

[Nick] Oh, it's real heavy.

[Devin] I think Nick has
the right to be worried.


If I was in his situation,
moving to Korea,

I'd probably feel a
little bit worried too.

Take in all the large
tall buildings now

because once we
cross over the bridge,

- you won't see any
for - [Kevin] Yeah.

A long, long time.

[Kevin] This is the
Mississippi River.


Yeah, welcome to
your new home state.

It is possible.

Yes, there are a few alligators.

Which is very different from...

Most of America is like that.

That's not the America
we are thinking about.

So kind of scary.

Wow.

[Kevin speaking]

[Katrina] We're home!

Her house really big.

Most of Korean
house is apartment.


Looks like she's so
rich compared to that.

Hello.

[woman speaking]

Oh, hello, guys. [laughs]

[Devin] I live with my parents,
but also with my sisters.


And then my brother, Kaden.

- Can I give you a hug?
- Yeah.

Let me give you a hug.

Nice to meet you, Kaden.

How many people
are in the house?

Like six, was there six
people in the house?

So it's gonna be a bit awkward

and it will be difficult
to have some privacy.

Can you give me a tour please?

[Katrina] He's waited a
long time to get here, so.

[Devin] The living room.

[Nick speaking]

[Devin] This is
the kitchen in here.

[Nick speaking]

I think Nick being here,

I'm sure he's very overwhelmed.

Our room is over here.

[Nick] Ooh.

I think it's good, yeah.

Devin is never one to
show a whole lot of emotion,

but I think she's very excited

to finally be in the
same place again,

and the same time zone again.

I'm glad to be here with you.

You know?

[Nick speaking]

- Ow!
- [Devin laughs]

- [Devin] Come on.
- [Nick] Yeah.

Take a look around.

[Nick] Today, Devin
wants me to see Searcy.


- Wow.
- Mine's right over there.

[Nick] Over there?

- Is that the one?
- Yeah, I did this one here.

- What is it?
- [chuckles]

[Devin] Yeah, we're
in White County.

It's not talking
about skin color.

- Are you sure?
- It's just... Yeah.

[Nick] Okay.

[Devin speaking]

[both laugh]

[Devin] Searcy is
a pretty small town.


[Nick speaks]

[Devin speaking]

Searcy is majority white.

There are people here who
probably aren't as tolerant,


who were born here,
live here, and die here,


and haven't been exposed to

very much culture other than
what we have here in town.

Yeah. [chuckles]

Uh, so you know how the
United States had a Civil w*r?

Yeah.

Yes. Yes.

[Devin speaking]

- Right.
- Okay.

That's, that's... Okay. Okay.

He's a baby.

[Ashley] Uh, he does.

We're on a double
date with my best friends


Solly and Alysia.

And Manuel gets
upset and storms out

because he doesn't like the
questions being asked of him.

That's really what
comes down to it.

I think Manuel has a
tendency to be unreasonable.


I think Manuel is very
used to getting his way.

[speaks Spanish]

[in English] His
favorite statement.

"You're talking too much."

- Is this normal? Does he do this normally?
- [Ashley stutters] I...

I mean, he's run off
before since he's been here.

He's just not used
to being questioned

the way he's been questioned,
like, he's just used to,

"It is what it is, and
that's what it is."

[stutters] It is... We
need to... Ashley.

Ashley.

I understand you wanna
run after your man right now.

I get that.

Sometimes, you
just gotta let him go.

When things get tough,

it's not time to run away.

And if she thinks it's gonna
get better with marriage,

she'll be in for a
rude awakening.

- Yeah.
- [laughs] For sure.

[Solly] I think this just
confirms everything that


I'd already thought
that he, I think that...


Yeah, nevermind.

That he's kind of a man child.

[in Spanish]

[soccer match
playing over phone]

[in Spanish]

- [Manuel speaks]
- Manuel.

[Ashley in English]
Okay, Manuel.

[in Spanish]

[in English] Yeah, okay.

[continues in Spanish]

[Ashley in English] Yes.

[Ashley] Okay.

[Ashley] Yeah.

[Ashley] Manuel.

Manuel, I understand...

