03x01 - Uva Family

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Tonight, jo meets the uva family. [Doorbell rings]

Hi! Hi! Pleased to meet you.

This is my husband. Jo. Hi.

I just grab it. Night-light.

This mom may own her own preschool,

But it's herboys, -year-old trevor...

And -year-old travis, who run it. [Screaming]

And mom and dad do nothing to stop them.

I hope you're having fun.

As the not-so-happy homemaker...

It's kind of been a disaster.

You pick it up, garbageman.

You want some corn? No!

Dad can't get any respect...

Leaving these parents... Ow!

I just want my life back.

Totally pooped. Wipe my ass!

You actually wipe his own bottom? I won't touch him.

Can jo get these defeated parents...

When did you give up?

Couple of months ago. No, it's been longer than that.

To get back in the game?

Rosemarie, if you don't get a grip,

You're in for a big lot of trouble, let me tell you.

Or will everyone be left ducking for cover?

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Well, let's take a look

And see what family we've got here this week.

Hi, we're the uva family.

I'm jeff. This is my wife rosemarie.

We have sons. We have trevor, who is ... [Burps]

And travis, who is .

I just grab it. Night-light.

I'm the owner and director of a preschool.

Whoo!

Ready, set, go!

I've basically retired from the car business.

Pretty much my time is devoted to them

In--in the last recent months.

[Screaming] I'll cook it.

I'm a stay-at-home dad now.

No!

Trevor, get your feet off the table. Jeez.

I just kind of let 'em do their own thing.

Kind of just given up.

Get over here. Where are you going?

Dad doesn't really manage the boys very well.

Jeff comes to my work with trevor and travis

Until I'm ready to leave.

When the kids are at the preschool,

They think they can get away with everything and anything.

I hope you're having fun.

They don't set an example to the other children.

Oh, my god, you just got your paper, and now it's ruined!

I get very stressed out by : in the afternoon.

[Crying] look at me.

Hey, hey, hey. I'm pulling my hair out with both my kids there.

[Cries]

Jeff!

I have no energy left when I go home

To give myself to my own children.

[Crying]

They do not respect either one of us.

What's that?

They're getting to the point

Where there's gonna be no turning back.

It's gotta be fixed. Oh, god.

Supernanny, we really need your help here.

Please come help my family.

You guys could do with nanny jo jo's help.

I'm on my way.

[Doorbell rings]

Hi! Hi! Pleased to meet you.

Hi. Hi. Can I come in?

Sure.

Hi.

Hi. Pleased to meet you. This is my husband.

Jo. Hi. Hi, I'm jeff.

When jo first got here, I felt like,

"Uh-oh, I'm in trouble."

[Rosemarie] this is travis.

Hi, travis. Pleased to meet you.

Can you say hi? Shake jo jo's hand.

And this is...

This is trevor. Trevor. Hi, trevor. Pleased to meet you.

Shake jo jo's hand?

Pleased to meet you.

And how old is trevor? [Jeff] .

When I arrived and I met the boys,

Both of them ignored me.

They didn't want to acknowledge that I was there.

I think they've got an idea why I'm here.

Get down. No.

Get down. No!

Almost immediately, trevor started giving mom attitude.

He doesn't like listening to mom, by the looks of it.

No, he doesn't listen to either one of us. No?

Ow!

Trevor, stop. [Jeff] trevor.

They're quite aggressive with one another with those bats.

Trevor's the motivator, usually.

Right.

Mom and dad seem fine to stand by

And watch the boys run amok.

[Screaming]

Once I was inside, I got a clearer picture.

The boys do what they want. Mom and dad just ignore it.

[Laughing]

[Jeff] trevor, you wanna eat or what?

Trevor. What?

You want something to eat now or later?

"Whatever."

This boy certainly doesn't have any manners,

And he needs to have some respect.

What are you doing? Trevor, get up.

Get off the floor.

You run a day care center?

Yes, I have a preschool. I love it, but I'm exhausted.

And adding my own kids to it-- it's a nightmare.

I work all the time, and I don't see 'em much.

And he's mr. Mom now.

So with dad being the homemaker, what's that like?

They've just gotten worse, not better.

Since rose's business has taken off,

I was able to step back from my career

And be the stay-at-home dad.

