♪ I been changing up my direction ♪
♪ Going further than my intention... ♪
Ready for this?
-Babe. What are we doing?
-Another surprise.
You're about to find out.
-[Nancy] Okay.
-[Bartise] Hello.
Wow.
[Bartise] In the pods,
I talked about my tattoo idea.
I have my grandma on me. One day
I want all the women in my life,
including you, my potential future wife.
-Yeah.
-We're not getting tattoos today.
We're gonna do something different,
something special.
-It's gonna be permanent bracelets.
-Oh my gosh.
-Sound cool? Over here...
-How cute! Okay.
...we're gonna have some stuff to pick from,
and they're gonna weld it onto us.
So there's no clasp.
Your wedding ring can come on and off.
This, you're locked in.
You're locked in now.
Yeah. Which one you like, babe?
[Nancy] Um...
-I'mma go with this. This combo here.
-Yeah.
[Nancy] Me dos.[/i]
-Let's put 'em on. Can we get 'em on?
-Let's do it.
-Yeah, absolutely.
-[Nancy] Thank you.
-How do we do 'em? Like this?
-Whatever's more comfortable for you.
This is super permanent.
This is as permanent as it gets, huh?
-Yeah. Pretty real.
-And hopefully, that's what marriage is.
I'm not going into the marriage
hoping it's not permanent, so...
-This is a big step for us.
-[Nancy] I don't...
I wouldn't say yes if I didn't know
that this was something
that I wanted to do for, like,
the rest of my life.
-[Bartise] Yeah.
-[device beeps]
It's on there.
[jeweler] Okay. And you are all done.
-Switch seats?
-Yeah, I'm gonna have you switch.
-You ready?
-Yeah.
-All right. No turning back from here.
-This is it. [gasping]
Big moment here.
-["We Got the Love" plays]
-[Nancy gasps, giggles]
Oh my God, it's so pretty.
-[jeweler] Okay...
-[Bartise] Cool.
Baby, that's so good.
♪ By letting it flow... ♪
I'm glad you like it.
[Nancy] So good!
♪ We got the love ♪
♪ You can't hold this down ♪
[Alexa] Let the teachings begin.
[music fades]
I'm here to learn and get cut, apparently.
-Yeah. Again?
-[Alexa laughs]
[Adam] So you'd like to learn
about the traditions
and what they signify.
[Brennon] Yes, sir. My family's religious.
They're all Christian.
I've never been to a Jewish wedding.
-[Adam] We'll start with this.
-[Barry] Yeah.
So the, uh, the kippah
or the yarmulke signifies
that God is always over us.
-[Alexa] Mm-hmm.
-[Barry] Yeah.
My hair's pretty slick, so it falls off.
I need a bobby pin.
I think I actually got clips
to come with it.
-Already. Yeah.
-[Adam] Velcro.
-[Brennon] Velcro. That'll work.
-Hot glue. We'll get a hot glue g*n.
-Or hairspray it to you, babe. Yeah.
-Yeah, that's... One of those.
[Barry] You know your kid's
gonna be Jewish, whatever you do.
Yes, sir. Yeah, she told me that early on.
That was a question...
Whatever happens,
your kids are gonna be Jewish.
-Because of her.
-[Adam] It goes by mother.
-He's ready for me to have kids now.
-Oh now? Okay.
He says three years.
So, we'll meet in the middle.
She gonna be...
Make me grin, grin, grin, grin as well.
'Cause I don't know everything
about Christianity or Ju...
I don't know. I'm just not well-versed.
You can ask her,
"Why I want to be Jewish?"
-She can tell you.
-[Brennon and Alexa laugh]
That's why I asked her if I needed...
If there was a class, what I needed to do...
[Adam] Actually, you can. I mean, like...
Actually, when we went...
When I went with Morgan
when she converted,
there's a lot of things that I learned
that I didn't know before.
-[Alexa] Yeah.
-Yes.
[Adam] The ketubah, or the contract,
it's actually like a, um, prenup.
[tense music playing]
Where you're promising that if,
in the case of a divorce,
you promise to continue
to take care of her, both financially, uh,
with the kids,
provide her shelter, provide her food.
[Barry] Watch out. This is real.
It's no joke.
It's a real one.
Whatever happens in life,
I'm always gonna be there to support her
and be there for her,
and build her up as best I can.