[Ashley] Okay, that's fine.

We don't need to talk
anymore about the friends.

[Manuel speaks]

I was naive to think that
Manuel would apologize

for being a jerk to my
friends and running off.

Instead, he's doubling down,

being a bit of a jerk,
and being dismissive.


Can I marry somebody who
wants nothing to do with my friends,

but also wants me to have
nothing to do with his family?

'Cause that's kinda how
I'm feeling in this moment.

Probably not. And no,
I don't know what to do.

Like, you know about the
online cheating that he did.

He did it again.

And it's kind of
ruined our trust again.

I feel like this might
be something that,

now there's something
he didn't know about me.

It could be, like,

the final thing that breaks us.

[Nikki] What was
it, like, 3:00 am?

That's when you wanna
make love to me, at 3:00?

[imitates rooster's
crow, laughs]

He was finally
horny at that moment,

and he gave it to
me. Like, it's just not

special to me.

Do you feel like because
you're the one with the penis

and you have
inserted to the vag*na,

that it's only up
to your decision

of when you wanna do it?

[Rob speaks]

[Sophie speaks]

[video call ringtone ringing]

[Sophie] Hi!

[Sophie] Yeah, I'm
good. How are you?

[Maya speaking over video call]

[Sophie] It's been,
like, a little bit crazy.

Like, with somethings
with, like, me and Rob.

- But, like, I love it here so far,
so yeah. [chuckles] - [Maya laughs]

[Sophie] I'm calling my
friend from London, Maya,


just to kind of get some advice

and tell her what's
going on with the whole

Rob and the cheating thing.

It's nice to have support,

and just kind of have
someone there for me


to help me out with
what it is I should do.

Um, like, you know about
the online cheating that he did.

And like, you were like,

"How do you know he's
not gonna do it again," right?

He did it again.

Yeah, the exact same thing

he did before, he did it again.

[Maya speaking]

Yeah.

Uh, I hate how you have
good points. [chuckles]

- Uh, I've, I don't think...
- [laughs]

Mmm.

He is trying to make
it up to me, though.

Like, he just booked us
a really nice beach house,

where it was just me and him,
and we spent the night together.

[Maya speaks]

Yeah. Shouldn't I
think with my heart?

[laughs] Is that not better?

[Maya chuckles]

[Sophie chuckling]

[Sophie] Yeah.

No, I feel you. I
mean, there is, like,

you know, we do have quite a few
problems that we need to sort out.

[Maya speaking]

[Sophie] Obviously, because
of everything that's going on,

I haven't really had the
opportunity to tell him.

[Maya speaking]

[Sophie] Yeah.

[Sophie] Right, yeah.

Hopefully, he'll be, like,
accepting and, like, supportive of it.

[Sophie] I know Maya is right
and he does deserve to know,


because it's kind
of, like, now or never.


But me and Rob have already
gone through so much together


and had so many issues,

and those things that I
didn't know about Rob.

And I feel like this
might be something that,

now there's something
he didn't know about me,

it could be, like, the
final thing that breaks us.

[sheep bleating]

[speaking Russian]

[Justin in English]

[Justin speaking]

[chuckling]

We have some intimate moments.

- [Justin] Niko, help her.
- Okay.

I'm afraid to touch because
my nails are so long,

they're making
holes in the dough.

[Nikki] Yeah. Mmm.

Before we sleep, if
Nikki writing something,

- it's, like, so loudly.
- Oh, oh, my goodness.

- So loudly. Annoying.
- He can play his chess, okay?

- Sit there and play in here.
- Yes, without nails.

- Like...
- No, you hear, ding, ding.

All the moves that you
make, but yet I'm like...

- [nails clicking]
- [laughs]

- On my phone, and he's like...
- Yeah.

[imitating Justin] "Baby,
can you stop? It's too much."

- It's true, true.
- [in normal voice] I'm like, "Wait, what?"

Do any Moldovan man cook...

[in Russian]

[in English] For the
woman? [speaks Russian]

- [in English] For the woman in Moldova?
- [laughing]

- [laughing]
- [Nikki] What?

Of course, yes.

And when the man want to do

- some nice things for woman...
- Uh-huh.