It's kind of been a disaster.

[Screaming]

[Screaming]

I used to have a really close bond

When I was a stay-at-home mom, and I've lost that bond

Over the last year.

[Jo] rosemarie and jeff have made changes over the year,

But it seems like it hasn't worked out as planned.

This is travis' room, and I've cleared a little path

To get to the closet.

The first thing I noticed about the children's rooms

Was that they are bombarded with so many toys,

And then those toys are just trashed.

I mean, that's the right word,

Because they have no respect for any of their toys.

Well, I'm gonna leave this room, because I'm a bit worried

That I'm gonna break some toys if I tread on them.

Let's go. Food time. Come on.

At dinnertime, dad was struggling

To get the boys to sit at the table.

Eat. Sit.

Sit down.

But once they got there, the attitudes started to flare.

Get over there and eat!

Sit down!

No, just sit down and eat.

Go pick that up. You pick it up, garbageman.

Want some corn?no!

When the kids disrespect me and the name calling,

It's not a good feeling,

But I just let it go.

This is pretty typical.

It's really appalling, the way the boys

Talk to their parents.

But jeff and rosemarie just stand there and take it.

[Screams]

What time do the children go to bed, then?

They kind of have their own schedule.

They go to bed when they feel like it.

I go to bed, and a lot of times, they're up still.

The children go to bed whenever it suits them,

Which is absolutely bizarre.

[Rosemarie] you have five minutes,

And you're taking a bath.

Are you taking a bath? I don't want to.

I asked, and you said you were taking a bath.

Get in the tub. Stop.

What?

Where you see jeff right now, that's what he does all night.

He will either sit on his computer, sit at that table...

I think any dad would give anything

To be able to stay home and not have to work.

And I think that my husband should be grateful

For staying home, and he's not.

And this is the other problem I have.

Trevor--he will not wipe his own butt.

Excuse me? My -year-old can wipe his own butt,

And my -year-old can't.

No, travis at least poops and tries to wipe, trevor.

He may not be perfect about it, but he does it.

[Jeff] that's 'cause you do it for him.

He has the toilet paper in there.

He can tie his shoes, he can wipe his own ass.

Wait, so you're being serious here?

You actually wipe his own bottom?

He's gonna sit there and scream for an hour.

Then let him scream. I will let him sit on the toilet for ten minutes...

I won't touch him. And he will scream.

I was shocked.

I was shocked that this mother

Was asking for the toilet roll to wipe her son's bottom.

He's years old.

[Yawns] you tired?

[Travis yawns]

Do you wanna go to bed, travis?

[Loud noise]

Can I go do my laundry? Yeah.

What are you gonna do? I don't know.

Jeff, I have to do my laundry. Okay.

Mom's just reached her limit.

She's not getting any support from dad,

So I pulled her aside so I could talk to her about it.

I'm exhausted.

I have no energy left by the end of the night

To do all this laundry.

You look quite torn. I can see it in your eyes.

What's got you torn? My kids.

Maybe I'm not here enough. Maybe I work too much.

You know, when I'm at work, every parent there tells me

I'm a great person, I take care of their kids.

Those kids are my life.

But I don't have anything left for my own.

Mom knows that she doesn't give enough time to the boys,

But she also doesn't get enough support from jeff.

And he's gonna need to get more involved.

Coming up on...

Mom's preschool is run by bullies.

Did you just hit her with the ball

After I asked you to stop?

And these parents have given up the fight...

What are you teaching your children?nothing.

And whose responsibility-- us. We just gave it up.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Travis, stop rearranging the furniture.

Oh, boy, mom wasn't kidding when she told me

That the boys decide when they want to go to bed.

You ready to go to bed, travis? I'm tired.

We've got an exhausted mom here,

A dad who's washed his hands of all responsibilities,

And two boys who are running the show.

Move over, trev.

How rosemarie thinks putting the boys intoher bed

Is going to help the situation, I do not know.

Good night.

I decided not to hang around until the boys fell asleep

Because we had a lot more work to do in the morning.

I'd like to thank you both for a really good day,

'Cause I've seen plenty,

And I look forward to seeing you both tomorrow.

Okay. Okay. Good night.