You know, I hope that we do have
y'all's support going forward.
[Alexa] Yeah.
I just want you to provide
the best family life that you can
and travel and experience, all this...
Everything that the world has to offer.
So there's several of the traditions.
There is a chuppah,
which is the arc
that you get married under.
And that's four posts.
[Adam] It's supposed to signify your home.
So that's the first time you're walking
into your symbolic home
as husband and wife.
And then you have the tradition,
which is very Jewish,
the breaking of the glass.
[Alexa] Mm-hmm.
[Adam] Another tradition. The veil.
That he puts it over your face,
and it signifies he loves...
Like this ugly ho?
It's... He loves you for inner beauty,
not your outer beauty.
-[Alexa] I think...
-[Brennon] Perfect for us.
-I know. We actually...
-For both, but obviously... Yeah.
-The circumstances we met.
-Yeah. There we go. Love is[/i] blind.
Are you prettier on the inside
or the outside?
-[Barry] The outside.
-It's such a hard... Outside?
-[Brennon chuckles]
-[Alexa] Jesus Christ.
[all laughing]
[Barry] Hey, yeah.
[laughs]
[Barry] She gonna be the best mama.
[upbeat music playing]
You're signing on for a lot, baby.
-For life.
-[Alexa] Mm-hmm.
How long have you been thinking
about taking your first lesson?
-Uh, we've been engaged for a month...
-Congratulations.
[both] Thank you.
What's your biggest vision of your dance?
How do you really want it to look?
I'm envisioning a slow dance.
If you want it to be fun,
you want it to be romantic,
but you guys still wanna move together,
I'd recommend either a foxtrot or a foxy.
One's gonna be a little slower
than the other one.
If the foxy is slower,
I think that's what I would like.
[Cole] And she's super foxy,
so this'll just be perfect for her.
[Alex] It's pretty much
gonna be her dance, right?
-Yeah. It is.
-I want it to be sweet and romantic.
And just kind of like everyone else,
like, very into it.
Like no one else is kinda there.
That's what I want.
One of those moments.
-Can do that.
-[Cole] That's what we're looking for.
Go ahead and take her hand.
I want you on the right side. Yeah.
When you walk down,
I want you just to present her.
[energetic music plays]
There you go, there we go!
-Just presenting.
-Just like that.
Now, once you get to...
Yeah, just like that.
Now, once get to the middle of the floor,
I want you to stop,
take your hand, let her go
all the way around your head.
[Zanab] Wow.
[Alex] Boom. Now you stop in place.
Boom. Let her go all the way around.
There you go!
She gets to showcase the dress.
You get to showcase your lady.
-Now take that opposite hand, right.
-That flannel though.
Take this hand, take her opposite hand,
so go ahead and switch hands. Boom.
Now you're gonna give her a little halo.
Right over her head,
give her a little turn.
We'll let go of that one,
and give her a little turn this way.
-Boom. There we go!
-Feels like we're dancing or something.
-[laughs]
-Something like that. Do it again.
All right. We're...
[Alex] Do it from here.
That way, you can go towards the audience.
And now presenting
Mr. and Mrs. Cole and Zanab Barnett!
-[Alex whooping]
-[Cole yelling]
-["The Art of Letting Go" plays]
-♪ I've been dreamin' in black and white ♪[/i]
♪ And settling for gray ♪
♪ I've been holdin' on way too tight ♪
♪ To all my yesterdays... ♪
[Cole hums romantic tune]
-[both chuckle]
-[Alex] There it is.
You're getting so close to my feet.
I feel like we need to be further apart.
-This is the real deal, baby. Ready and...
-[Zanab laughs]
-[Alex] Yes!
-Work it, shake it.
[Alex] Take her hand,
draw that little halo.
And... little halo. Ooh! Wow!
Dance position. Get into dance position.
♪ I'm gonna take my brushes
And paint the sky ♪
♪ With silver linings and amber light ♪
♪ Stream of colors ♪
♪ Gotta let them flow ♪
♪ It's just part of life ♪
♪ The art of letting go ♪
[vocalizing]
♪ The art of letting go ♪
[vocalizing]
-♪ The art of letting go ♪
-[song ends][/i]
-Did you get lipstick all over me?
-[Zanab] Nope, that was ChapStick.
Oh.