- He is cooked.
- Yeah?

Yeah.

- You haven't cooked for me. You reheat stuff for me.
- The potatoes.

- Baby.
- Yeah?

- Finish please.
- Okay.

I'll be watching you.

[Nikki laughs] You're
gonna get this on your face.

Nikki doesn't cook.
Nikki doesn't clean.

I mean the woman in the U.S.A.

doesn't do anything.
I didn't know.

Niko, open your mouth.

- [chef in English] Okay.
- Nikki, open your mouth.

Let's try. Catch it.

- No.
- No?

- I want something else in my mouth, not that.
- [Justin] Okay.

[both laugh]

But here, different.

The woman is great cook,

and they keep house clean,

and support the man.

Many things.

And then you want to
make love with that woman.

- Thank you. Bon appétito!
- [in Russian] Spasibo.

[speaks Russian]

[hungrily] Oh!

[Nikki in English]
It looks amazing!

[Nikki] It is so...

- [Nikki] Ooh, there's cottage cheese.
- Mmm!

[in Russian accent] Very,
very, very, very interesting.

[Justin chuckles]

[in normal voice] Last
night, when we finally,

you know, got ready for bed,

I thought that we
would have some

sexy time together.

And, no.

But then, I don't know,
in the middle of the night,


we had a moment.
[inhales deeply]

What was it, like,


That's when you wanna
make love to me, at 3:00?

[imitating rooster's
crow, laughing]

- [Nikki] At 3:00 a.m.?
- [imitating rooster crowing]

- At 3:00 a.m.?
- [Justin chuckles]

Come on.

I think it's so selfish

the way his mind thinks on
his time to make love to me.


It's not special to me.

So, like, please give me a
serious answer because it is going...

- it keeps running in my head, like...
- [speaking in English]

us not being intimate more

and you not [bleep] me,
like, is that... like, literally,

the thing in my head is
that it's because I'm trans.

Or is this just normal for you?

[speaking in English]

[chuckling] I'm sorry.

So, basically, you're saying when
I [bleep] out it's like a [bleep] man?

I can't. I hate you. [chuckles]

[speaking in English]

- But you understand me?
- Yeah, I do.

[speaking in English]

[Nikki] If I'm gonna stay
in this relationship with you

I need to see something more.

We've been engaged
for a year, babe.

A year. And you still
don't have, like, "engaged",

- even just the word engaged on your social media.
- Baby...

[speaking in English]

- I know. I know.
- [Justin speaking in English]

Social media can be the
destruction in any relationship.

It doesn't matter if it's
long distance or not.

I feel like when two people love each other
you should be on both social media pages,


and I've posted him
all over my social media


because I'm truly
in love with him


but what I don't understand is
after all this time, after being engaged

and he doesn't put me on to
his social media. That bothers me.

I don't... I think any woman
would be bothered by that.

I see the sacrifice that you're
making for our relationship,

I just can't be in
the dark in your life.

I can't be a secret to anyone's
re... Like, in a relationship.

- [Justin speaking
in English] - I know.

[Nikki] I'm so happy.

- You finally put "engaged". Yes.
- [Justin] Yay.

- [speaking in English]
- [Nikki] I'm very happy.

[Justin speaking in English]

- I'm so happy.
- [speaking in English]

- Thank you so much.
- You're welcome.

[Manuel speaking
in other language]

[Ashley in English] Okay, um...

[Manuel and Ashley
speaking in other language]

- [in English] This is what we call ghetto ways...
- [Manuel chuckles]

but, okay.

[Ashley] I'm taking
you to a place for food

that is really, really,
really popular in Rochester.

[speaking in other language]

- [speaking in other
language] - [in English] Yes.

[Ashley] After what happened
the other night with my friends...


[speaking in English]

It's been tough, but at this
point we have two options.

Wave the white
flag and surrender

or keep pushing forward
and try to make this work.

So, today, we're gonna try
to do some wedding planning


'cause I do wanna try
to make it to the altar.

And as an added bonus for Manuel

I'm gonna show him Rochester's
very own Garbage Plate.

Are you excited to try
your first Garbage Plate?