Good night. Thanks. Thank you.

You're welcome.

The uva family spend a lot of time at the preschool,

So I decided to turn up to see exactly how

The boys interact with the other children.

Hi. Hi!

How are you? Good. How are you?

Good, good, good. Good to see you again.

Thank you. Look at this.

Yeah, this is my preschool.

I left rosemarie to get on with some work

And went out back to the playground.

It was a nice experience to walk into mom's preschool

And see all these little children running around.

And then there was trevor and travis,

Sticking out like two sore thumbs...

Just destroying the property in the backyard.

No, you know that you are not allowed to be doing this.

Trevor.

Intimidating, picking on other children...

Hi, travis.

Do you girls play with trevor and travis?

Not really.

So what do you girls do when that happens?

[Woman] trevor, do not throw balls at her!

Take a shot!

Trevor and travis are the most naughty

In that playground,

And mom and dad just ignore it.

Do not throw balls at them. You're going to hurt them.

[Mutters]

Look at the little girls in there, shuddering.

Look at the way trevor's behaving.

[Screaming]

That's intimidation,

And he's bullying. Why did you just hit her with the ball

After I asked you to stop?

Trevor, come here. I'm not going to chase after you.

What do you do as far as any form of discipline?

For trevor, it's normally, I send him in to his mom.

It stresses me out.

You know, I have other children that I have to-- yeah, exactly.

[Jeff] when my kids act up around other children,

I just kind of feel helpless.

Where the [bleep] is my ball? Oh.

Do not use those words outside for my other children to hear.

The teachers are in a no-win situation.

They would normally call the parents

To come and collect the child,

But the parents are their boss who own the preschool.

And the bosses do nothing to curb their children's behavior.

Have a seat right now.

Do you need me to go get your mom?

Oh, I've seen plenty here.

Mom and dad have got complacent with the boys,

And that needs to change.

My word.

A business that belongs to the family,

And I'm sure you're very proud...

[Rosemarie] I am. Of that preschool.

It's taken a lot of hard work for it to be successful.

So, well done.

But... When did you give up?

Couple of months ago. No, it's been longer than that.

It all changed once I purchased the school.

Homemaker now.

Mm-hmm.

Before, you were working outside the home.

I'm sure it was a job that gave you great satisfaction,

And you had much pride in what you did, correct? Yes.

I want you to find pride in what you're doing now,

Because you're like a baby-sitter.

You sit back, and you just let the kids get on with it.

That's a good definition, yeah. "Baby-sitter."

Which brings me on to the next issue,

Is the responsibilities that your sons have

At the age of and .

They don't have any.

They don't make their own beds,

They don't tidy up after themselves,

They don't get themselves washed.

I mean, come on. I even saw you wipe trevor's bottom.

Years old.

What are you thinking?

I guess I just haven't been there enough--either of them--

To give them the skills for it.

Jeff.

I agree on a lot of that, especially the wiping thing.

I won't go near that. I tell her that's crazy.

Let's move on to the profanity.

Where do we begin?

I mean, I don't find that funny.

I tune it out. Just tune it out.

But it's not gonna go away, is it?

You know, trevor is really aggressive. Mm-hmm.

I mean, he just bullies the children in preschool.

The staff are doing the best they can

To be able to stop your boys

From intimidating the other kids.

And they come to you... Mm-hmm.

But you don't go out there and do anything.

I don't know what to do anymore.

What are you teaching your children?nothing.

And whose responsibility-- us.

We just gave it up.

Do you know how heavy that statement is?

I think I put so much into my life at my school,

I don't know if I just don't have anything left

When I come home.

Your kids need you both.

I know that, and I see it.

We always have something in the way

Instead of giving ourselves to them.

That's our fault.

It's being selfish.

But you're robbing yourselves. Nobody wins here.

Because you don't come together

In recognizing what's important for your boys.

I've miss that family that I had.

So how badly do you want it back? A lot.

I'm ready for a change, and whatever it's gonna take,

It'll be better than what's happening now.

You know, if it means sacrificing,

Or hard work or whatever,

I mean, that needs to get done.

Ready. Ready to go.

Let's get started as soon as possible.

Coming up on...

Jo's tired of toying around...