Dancing with you for, like,
our first dance practice
makes me think of not having
a father-daughter dance makes me sad.
Yeah.
-["Change in Me" playing]
-♪ Do you wonder? ♪[/i]
♪ Do you wonder? ♪
-♪ Will it all work out? ♪
-[sighs deeply][/i]
It's pretty heartbreaking.
♪ 'Cause now there's a change in me ♪
♪ I won't waste my precious time... ♪
-I'm using your lumberjack flannel for...
-Have at it.
-[Zanab] ...some snot and some tears.
-Wipe everything on it.
This is what you're signing up for.
I'm sorry.
[sniffles]
Hopefully,
I'll be able to make it special.
I'm looking at you now,
with the sun shining on your face,
and your red lips
and beautiful brown eyes and...
You're beautiful. We look great together.
I can see myself kissing you,
saying I do, being married to you,
and first dancing with you.
I am mad about you, so...
["We Are the Dreamers" playing]
Cole...
♪ Dear friend, I'm in love with you... ♪
[Zanab] I will accept that, thank you.
I think the last few days have made it
very easy for me to imagine Wedding Day.
It's like, literally, like,
I have something to celebrate now
instead of miss,
and that just makes me happy.
♪ So dear love, won't you hold me close? ♪
I'm still an easy yes?
Is this what you're telling me?
-I'm telling you the last few days have...
-Don't lie to me. Crazy.
-[Zanab] Yeah. No, seriously.
-I'm still an easy yes.
Yes, you are an easy yes.
♪ Never let you go ♪
♪ There's no space in between us ♪
♪ Take my hand and we'll leap ♪
♪ 'Cause we are the dreamers ♪
-Kinda nervous right now.
-[Colleen] I was just gonna ask.
-Are you nervous?
-[chuckles] Little bit. Little bit.
It's like a bug, you know?
Like, they're more nervous...
More scared of you than you are of them.
-Okay, perfect.
-[knock at door]
-[Matt] Someone knocking? Oh no.
-I think so.
[Matt] There's the nerves.
-[upbeat music playing]
-[Matt laughing]
-[woman] My baby. My baby.
-[Colleen squeals]
Hi!
Come on in.
-Okay, here's Matt.
-Welcome.
-[woman] Hi! How are you?
-How are you? Good.
-[woman] Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you as well, finally.
My goodness.
-How are you?
-Good, good, good.
-[Colleen] Dad, meet Matt.
-How are you, sir?
-Hi. Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you as well.
-How you guys doing?
-Welcome. [laughs]
[Colleen] I know, Mom.
So, we poured you guys drinks already
'cause I was like...
[Matt laughs]
She told me to have them prepared.
-[all laughing]
-[music fades]
Is it weird for you
to see me with somebody?
[Maureen] Yes, it is.
'Cause the last time I saw you,
there wasn't a ring on that finger.
No, there was not.
I was single as a Pringle.
-[Richard] Yeah.
-[parents laugh]
We were talking at the hotel.
Like, "We'll just treat this
like any other meet-the-boyfriend."
-We never had a meet-the-boyfriend.
-[Matt] I was about to ask how they went.
If I ever have somebody, it's like...
-They're gone within a few months.
-[Richard] Usually gone.
[parents laughing]
-Should I be running, or...
-[Maureen] No, no, no.
No, hey, if you passed the test...
[laughs]
[Maureen] What did you think
of these pods?
[Matt] Well, if you're
with somebody that you enjoy...
-And then Matt.
-Listen to her. [laughs]
With her, it was more of a feeling like,
"You know what, let's just..."
It doesn't matter what
we're talking about. We're having fun.
It was just a... We just had fun.
I think that was the main thing, right?
[Colleen] Yeah. I need somebody like you,
who's gonna, like, make me
feel comfortable, and that's what you did.
'Cause you guys know me,
like, I don't get deep.
-[Matt murmurs]
-[snickering]
-[Richard] Uh-oh.
-Like, you know? [laughs]
[Matt] They both drink.
I don't know what's going on here.
I don't get deep, or like...
Which... Which is not us.
We're very deep.
-We discuss.
-You're not.
And talk about books and movies and...
Shut up.
[parents laughing]
No, but, like, you know,
talk about your feelings.
-Like, I don't do that.
-[Matt] Listen, neither did I.