[Manuel speaking
in other language]

[in English] He's gonna
have such a bad diarrhea.

[laughs]

[speaking in other language]

[in English] Hi!

Um, okay, so, can you explain
to us what's in a Garbage Plate?

Of course, yeah, no problem.

So, it comes on a plate and
we have two sides on the bottom.

Typically, there are, like,
home fries and mac salad.

- Those are the two most popular sides.
- [speaking in other language]

[in English] And then, on
top of that goes two meats.

- Usually, cheeseburgers or hotdogs.
- [speaking in other language]

[in English] And
then, on top of that is

- meat sauce, mustard and onions.
- [speaking in other language]

[in English] He's...
he's gonna see.

- [speaking in other language]
- [in English] Yeah, it does, eh?

We will take two.

- [receptionist] Two?
- Yeah.

[speaking in other language]

- [in English] Thank you so much.
- You're welcome.

[speaking in other language]

[Ashley in English]
Okay, so, we decided

to get married in Florida
because Florida's beautiful.

We met in a traveling experience

so why wouldn't we get
hitched in a traveling experience?

[speaking in other language]

[Ashley in English] As
soon as Manuel proposed


I'm immediately getting
the wedding invitations,

buying my wedding dress.

So, like, team too much.
Hashtag team too much.

I know it, I own
it, I don't care.

Take me or hate me, don't care.

Okay, round trip.

[both speaking
in other language]

[in English] It's more than
Manuel wants to spend

but it's also the only
time we're getting married.

So, I'm totally fine going
into a little bit of debt

for something we'll both
remember forever. Fine with it.

[speaking in other language]

[in English] After taxes and then
there's two people, like that's...

- [speaking in other language] - [in
English] I hate when you make that face.

I, literally, hate when
you make that face.

It's such this st...
stank ass face.

This is America.
Everything's expensive.

Like, it is so cheap
to live in Ecuador.

So, no matter what he looks at
his jaw is dropping at the price.

Whether it's eggs or a plane
ticket and everything in between,

he's like, "Why are we
spending money on this?"

'Cause we have to live.

[speaking in other language]

[Ashley in English] Manuel
sending money home


and us figuring out what's
appropriate to send home

is gonna be something that
we're gonna be working on

for the rest of
our relationship.


I might get emotional.
I can feel it coming.

Because it's, like, well, could
this go back to his family?

And then it's, like, no, it's like
the way that I wanna live my life.

It's, you know, I can't live
my life necessarily in that way

because I have to think
about what could go back

and I feel like he
doesn't want to, either

because he's thinking of what
could go back to his family,

so, we're both sitting in
this space of feeling guilty.

And so, I'm doing
the best that I can

when I'm navigating through
waters I've never swam in.

[man 1] Swirl it in your
mouth, give it some air.

[Justin speaking in English]

- This is for you.
[chuckles] - [Nikki sniffs]

- [speaking in English]
- Okay, this is wine.

Rohan, you are
the love therapist.

[speaking in English]

Too much
information but all right.

What do South Korean
people think of Americans?

[speaking in English]

Oh, my.

[speaking in English]

Are you serious?

[speaking in English]

Him calling her piggy, I
wish he wouldn't do that.

[speaking in English]

[Nikki] Thank you.

[Justin speaking in English]

[Nikki] Yes, baby.
I'm excited, too.

[speaking in English]

[Nikki and Justin
speaking in English]

[Rohan] Hello.

- Hi. Oh, wow, you speak English.
- I'm Rohan. Yes, I do.

- Hi. Rohan. Nice to meet you.
- My name is Nikki

- and that's my fiancé, Justin.
- [Rohan] Fantastic.

Welcome to our tasting room.

We're gonna have
some nice wines today.

[Nikki] You know, I've never
done a wine tasting before.

[Rohan] That's perfect. That
means I can say anything

and you're gonna
believe it, right?

[Nikki] Possibly, but probably not because
I'm from New York, so, yeah. [chuckles]

We will start with
our sauvignon blanc.

My first impression
was interesting couple.


We're still a
conservative country here.


Generally speaking you
will not find, in Moldova,

um, a much older
woman with a younger guy.