We're taking everything out of the room.

No! I don't want it in the garbage!

And mom goes m.i.a. At bedtime...

Where's mom? I love you.

I'm about to drag her out that bedroom if she's in there.

What are you doing?

When "supernanny" returns.

But first, a tip from supernanny.

Dads, if a change in career means you're now the homemaker,

Then take pride in the new role you have.

Multitasking can be really challenging,

But don't be discouraged.

Utilize your time wisely.

Make a routine so that you can get those house chores done,

And then you can go and have fun with the kids.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

If jeff's going to be a stay-at-home dad,

He needs to stop dropping the boys off at day care

And participate more at home, and that starts with a routine.

The uva family routine.

Check this out. Look.

Now everything in green is your responsibility.

[Laughing]

[Rosemarie] my first reaction to the routine was

I kind of laughed at it, because I didn't think

That jeff would be able to follow it.

You're now going to be mr. Homemaker,

And you're gonna take pride in what you do

Because it's valuable, what you do.

I think having the routine gives me some balance

Throughout the day versus just winging it.

Everything in blue is gonna be you, rosemarie.

All right, so get home at :.

Pass on whatever duties you need to do.

Tomorrow's another day.

My part of the routine is a little hard for me.

I'm gonna have to start to delegate my work

So I can get out of work on time and be home with my family.

Now we've done the routine. Let's move on to the next thing.

Look at these.

They're called the talking towers

Because they're all about the language we use.

And jo jo has observed some language that is not good.

The children's language is inappropriate, to say the least.

If you can show mommy and daddy

How well you can curb your tongue,

Which means not using the bad words,

Every day, they give you a balloon.

And when you've got ten balloons,

It means you get a special reward.

When jo first brought the talking towers in,

I didn't think that it was going to work.

Trevor and travis have a bit of a mouth,

And they could care less what anybody else says.

Next, I wanted to take care of the boys' messy rooms.

Trevor and travis' bedrooms are a huge mess.

They never tidy up.

But why would they?

Mom and dad doeverything for them.

If you want to play with your toys,

It means you've got to tidy them up as well.

No, start here.

Trevor started to tidy up,

But he was still reluctant to finish.

And travis didn't want to bother at all.

[Crying] look!

Look at all your trains. See how many you have?

It didn't matter what we said to encourage them,

They just weren't moving.

Travis, come here. [Crying]

Travis, stop whining.

They just didn't want to tidy up.

It was obvious we weren't gettinganywhere,

So I had to take some drastic measures.

We're taking everything out of the room,

And we're leaving the trains, and we're leaving the k'nex.

Every day they show they can tidy up their rooms,

They'll get a confiscated toy back.

So everything that's on the floor

Has to be put in boxes, otherwise, it goes in a bag.

No! No! I don't want it in the garbage!

Then start cleaning.

Travis started crying hysterically.

I found myself wanting to comfort him,

But jo had me just continue to focus on, you know,

Cleaning all of his toys out of his room.

[Crying] go ahead, come on.

Well, you need to go help mom clean it,

Or you need to clean it.

I felt great. I could see the floor.

Walking out of trevor's room with a garbage bag,

At least the floor's accessible.

Now I don't have to walk and trip over things

Just to get in there and make the bed.

[Crying]

At the end of every day, if you do that,

Mommy's gonna start giving you back your toys, okay?

I think that travis will understand

That hewill get back his toys

As long as he shows respect for his belongings.

I just hope that mom keeps on giving them

The opportunity to be able to prove themselves.

All right, I'll leave it up to the pair of you... Okay.

To, uh, start off the routine. All right.

[Jo] it's crazy that these boys dictate their own bedtimes.

So this evening,

I'm gonna walk mom and dad through the bedtime routine.

This is gonna help to calm the children down

And get them quality time with their parents in the evening.

When it came to the bedtime routine,

They knew that they were gonna get quality time

With each one of us.

The only problem I knew we'd run to is travis

When it came to, um, actually going to sleep.

Good night. Can you sleep with me?

No, I'm not gonna sleep with you. Nope.

[Whines] good night.

You're going right now into the stay-in-bed technique.

First time you put him into bed, you say,

"It's bedtime, darling."