[Colleen] Whenever we would talk...
[laughs] Um...
We would, like, laugh first,
and then we would like...
It would just be like, "Oh, okay,"
and then we'd start talking about,
like, those kinds of things
-that I don't usually talk about.
-Yeah.
-Well, you keep those things private.
-Yeah.
It's not that she doesn't feel those.
It's just that she keeps
them very private.
[Matt] Absolutely.
It's not that I don't wanna talk
about that stuff, it's just,
I don't know where to start.
[Matt] I think we both
kinda were like that.
Do you think the being behind the screen
allowed you to have
deeper feelings for someone?
Not seeing the person?
Yeah, absolutely, I think.
It brought a whole 'nother sense
of feelings up.
-Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah.
-Yeah.
Like, I couldn't judge him
on what I usually judge people on.
I think if you can build a connection
and a strong connection just talking,
like, you find that person
-the most attractive person in the world.
-It shouldn't.
[Maureen] So, what did
your parents say when you said,
"I'm gonna sign up for this."
Or "I'm gonna..."
So they thought it was a scam.
They thought I was crazy. [chuckles]
They thought all of the above.
And then they watched the show,
and they were, uh...
They thought it might be
a good thing for me.
-[Maureen] Really?
-They were on board.
So what'd y'all think?
What do y'all think about the whole thing?
-You know...
-We're still in denial.
[Maureen] Well, you know,
you're very nice.
You're a very nice guy, and, you know,
I'd love to have gotten
to know you better.
Look, honestly, my entire life,
family has been my number one thing,
but especially the last two,
three years of my life.
I kinda mentioned it to you
on the FaceTime,
"If I could've done it differently,
I would've."
I would've loved to come meet you guys.
-[Richard] Absolutely.
-Yeah. No, I mean, I...
I wish I would have,
you know, gotten to know you longer,
but I'm very comfortable talking to you.
Yeah.
And I... I see that you care about Colleen.
-And that's important.
-[Richard] The most important thing.
Anywhos, do you wanna eat?
-Go ahead. Yeah.
-[Richard] Sure.
-She's hungry.
-I'm hungry.
-[Maureen] When Colleen's hungry...
-Let's throw it on the table.
If I could have done it differently,
I would've.
I would've flown out to Pennsylvania
and met her parents,
I would've kinda sat her dad down,
and talked to her dad and...
told him I'm in love with his daughter
and I wanna marry her.
So I would've done it
completely differently, yeah, but this is...
That's not the name of this game.
Right now,
first impression's all that I have.
-I'mma use the restroom real quick.
-[Colleen] Yeah.
I think he's a good match for you.
I really do.
I like that he respects you
and that he got to know you,
and I think he cares about you.
And... he's very cute.
[Colleen and Maureen laugh]
Not bad to look at.
[laughing]
Dad, what do you think?
I think the most important thing is,
is he gonna take care of you?
Yeah.
[Richard] And be good to you and respect
what you[/i] want to do.
[Maureen] Well, what are your concerns?
We have gone through our ups and downs.
-[Maureen] Sure.
-We have.
We came through several hurdles,
but, like, we've came back from that,
I think, stronger than ever.
Was it, like, the wedding planning?
Like, when you went to, like, the cake...
[Colleen] No.
No, no, no. It's just, like, me and him.
Oh.
Like, I mean,
I talk to you guys every day,
so you kinda already know
what my concerns are.
Communicating and conflict.
You keep saying, "I talk to you,"
but you don't really talk.
Like, you just...
You kinda still hold
a lot of those feelings in.
I mean, I've heard
more tonight than I have during...
-["In My Blood" playing]
-No.
Well, deep feeling.
My concerns are that I don't know
if he would still be there
if sh*t hits the fan
because I think
the pressure of marriage does get to him.
I don't fault him at all for...
for that getting to him,
but I think then it, like, kind of...
It has[/i] kinda... kinda clouded him.
If he's there for me at 100%.
[Richard] Or if they bolt after, you know...
-That's what you don't want.
-[Colleen] Yeah.
You want somebody that's...
Yeah, we're gonna not always get along.
-Yeah.
-But I know... always gonna be there.
[Colleen] Yeah.
And I respect your decisions
either way, I do.
-But this is a marriage.
-Yeah.
And to me, it's a sacrament,
and this is serious.