Then we're gonna have a
cabernet sauvignon rosé.

I'd like to describe this one
as the essence of summer.

But this has got, like,
these beautiful peachy,

- golden hues, pink.
- Beautiful.

- I love pink. My favorite color.
- [Rohan] Smells like summer.

[sniffs] Mmm.

What do you think, baby?

- You like this one?
- Uh...

[speaking in English]

- Keep drinking.
- [chuckles]

All right.

When people do wine tastings

yeah, it's common to
get a little drunk or tipsy.

- It's good.
- [Rohan] So, when you age wine in an oak barrel...

- [speaking in
English] - Why not.

It is a tasting. But people do
tend to drink rather than taste.

All right.

By the seventh wine people
aren't really listening to me.

You gotta train
your palate, actually.

[speaking in English]

That's another way to do it.

Shall we move to
the next wine, then?

We've got a deep ruby here.

- Hints of pomegranate.
- I do. I smell it.

- [sniffs] - This is
for you. [chuckles]

Okay, this is wine.

- Tonight, hopefully we can get busy.
- Okay.

Too much
information but all right.

The wine tasting we
have the full energy of love

and this is why we
drink a lot of wine.

[gasps] I like this.

I thought so. It's pink, sweet.

It's pink like what, baby?

[Justin] Um, pink
like your lips, I think.

Exactly... both of them.

[Justin speaking in English]

What do you mean don't eat
you? I can eat you whenever I want.

[speaking in English]

Wine is the universal
liquid lubricant.

[chuckles] If you
wanna put it that way.

I am so plastered right now.

[all chuckling]

[Nikki speaking]

- [Rohan] Sounds like your...
- Baby, we're not ending.

- What?
- Your relationship's stronger than ever.

- Amazing.
- Until the hangover tomorrow.

Rohan, you are
the love therapist.

[inhales] Uh-oh.

[burps]

[laughs]

- Hey.
- How're y'all doing?

- Did you bring your fish cooker?
- [Kevin 1] Yeah.

I got it. You wanna
help me get it real quick?

- It's too heavy for me. Hi, Katrina.
- [Katrina] Hey.

[Kevin 2] Our friends Kevin and
Michelle are coming over for a fish fry.


We're excited for
them to meet Nick.


- This thing's heavy.
- [chuckles]

So far things are going
okay. He's been helpful.

Cleans up after himself.

[Kevin 2] Even though
I'm sure it's stressful on him


it really lets us get to
know him, personally,

so that we know how he's
gonna treat her for the long term.

- Hey.
- Oh, hi.

- I'm Nick. Nice to meet you.
- [Kevin 1] Ah, how're you doing?

Good. How are you?

- Hi, Nick.
- Michelle.

- [muffled] So nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.

- [Kevin 2] Hey, girl.
- What's up?

[speaking in English]

[all applauding] Catfish.

[Nick speaking in English]

Why don't you come over, Nick, and
we'll show you how to cook some fish.

So, basically, we are
having fish and chips?

Basically, yeah.

[Devin] Southern fish and chips.

[Kevin 2] And then we just
ease it down in the grease.

You can go ahead
and get this one ready.

Lay that in there. You're
getting pretty good at that.

[Kevin 2 speaking]

- Ooh, smell that...
- No.

Smell the fish.

Very soft. Tender.

[Kevin 1] Yeah, yeah, it is.

- [Katrina] Do you like it?
- [Nick] Yeah, I like it.

What do South Korean
people think of Americans?

Uh...

[speaking in English]

Oh, my.

I don't think that way...

[speaking in English]

No offense.

Unhealthy food is much cheaper

- than healthy food.
- Ah.

Or some people are just lazy.

And it's easier to drive
through and get something than

- to cook.
- What do you think?

You're lazy so you always
get your fast food for lunch.

[speaking in English]

- Are you serious?
- Look at this.

I'm just saying the truth.

[speaking in English]

[Kevin 2] Him calling
her piggy concerns me.


Even though Devin acts
as if it doesn't bother her

I don't want her deep down
inside actually, be bothered by that.


[Devin speaking in English]

[speaking in English]

[Devin] Say nice things.