The second time, you say, "bedtime."

The third time, you say nothing.

Either he sleeps in my bed or I lay in his bed-- oh, great!

And you'll be divorced within a year and a half, love.

The hardest part about the stay-in-bed technique

Is I can't crawl into bed with him and go to sleep,

And I'm used to that. Oh, there's a light on.

[Jo] mom was back and forth in travis' room...

And then she went missing.

But where's mom?

I love you. [Cries]

I'm about to drag her out of that bedroom if she's in there.

[Jo] what are you doing?

This is very hard for me, and I admit that.

This was really difficult for rosemarie,

Because this is her special time with the boys.

But with the routine in place,

It means she'll be able to give them lots of time during the day

So that she doesn't have to get her cuddles at bedtime.

It's... Just gone :.

Trevor's already sleeping, and his time was :.

So well done! The pair of you did quite well this evening.

And look, now you've got the evening together.

I didn't know what to do with myself.

I'm usually falling asleep with them,

And here I was,

Actually up when my kids were in bed for the first time.

Coming up on...

I want game! No, we gotta go outside.

Getting in the game brings dad to tears...

Are you okay?

Yeah. I'm okay.

But mom seems content on the bench...

Rosemarie, if you don't get a grip,

You're in for a big lot of trouble, let me tell you.

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

Jeff's initial efforts at being a homemaker

Are quite lazy.

But I do know that he wants to change,

And I think we can turn him around.

What you'll do is, to make it easier for yourself,

Is write out from monday to friday the chores.

So let's start off first by putting this all away.

My wife's got her career,

And now it's my turn to be the homemaker.

I'm taking this homemaker position real seriously.

Move on to sorting out other things

That need to be done within the chores.

Since jo's been here,

She's brought in the structure for me to be mr. Homemaker,

And I can see it's already starting to work.

Give me five!

Look at you. You got this down!

Later on in the day whilst I was talking to dad,

We heard a distress call coming from the bathroom.

[Trevor] wipe my ass!

He wants somebody to wipe his bottom.

Okay. He's in there.

This is ridiculous!

Trevor is years old! We need to put a stop to this now.

Well, do it yourself.

[Trevor] I'm trying to. Well, that's good.

Dad and I just gave him

Encouraging words to carry on doing it himself.

All right, we'll let you get on with the rest.

Use the soap, hot water, and wash your hands real good.

I think it's great trevor is wiping his own butt.

There's no turning back. If my wife does it--

I'll pull her out of the bathroom

If she thinks she's-- even thinks about it.

Normally, dad would drop the boys off at preschool

In the afternoon,

But today he made a big step forward,

And he decided to spend

Some good quality time with the boys at home.

Oh! You won.

Trevor scored the winning goal,

But travis... He didn't like that.

Good job, trevor. No!

Yeah, he won. But I want game!

No, we gotta go outside. He won.

That was the rule-- next goal wins. No, I wanna play!

No, why do you wanna break the game?

[Travis] because. [Jeff] because why?

No! You did good.

I wanna play again! We'll play later.

I wanna play again!

Travis didn't like losing, and even though

Dad gave him a warning, he just wouldn't let up.

[Jo] see this kicking? [Jeff] yeah?

Once you've been... Yeah.

Take him straight... I want to play again!

To the naughty bench. [Jeff] come on. Come on, travis.

[Jo] right, his is the blue one. [Crying]

[Jo] okay, come away.

I just feel like I'm uneasy at first putting him there

'Cause he was-- he was so upset.

And, you know, they weren't fake tears. He was basically crying.

[Whining and crying] now, jeff, don't talk to him. Don't talk to him.

Jeff had given up disciplining the boys,

So for him to follow through with the naughty bench

Was a big move.

And I know I wasn't supposed to comfort him, so I didn't.

Travis could see that dad wasn't joking,

And he eventually sat there.

[Jo] four minutes start from now, dad. [Jeff] okay.

[Trevor] I can't find the whiffle ball. [Coughing]

Travis?

[Jo] come down.

Okay, you know why you're here? Hmm?[Crying]

Sit back on the bench and come down and use eye contact.

Hey, look at me. You know why you're here?

You kicked daddy, right? That's naughty, right?

Hmm?