-[Colleen] Yeah.
-You don't enter into this lightly.
I'm the same way. Like, I wanna be sure.
But, honestly, right now,
like, we aren't for sure.
♪ I'm telling you it's in my blood ♪
♪ And I won't ever back down ♪
♪ To punch with love ♪
♪ I never stray
Yeah, it's in my blood, blood ♪
♪ I can't give up ♪
[song fades]
-[upbeat pop song plays]
-♪ And if this is all we have tonight ♪[/i]
♪ Our love will make it out alive ♪
♪ Alive, alive... ♪
What is the big date?
Well, we're gonna find out.
[Raven] I'm excited.
What?
-[SK] And we're here.
-[Raven] I see little... gondolas.
-What?
-It's gonna be...
[romantic pop music plays]
Our disagreement with the role of family
is perhaps one of the first major
conflicts Raven and I, uh,
are having in this whole process,
but being in love with Raven is, um...
is complex.
It is not a straightforward road,
uh, and that's how I like it.
The wedding is only days away,
and I'm hoping that this date
will help reset the, you know,
calm, romantic, intimate vibe
that Raven and I have been missing.
Ooh! Can I see my flowers?
Yeah, of course. Here you go.
-Aww! You picked these?
-Mm-hmm.
-Aww.
-[SK chuckles]
We're not basic. We're not simple.
Our relationship is deeper.
It's complicated.
It's very important for me
to reassure her that,
you know, we're not following
anyone's playbook,
and this is going to be
SK and Raven's world.
And I love her,
and I want her to be my wife.
This is cool.
Yeah.
Cheers.
[music fades]
To our wedding.
-[soft music playing]
-[Raven sighs]
[SK] I'm looking forward to,
like, more dates like this.
Yeah.
Even, like, when you come
visit me in school,
I'm gonna have to, like,
plan out our whole weekend.
I know. You're still gonna have to study.
Not every time. I mean... [clicks tongue]
Maybe I'll study when you fall asleep.
-True.
-Yeah.
[Raven] You know, selfishly,
I don't want you to go.
I'm like, ugh, I wish you could just
go to a program in Dallas.
But I get it.
It'll be worth it.
It will be.
I totally agree it will be worth it.
I mean, as long as,
you know, like, it's still...
What I want is still important to me too.
To me, it's not even a question.
Like, I have to adopt your dreams too,
you know, like it's our dreams.
Thank you.
Want some salad?
[SK] Yes, please.
[music fades]
[Raven] Look at that. We love a Caesar.
-[SK] Mm-hmm.
-[laughs]
You did not say "mm-hmm."
[laughs] You just don't get it.
-[SK laughs]
-"Mm-hmm."
Yeah.
Bone apple teeth.
[laughs]
Instead of "bon appétit,"
it's "bone apple teeth."
-[laughs]
-[SK chuckles]
I think one of the biggest things
I love about you is, like,
as much as you have, like, a serious side,
you also have, like, a fun, goofy side.
-Yeah?
-[chuckles]
No, I'm the square.
You're, like, not the square.
You have, like, both.
And, I mean, I also kind of have both.
You know, business in the front,
party in the back kinda thing.
[both laugh]
-So yeah, I like that a lot.
-Yeah, balance.
Thank you, baby.
[soft guitar music plays]
I like a lot of things about you.
I love a lot of things about you.
-Yeah. Like what?
-I love your ambition.
Your thoughtfulness.
And the way that you, like,
thoughtfully articulate yourself
is amazing to me because I feel like
I don't have that quality
-as much as you do. You know?
-[SK chuckles] Mm-hmm.
And, like, you're very patient.
I love that.
-I'm not patient at all.
-[laughs]
I... I know.
[both laugh]
Thank you.
[laughs]
And I think that's really what it's about,
is having a partner that, like...
-Balances your... Balances you out.
-[Raven] Mm-hmm.
Balances you out and makes you better.
You know?
[music fades]
[SK] Have you ever caught yourself, like,
just sitting there and just envisioning
what our future together will be like?
[Raven] Uh, yeah.
You... I remember you once told me, um...
"I have a good imagination,"
or something like that.
Yeah, yeah. Hey, what do you imagine
in five years from now?
[SK] Five years from now,
I see kids in the picture.
[Raven] Same.
You know, like, I've always dreamed of,
you know, a happy family, um...