- Beautiful.
- Nice things? Ah, okay.

- [speaking in
English] - It's too late.

The piggy nickname is something

that has been a very
long ongoing battle

that I've very much given up on.

So, tradition, since we cooked

- everybody else gets to clean up.
- [Nick] Okay, yeah.

[Devin] See ya.

So, we really had a
good time tonight but...

that... that's kind of a big deal
what we were talking about.

It was just kinda
uncomfortable kinda big deal.

What part? [chuckles]

- What is her nickname?
- He calls her piggy but he... yeah, piggy.

- Piggy?
- Oh, so he was serious?

It would be tough if I had
to do this. I mean, with...

With 90 days to get
to know somebody

that's gonna be
married to your daughter

who possibly will be the
father to your grandchildren.

It's something that
we've thought about

that is just not... we have
not discussed it with them, yet.

Things are happening
so fast that...

[Katrina] There's not been a
whole lot of time to slow down.

I'm worried about finding out
that he's gonna be a good person.

That he's gonna treat
her right, you know.

We've... we've gotta hurry
up and make that decision

'cause it's getting
here pretty quick.

When Nick calls Devin
Piggy I do not, uh, think

that he understands the impact.

Especially, in our culture,

it being in America where
weight is such a huge deal

and women struggle
with it everyday.

[Kevin 2] I need to have
a heart-to-heart with Nick


about how I expect my
daughter to be treated.


That way there's no
questions in the future.

He knows in... He
knows how I feel.

[speaking in other language]

[in English] I understand how important it is
for Manuel to send money back to his family.

But I also don't think
it's fair for me to not get

the wedding that I've
been dreaming about.

[speaking in other language]

[speaking in other language]

[Ashley in English] I decided we were
gonna go to the beach and hang out.


And just kind of,
relieve some tension.


We spent a lot of time in our
apartment, surrounded by a lot of city.

And I wanna show him
some more of, you know,


the naturaleza, as
Manuel likes to call it.

And, there... We can
make a home here.

He can be comfortable here.

[Manuel speaking in Spanish]

[Ashley laughs]

[in English] We'll
come here more often.

[Ashley speaking in Spanish]

[in English] There
are definitely things

that Manuel and I are not
gonna be able to resolve

before we make
it to wedding day.

They're just too
heavy to unpack.

There's too much going on.

I understand how important it is

for Manuel to send money
back to his family. I totally get it.

But I also don't think it's fair
for me to not get the wedding


that I've been dreaming about.

We just need to communicate
and figure how to compromise,

which we haven't
been too good at lately.

[Ashley speaking in Spanish]

[Manuel] Ontario?

[Manuel speaking in Spanish]

[in English] I know you must
really, really, really miss home.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Mmm-hmm.

[in English] You have
to understand too, babe.

I had a life before you came.

And I adjusted my
life to get you here.

So there are certain
parts of my life

that I might not want to adjust.

[Manuel speaking in Spanish]

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

[in English] I'm really glad
that you're telling me this.

Because it helps me
understand you a bit more.

And it helps me understand
why you get frustrated

and maybe why you feel alone.

[Manuel speaking in Spanish]

[Ashley speaking in Spanish]

[in English] Okay. Let's go.

[Manuel speaking in Spanish]

[Ashley exclaims]

[Ashley speaking in Spanish]

[laughs]

[Manuel speaking in Spanish]

[Ashley in English]
You look like a baby.

I'm so happy.

Everyday we'll come here.

Today I'm about to tell
Rob that I'm bisexual.

I'm not really
looking forward to it.


[Sophie clears throat]

[Robert] I don't
know what this is.


But it doesn't... It doesn't feel
like it's gonna be a good thing.

Sophie.

Are you crying?

♪ Check what I'm saying ♪

♪ 'Cause I ain't playing ♪

♪ Thought you a winner
But you were faking ♪


♪ I'm on a row now ♪

♪ You ain't amazing ♪

♪ Check your perfection ♪

♪ Think you need saving ♪

[Robert speaking]

So today, Sophie and I
are gonna go ring shopping.

Uh, we're just getting our

actual wedding bands.