Yeah. Can you say you're sorry to daddy?

Sorry.you're not gonna do it no more?

You promise?yeah.

Okay. Come here, buddy.

It was just--it went right to my heart.

I mean, something I have never felt before.

What's--oh, you're making me cry. [Chuckles]

You're all emotional. Are you okay?

Yeah. I'm okay.

This is a big moment for jeff.

Just by disciplining travis,

He's gained more confidence as a parent,

And his boys respect him.

[Crying] I know.

Just not usually that close with...

You're not usually that close?

It's not usually what it--how it works.

Come here.

Oh, I'm proud of ya. You did really well.

[Jo] all right, dad, let's have some fun! [Claps]

I'm very proud of dad and that he was so happy

That he was able to implement discipline.

And I think everything, it just come at once for him, you know?

It's the first time

That he's ever disciplined the children successfully.

It's not just at home that the boys need disciplining.

They also need it at the preschool as well.

So we headed over there

Because they get very aggressive with the other children.

[Girl] it's mine!

Travis is taking the ball from that young girl over there.

Come here.

Okay, let's go talk to him, okay?

I saw travis take a basketball from a little girl,

And mom went over to correct what had happened.

Did you take this ball from her?

[Travis] I got it. It was mine.

Did you take this ball from breezy? I got this one.

Are you not sharing? That's mine!

[Travis] I got it.

Instead, she pacified travis.

So I had to pull her away and have a word with her.

I wasn't happy with what I saw.

You can't discipline your own child.

I feel bad 'cause he's mine, and I don't want him

To be mad at me, and it's easier for me

To continue working and just let him--

Can you hear what you're saying?

I just thought, "rosemarie, cut the excuses.

Take some responsibility here."

Let me tell you something, and this is straight now,

Rosemarie, if you don't get a grip,

You're in for a big lot of trouble. Let me tell you.

You've got boys, and , that have got attitude.

If you don't remain consistent when you're in your own school,

Then what are you going to be doing for them?

I just don't know how to get them to know the rules

And to relax-- by doing it, rosemarie. You know where

To put those children when they're aggressive.

You place 'em straight onto a naughty bench.

The tools have been set up for you,

But you've gotta want it. I do. That's why you're here.

Well, then show me.

Show yourself, show your husband and show your kids.

So where do I start?

You start right here.

Jo is--i feel as though is a little hard on me,

But I know she does it for the right reasons.

I just want my life back.

Then take it and say, "right, I'm gonna change things."

Come on. It isn't that bad, huh?

It ain't that bad. You can do it. You can do it.

Guys, I'm off for a while.

Not having jo around for the next few days

Is gonna make it even harder for me

Because I don't have someone looking over my shoulder.

Trevor, jo jo's going now,

But I'll see you in a while when I come back. Okay?

I can do these things that jo's taught us

For the next few days while she's gone,

And I can feel confident I can get it done.

Travis?

Bye, darling.

Bye.

Mmm-mmm-mmm. Unh-unh, too hungry.

I've worked really hard with rosemarie and jeff,

And if they seriously want change,

They're gonna have to step it up while I'm away.

Okay, guys. Take care.

[Rosemarie and jeff] bye. Thank you.

[Travis] bye.

Coming up on...

Mom teaches the boys some new words...

I freaking got my ass chewed out from the nanny the other night.

And jo's not pleased...

What happened there?

He's just as bad.

You need to take responsibility.

When "supernanny" returns.

But first, a tip from supernanny.

Parents, when you're dropping your children off to school,

Don't make it any harder than it needs to be.

If your children start to cry,

Then do them a favor and don't loiter.

Hang up their bags and their coats,

Engage them in an activity and leave immediately,

Confidently reassuring them

That you'll be back to pick 'em up later.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

♪ Be good, be good ♪

[Travis] dad?yeah?

[Jo] all right, dad, playing hockey with the boys.

This is some good quality time.

I'm glad to see you got them out of the house.

[Jeff] come on, go get 'em!

[Jo] good job not taking the boys to day care.

Wanna go again? Huh?

Good job, trevor. Maybe you should get into roller derby.

[Jo] everybody was really having fun. Fantastic.

[Jeff] are they supposed to be playing with that?