You know, protect my family
and provide for my family
and make sure, like, you know,
to me, family's like... It's like home.
Uh, you know, family.
A really good place with our careers.
Um, I see a lot of money. [chuckles]
A lot of money? [laughs]
-I love that for us. [laughs]
-I see a lot of money.
And I just see like, you know, like,
a happy, healthy relationship, you know?
I can't wait
to make more memories with you.
Uh, it's one of the biggest things
I'm looking forward to.
I really can't wait
till I show you the world.
-You know, like, just take you everywhere.
-Aww!
[gentle guitar music resumes]
Thank you.
I feel like, I don't know,
in my life before...
[SK] Mm-hmm.
I was just always...
just attracting people
that I wasn't emotionally compatible with.
Like, I feel like I've never
reached this level with anyone.
[SK] Mm-hmm.
And that's why my... To me,
there's no doubt you're the one, like...
I think my relationship with SK
has grown a lot.
There are things
that we kind of have to overcome
because he's gonna be gone for two years.
Because we do have some different ideas
because we're literally
from two different continents.
Um, but, no, there's no doubt in my mind
that I love SK.
We have, like, a really great bond
and really great connection.
He just makes me, like...
happy...
and comfy.
It's like a good feeling
when I look at SK.
I feel great about this.
Uh, not about leaving, but about, like,
you know, the future and,
you know, I've never really had
any reason to, like, not...
not believe in us, you know?
Um...
I feel like if I had
to do this, um, again,
I would still be, like...
You know? Like, she believed in me.
-Really?
-Yeah.
I feel the same way.
[SK] I always talk about, like,
the fact that
you were able to get
to this very guarded space with me
that, you know, not a lot of people
have been able to get to.
To me, that was, like,
all the proof I needed, you know?
-[SK chuckles]
-That I'm the one?
Yeah. Yeah.
-[Raven, softly] Yay.
-[SK chuckles]
[Raven] I love that.
♪ Let's ride away ♪
♪ Let's ride away now ♪
♪ Let's ride away ♪
[Raven laughs]
♪ Let's ride away... ♪
[laughs] It's bad.
I love that. Thank you.
[kissing continues]
-♪ Let's ride away ♪
-[Raven laughs][/i]
♪ Let's ride away now ♪
♪ Let's ride away ♪
[Matt laughing]
Oh my goodness.
-[Colleen gasps] Stingrays!
-Have you ever swam with stingrays before?
-No. [giggles] No.
-No? You haven't?
-Oh my goodness. You're missing out.
-[gasps] Oh my God.
[Matt] I feel like a child again.
How cool is this?
[both laughing]
♪ Let's ride away, let's ride away ♪
-[song ends][/i]
-I think we're here.
-[gasps] Oh, shut up.
-Stop.
-I think we're here. We made it.
[Colleen laughs] Stop!
[romantic music playing]
[Colleen] No, this is so cute!
No, you're so cute!
-You hungry? I knew you were.
-I'm starving.
[gasps]
[Colleen] You got me flowers, babe.
[Matt] Of course.
You like 'em?
I didn't know
what your favorite flower was though.
-I don't have one. No.
-You don't have one, right?
[Colleen] How cute!
You know, you've been putting
a lot of effort, you know,
for our few little...
[music fades]
I don't wanna say fights.
I'd say a little bit of stir-ups
that we've had. Um...
So I kinda wanted
to put a little effort in. Uh...
Aww!
Show you that it is kind of
being reciprocated, you know?
Just... Just that I am here for you,
and I don't want me to be the only one
-that's felt the effort and the energy.
-No! Yeah.
I want you to feel it too, you know?
So it's... it's gotta be both ways.
Yeah. Well, I feel like in Malibu,
it was like...
Like, I was like, "Oh, he's all there,"
and then I think a lot of, like...
I think the real world just, like, hit...
-Yeah.
-And kind of took you back a little bit.
-But you still felt the same way.
-[Matt] Yeah.
You just, like, weren't
able to express it.
But tonight, I'm just like,
"Okay, he's still there."
And I don't want you
to wonder where I'm at.
I want you to know where I'm at, you know?
I want you to know
that I'm on the same level as you.
-Well, thank you.
-[Matt] So we're here.
Let's talk about the now, then.
Let's talk about...