And it doesn't need to be fancy.

But, uh, yeah.

We have to... We
need to get that.

[Sophie] Oh, gosh.

Uh...

Today I'm about to tell Rob

that I am bisexual.

So, I'm not really
looking forward to it.

I've been putting
off for so long.


I'm just hoping that, like, he
can't... Like, he can take it well.

And doesn't freak
out with me, I guess.

- [Robert] Hey.
- Hey, babe.

- [Robert] What's up?
- You look nice.

Should I look
basic? You look nice.

[Sophie speaking]

I want a rose gold one.

Try not to spend a bunch.

Obviously this whole... This
whole process is on a budget, but...

- Um, hopefully we...
- How much?

- Don't worry about it.
- Five thousand.

- Five thousand?
- [chuckles]

Girl, we wouldn't have half
the conversations we've had

in the last two and a half months,
if I had a budget of five grand,

right here, right now.

Mine will be five years can
be like [clears throat] one.

Anyways, you see
something you like...

you can ask me.

And we'll see what we can do.

I'm excited.

[Robert] Yeah, I'm excited too.

Are you ready?

All right. Let's go.

[Sophie] Okay. One
second. Hold on.

[clears throat]

Okay.

- What?
- [chuckles]

[Robert] Sophie.

Am I supposed to come out there?

[Sophie in low voice]
No. Just wait inside.

- [Robert] Huh?
- No.

[Sophie sniffling]

[Robert] Babe.

Are you crying?

- What can possibly...
- [Sophie speaking]

[Robert] You all right?

[Sophie speaking]

[Robert] Anxiety about what?

Huh?

What's up? What's
the... What's going on?

[Sophie speaking]

I mean, nobody wants to be told
that there's something they don't know.

Then what is it?

[Sophie] Telling Rob
is actually seeming


a lot harder than I
thought it would be.


Like, I have all these, like...

It's like these rush of
feelings come through.

Like, it's just... It's a
difficult thing to come out.

And I know I'm not gay. But
it's like... It's still my sexuality.

So, it feels kind of
the same as like...


It's such a personal thing.

And like, you never know how
someone is gonna take that.

[clears throat]

Okay.

Okay.

Okay.

You're bi?

[Sophie speaking]

[tense music plays]

[exhales heavily]

I don't even know
what to say to that.

[music ends]

[groans]

[sighs]

My head... is still spinning.

I need lots of water and food.

- This is too much for me going up this hill.
- [Justin speaking]

What... What are you doing?

- [Justin speaking]
- [Nikki laughs]

I thought you were gonna
put me on your back.

[Nikki] I loved my night
together with Justin.


That was lots of fun.

But, today I feel so
hungover. [chuckles]

[Justin speaking]

Mmm. Smells good.

My mind and my body need a rest.

[sighs]

Mmm.

[Justin speaking]

[Nikki] I am not present.

[chuckles] Oh, my
head is spinning.

- Mmm.
- [Justin speaking]

Oh.

[Justin speaking]

[waiter speaking
in other language]

[Justin speaking
in other language]

Cheers, my darling.

- Mmm.
- [exhales heavily]

[Nikki] What kind
of meat is this?

[Justin] Mmm...

- What?
- No. I don't know.

- Hard to say in English.
- Mouse meat?

This is like beef. Some
beef. Some good meat.

It looks... They, all three of
them looks suspicious to me.

[waiter speaking
in other language]

[Justin speaking
in other language]

What meat is this?

I don't know. I think pork.

Mmm. Yeah, but what of the pork?

Please don't tell me it's
like butt, like butt [bleep],

or something.

- Or intestine. I don't know.
- You like it?

Uh-uh. Can't eat that.

Oh, I'm excited for
horseback riding today.

I wish I was riding you
on a horse. [laughing]

Okay.

- Really?
- Yes.

[imitates sleeping]

[Nikki] At 3 a.m.

That's why I was
like... that's not...

- That's not how I want to do it.
- So, okay.

At least let me be awake.

So I can look at
your beautiful face.

And feel your body.

Not be like...

So, would you
rather just be friends?

Would you rather just be...

Why? It would... like...