[Jo] are those the toys we confiscated?

Trevor, get your head out of that bag.

So is one of you going to get up and stop them? Why?

Because that stuff is stuff that you shouldn't even

Be playing with in the first place.

You couldn't clean your room

But yet you could play with them?

[Jo] what's the point in disciplining the boys

If you're not gonna follow through?

Good, mom. You're getting a chance to bond with trevor.

I really don't enjoy playing sports with trevor.

I am emotionally drained. I give everything to my work.

What kind of attitude is that? Iknow trevor can sense it.

Don't pop my windows.

Try not to line drive 'em and scare me.

[Jo] how sad, rosemarie.

We're really gonna have to work on this.

I think trevor and travis have learned their swear words

Either from tv shows or, um...

Other people speaking in general.

[Rosemarie] oh... [Bleep]

Mom, where do you think they learned that from?

Their dad has taught them a lot of their, um...

Bathroom talk.

Stop!

[Jo] everybody else is to blame but you.

I know, I freaking got my ass chewed out from the nanny

The other night. You wanna say hi to grandma?

Here, grandma jean is on the phone. Take the phone! Unh-unh.

God, they're such brats.

Rosemarie, your behavior is out of order!

Hi, are you guys ready to take a look?

Yes. Okay.

[Jeff] come on. Ready? Go.

[Chuckling] look, stay right here.

Kick it. Come on, go get 'em! Go, go, go! I'm coming up.

Good job, trevor. Maybe you should get into roller derby.

That was really good to see.

And you all looked like you were having a lot of fun there.

Definitely something that you need to be keeping up now,

Because they absolutely loved spending time with you.

So keep up. That was really wonderful to see.

Well done, jeff. Thanks.

[Jeff] are they supposed to be playing with that?

Get your head out of that bag! [Trevor] why?

[Rosemarie] because that stuff is stuff that you shouldn't

Even be playing with in the first place.

You couldn't clean your room,

But yet you could play with them. [Trevor] look at these guys.

Can you blame them? No. It's right there.

So you ask the children to tidy up their rooms because

When they do that, they're going to get their toys back.

But then they don't have to tidy up their rooms to get 'em

Because they're there on the porch,

Waiting to be played with. What lesson's being taught here?

No matter what they do, they get their toys. There is no lesson.

Nobody was gonna take them away forever.

But we were making a point here,

And we were teaching the children a lesson.

Well, at least that's what I thought.

Don't pop my windows.

Try not to line drive 'em and scare me.

What happened there?

We played for almost an hour. [Laughs]

Where was the enthusiasm? Where was the energy?

Where was the praise? You know he loves baseball.

He's playing with somebody

Who is showing him that really they're not interested,

And that person is his mother.

It's important for him

To have a good relationship with his mother.

You've got to make the effort.

Their dad has taught them a lot of their, um...

Bathroom talk.

Oh... [Bleep]

[Both laugh]

But I didn't say it loud enough for him to hear. [Laughs]

It was clear as day for me.

He's just as bad though. Just because it's on tape-- oh, I'm not--you think i--

You always say that. I'm not that bad.

You need to take responsibility and be accountable

For how you behave in front of your children.

Nobody's perfect.

Everybody's gonna slip out a word every now and then.

But the point is, be aware,

And acknowledge the fact that you do as well,

Instead of blaming others.

What I would like to do with the pair of you today

Is to reinforce what I've seen here.

Okay, there is a lack of motivation,

And I want you to recognize

How important it is to follow through

And act on what you say, all right?

Okay. So are you ready for some more work?

Sure.yes.

Brilliant. Okay, let's go then.

Coming up on...

Jo finds out the rules were broken...

All of these toys, they need to be removed.

And throws mom into the deep end...

He loves being with you. You've got to recognize that.

Wanna race 'em? Oh, there goes my bugs!

Move! Quick! [Laughs]

When "supernanny" returns.

♪ Be good, be good ♪

How we doing? [Jeff] good.

Dad, how well have both the children done

With their talking towers?

Today? Mm-hmm.

They deserve a balloon. How about we do that?

[Jeff] trevor, travis, come on.

You've been very well today. No potty mouth.

The talking towers are working really, really well.