We got a big decision coming up.
[Colleen] Mm-hmm.
Could you see
the rest of your life with me?
Legit, seriously?
-Seriously.
-Okay.
None of this other stuff around,
like, for real.
Could you see
the rest of your life with me?
[music fades]
I just, like... I don't know
if sh*t hits the fan if,
like, you'll still be there.
[tense music plays]
-[Colleen] I just don't know.
-Yeah.
It's a...
Listen, it's a valid point, you know?
It's...
Hm.
Maybe it's me not being able to express
my feelings as much as you have to me.
-Yeah.
-Maybe that's what it is.
I might not be that good
at expressing my emotion.
-Yeah.
-'Cause I've been shut down for so long.
I was an open book,
and then I got completely cut off
and burnt up.
-[Colleen] Yeah.
-You know?
And so it's hard for me to...
It's hard for me to do that again.
So if you're not feeling that same way,
maybe it's... maybe it's because I'm...
It's tough for me to do. I don't know.
'Cause if you feel like
I'm not there for you right now,
then tell me.
[music intensifies, fades]
[Colleen] I'm, like, going through a lot.
I'm just, like...
You know, internally, like,
just, like, kinda like,
circling around, constantly, like,
questioning myself, questioning us.
If we don't know,
we're not taking a leap of faith.
You have to know to get married. Okay?
[somber music plays]
Do you believe
love is enough for marriage?
If I love you,
then shouldn't it be enough?
You know? You know, I honestly...
Like, I am, like, no bullshit,
like, I am torn with that question.
Like, why shouldn't...
Shouldn't it? Shouldn't it be?
I could wake up tomorrow and be like,
"Well, f*ck no. It should be."
I'm, like, so there,
but I'm so not at the same time.
Every day it's different.
I just don't know.
But I do know how much I love you.
-I just... I just...
-Colleen.
Stop playing games.
-No, I'm not playing games. I just...
-[Matt] Tell me how you feel. Say it.
Say it.
No, I just...
Say it. Say it. Say it. Say it.
-No, no, no. I just, um...
-Say it.
Say it.
Right now...
no.
-["Might Be Toxic" plays]
-♪ This might be toxic ♪[/i]
♪ I just wanna feel
What they all talk about ♪
♪ Toxic ♪
[song ends]
[Cole] You wanna get some food?
-[Zanab] Yeah.
-[Cole] Come.
[Zanab] Thanks.
-Oh my gosh.
-[Cole] Is that yours?
I'm gonna...
You need to bless our food, babe.
-[Cole] You're right.
-What are you doing?
God, thank you so much for my fiancée
and a wedding right around the corner.
I thank you for your creation
and how beautiful this lake
and this boat and this moment is.
I thank you for my beautiful fiancée,
and I just pray that, um, you be with us
and give us peace and hope
every day until, um,
the day of our wedding.
I pray it all in Jesus' name. Amen.
-[Zanab] Amen. Good job, babe.
-Amen.
[Zanab] Love you.
-You're so... You're so red.
-[Cole] So red?
[laughing] Yeah, I just...
I can't leave you like that. There you go.
[chill music plays]
I'm, like, really loving
this moment with you right now.
-[Zanab] You are?
-I think it's the lipstick.
[Cole] Why do you look so good tonight?
-Wow.
-[Cole chuckles]
Okay.
It's your lipstick choices, babe.
This is the problem.
-Wow.
-[Zanab laughs]
[chuckles]
[music fades]
-Zay.
-Yeah?
-I love you.
-Oh!
I love you.
Oh!
-Kiss me. Give me that lipstick.
-[both chuckle]
You're gonna get it all over your mouth.
You ex*cuted...
-That's what these napkins are for.
-But you're moving it around my mouth.
Wow, that is just absurd.
[Cole grunts]
[Cole chewing] Mm.
-I... I knew there was potential in here.
-[emotional music plays]
I mean, obviously,
you're a good man anyway,
but potential for, like...
[sighs] ...husband material.
And I've just seen
a lot more of it lately.
[deep sigh]
So stressful.
You do stress me out quite a bit,
but I love you enough to deal with it.
-Are you stressed to call me your husband?
-No.
And I think that each day
I feel like I love you a little bit more,
and each day, I'm like,
"Oh, he's easier to live with."
[chuckling] Each day I'm like... I'm like...