Because...

you don't... I don't
have sex with my friends.

And you really just,
really have sex with me.

So, it's almost
like we're friends.

You have friendly
sex with your friend?

Um...

[Nikki] You do? You
have... You have that?

Really? Really?

While we've been together?

Come on, Igor. Don't lie to me.

Because there was times where I
was reaching you and you're upset.

Like, you were angry.
Like I was bothering you.

It just feels like that.

I'm not saying that you are.

But I'm saying that
sometimes it just feels like that.

That you were not answering,

if you were with someone.

- No. Bitch vibes is not coming.
- Yeah.

It's because
you're... You're like

tiptoeing around the
answer. But it's fine.

I wanna be able to
trust, you know, Justin.

And obviously I do,
if I came back to him,

after 17... you know, 15 years.

But, um...

you know, guys are
always gonna be guys.

And little does
he keep forgetting,

is that I used to be a boy.

And I still have that
part of the brain working.

And I know what guys
think, before they think it.

So if he thinks he's gonna pull
one over me, he just not. [chuckles]

Is there anyone since
we've been talking...

that you had sex
with, slept with?

I mean, now is
the time to tell me.

I'm not gonna judge you.

[exhales heavily] So?

Has there been any girls
that you [bleep] around with?

Which was when to you?

So you feel that that was the
most serious time in August?

It wasn't for Mexico?

Okay. 'Kay, then?

Uh-huh.

So before that, you
were [bleep] other girls?

Say yes or no.

So I applied for
the K-1 visa in June.

And you were already
[bleep] b*tches?

Are you serious?

And it wasn't until
August with the ring,

that's when you
got serious, 100%?

And you stopped having
sex with other girls?

[Justin chuckles]

I... I'm really
holding myself back,

from like, jumping
over this table.

So, like, I'm literally...

I knew it. I [bleep] knew it.

I knew it. I [bleep] knew it.

I knew you were [bleep].

I knew you were not
being [bleep] faithful.

Oh. We were already
talking seriously.

Now I understand.
Now I clearly understand,

why you don't wanna
make love to me.

It all makes sense.

I had already
filed the K-1 visa.


So for him to literally tell me

that he was sticking his
[bleep] in other women...

all the way up until
the engagement, no...

Unacceptable.

And I don't know if I wanna go forward
with the engagement at this point.

I'm [bleep] done.

I'm out of here.

[Justin sighs]

[narrator] Next time
on
90 Day Fiancé...

- Oh.
- [Gino] Baby, does it feel like Panama?

[Jasmine] I wanna take this off.

What are you doing? [laughs]

[Jasmine speaking]

Wow.

I am so happy to be here.

But at the same
time, it just constantly

reminds me of how
much I miss Panama

and my family.

[goats bleating]

[Clayton] Whoa. Stop
trying to steal from this. Ow.

[speaking in Spanish]

[in English] I'm
not intimidated.

[exclaims]

[goats bleating]

Heart's b*ating like a
thousand miles a minute.

Feeling pretty nervous,
waiting on Citra.

I'm just like, really worried,

we're not gonna have
that same connection,


when I was out there.

- Baby.
- [Citra chuckles]

[Citra speaking]

You call my
daughter, Devin, piggy.

[laughs]

Devin never really appears
as upset, as what she really is.

But I know her body language.

We're in a
mini-disaster right now.

Devin, what's going on?

[gasps and exclaims]

I don't need to ever worry that I'm
gonna go cheat on you with a woman.

'Cause that's... I
would never do that.

[Robert] The fact that she's only
now realizing that she's bisexual...


what does that mean
for our relationship?

If my girl gets to
[bleep] somebody else,

- then I get to [bleep] somebody else.
- No. You will never...

You will never get to
[bleep] someone else.

- So we should better... - In my
whole life, I will never be okay with that.

- Then neither will you.
- Even you saying is disgusting.

I will never be okay with that.

You don't think that applying for
K-1 visa, that's not serious stuff?

Huh? You thought
that was a [bleep] joke?

And you're still
[bleep] b*tches.

It's different if you
make an agreement.


We have a open relationship.

No, that was never discussed.
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