And whilst I've been here, dad has given each child

A balloon to place into their talking towers,

At which point,

Travis smiled very broadly with his little dimples showing.

[Jeff] here you go, all right.

[Claps] yay! Well done, boys! Look at that.

It went down. That's awesome! [Jeff] okay. That's good.

It is!

Uh, when jo originally brought in the towers,

I just had mixed feelings about the potty mouth stopping.

But it--it's changed.

Trevor and travis know not to say the negative words,

That--that just the back talk, anything like that.

And so it's--it's working.

All of these toys, they need to be removed.

Those toys should've never been out.

They should've been locked up in a shed,

And those children should've been receiving one new toy

Every time they tidied up their bedrooms. So they need to go.

Okay.

Taken into the garage or shed, wherever.

Mom and dad need to get off their butts.

They need to stop being lazy,

And expect things to resolve on their own.

Yeah. Excellent.

I think it's so important

That rosemarie spends time with the boys to reconnect with them.

You've gotta show these boys that just because

There's a preschool doesn't mean they haven't got a mom.

So today's the first step in changing that.

So today I'm gonna start off with trevor.

How's that? Good?yeah.

Do any of these float?

This is on top of land. On top of land?

This goes here? Yeah.

And that's everything that goes in the sea, right?

Right.cool.

It's just so good to see trevor smiling,

Where he's just genuinely

Enjoying spending time with his mom.

Wanna race 'em to the other side and back?

Ready?

[Laughs] my bug's farther.

Come on, bug. Move! Quick!

[Screams and laughs]

I realized how much trevor really craved my attention,

And just my giving it to him made all the difference.

He loves being with you.yeah.

And I think you've got to recognize that he wants

To spend time with his mommy. There's more energy there.

Whoo! The more time you make

To actually have one-on-one with him,

The more you're gonna start to connect.

He loves it. Look at him.

It's absolutely fantastic

To see this family really come together.

And I think they've made some real progress.

Jo jo's going now.yeah.

I'm going home. Could you give me a high five?

High five, buddy.

Give me five. Jo jo's leaving now.

[Laughs]

[Jo speaking indistinctly]

So... Take care.

Thank you. Keep up the good work, all right?

Thanks. You're welcome.

I knew with having jo come here that there were some things

That we were gonna change, but I did not anticipate at all

How much she's done and how much she's helped us.

[Jeff] what jo was giving me here is to not keep the kids

At arm's length, and just to open up to them.

And that's a big reward, um, to see them open up back to me.

It's very important that they know that I love them.

[Jo] bye, kids! Say bye-bye, guys.

It's always fantastic to leave a family smiling,

Feeling confident that I can leave,

And they're gonna get on with things and make the most of it.

And that's how I felt leaving the uva family today.

Okay, ready, set...

Go!

Having jo here has made a lot of things change in our lives.

It has made us happier.

Whoo! [Laughs]

Yay!

The change in the children that surprised me the most...

[Rosemarie] trevor, you need to pick up the dinosaurs.

[Jeff] is that they've took on chores.

Thank you.

I need to find a balance between home and my work life,

And I haven't quite gotten that yet,

But I'm gonna be working on it.

So nice, travis!

You kind of look like a little bit like a mummy.

Just giving them myself... Yeah, there's a big reward there.

Just in their face, you can tell.

There's a big change.

It makes me feel great to see jeff spend time with them.

[All laughing]

Before, it was always a chore.

[Jeff] travis and trevor have been getting along a lot--

A lot better.

There's more interaction with them, more kindness.

We definitely are a lot happier with one another.

[Laughs]

[Jeff] we've grown to appreciate each other more.

I think we'll be closer, more love.

I'm very proud that we all stuck together and got through this.

I think jeff doing a lot of the house chores

And taking care of the kids...

Bye, travis! He has helped me a lot.

[Jeff] it's easier now. [Rosemarie] it's just changed everything.

That's a microphone? [Man] yes.

Oh, wow. Cool.

You talk through that thing?

Wow, cool!

[Rosemarie] travis, instead of inhaling it,

Why don't you breathe, okay?

[Exhales]

[Jeff] travis, you want a shovel?

Breathe, travis! Look at mommy.

Travis, you want another pizza?