You, like, slowly slide into, like,
husband instead of, like, fiancé.
And I feel like
I understand you better each day,
and that enables me to be, like,
a better fiancée to you.
I believe that because it seems like
each day, we are meshing better together
and we're fighting less
and we're understanding each other more.
I really haven't ever been
with someone who,
like, cares,
and is as intentional as you are with me.
I'm telling you now I'd re-propose to you.
-Right now, knowing what I know now.
-You would re-propose?
I would re-propose to you.
Knowing... Even though I nag?
[Cole sighs] A little, but it's playful.
-♪ Just don't keep me here waiting ♪
-Mm.[/i]
♪ For too long ♪
♪ 'Cause I will keep... ♪
-[whispers] I love you.
-[Zanab] I love you.
♪ For too long ♪
[romantic instrumental plays]
[Brennon] Look at that sign, babe.
-[Alexa] Oh!
-[Brennon laughs]
[music fades]
[Alexa] Oh, babe, it's our last big date
before we get hitched.
-Are you excited?
-[Brennon chuckles]
I'm so excited, babe.
-I love you.
-[emotional music plays]
I love you, baby.
Wake up next to this every day? You sure?
-Hell yeah.
-You sure?
-[Brennon] Yes.
-Yeah?
Very certain. 100% certain.
Crazy amount of certain.
[Alexa chuckles]
-I'm really excited. I'm...
-What are you most excited about?
Marrying you. I'm excited to, like,
profess my love to the world for you.
[chuckles]
-Love you.
-I love you, baby.
-I'm really excited.
-Very excited.
["Heart Beats" playing]
[Alexa] Oh, babe.
[laughs]
[Brennon, in movie]
I just wanna, like, say this.[/i]
I'm completely in love with you.
I love you too.
Oh my God, it's real.
I wanna spend every day of my life
trying to make you happy in any way I can.
Will you marry me? [chuckles]
Yes.
-[Brennon] I was so nervous.
-♪ Is this the way... ♪[/i]
What the f*ck?
Oh my God.
Oh my God. Like, wow.
♪ 'Cause I want love... ♪
[Brennon] I was excited for that.
[Alexa] I was sweating
like a m*therf*cker.
[both laughing]
Life is just better with Alexa around.
Just... food tastes better.
Sky's bluer sometimes. Grass is greener.
-[laughing]
-[Alexa] Aww.
[Brennon, in movie] If for any reason,[/i]
she does say no at the altar,
I'll definitely be very sad.
Like, I want her to be happy
in whatever she chooses.
I just... Obviously, I hope that's me.
♪ Is this the way? ♪
-♪ Your heart beats ♪
-[Alexa] Aww.[/i]
-That was quite a love story.
-[/i][music fades]
-[Alexa coughs]
-How do you think it ends?
-Have you seen the movie Runaway Bride[/i]?
-A gruesome m*rder in six months.
What?
[both laughing]
Yeah.
[both laughing]
[Alexa] Watch that happen.
-Plot twist. Um...
-Yeah.
[chuckles]
I don't know how, like,
my mindset's gonna be the day of.
I'm gonna be excited,
but I don't know if I'm gonna be
in kind of, like, a state of,
like, shock, you know?
-Okay.
-Where it's like...
-As in yes or no, you could go either way.
-No...
Prepare two speeches,
and then just pick the day of.
-[laughs]
-I get nervous that it's like...
"She's 100% faking it."
'Cause I never thought anyone
was gonna get my sense of humor.
I never thought I was gonna
be able to relate with somebody
as far as just being able to talk.
-[Alexa] Mm-hmm.
-Like, scale of one to ten,
there is a little bit of leeway.
You're like an 80 marrying me, right?
Like, still saying yes?
Like, 80ish?
I think it's, like, 64.
Yeah? No way.
-Wait, we're on the plus side?
-[Alexa laughs]
-I'm just kidding.
-[Alexa] Um...
If I had been told, like, before this
that I would be getting engaged
after nine, ten days,
I really think that I, like,
would've been like, no.
It's, like, not real, you know?
Like, there's no way.
I never thought that I would,
like, be legitimately in love.
Like, it's kind of funny.
Like, obviously amazing,
but it's just like...
If I think about it,
I'm like, "What the f*ck?"
Exactly. You know? [chuckles]
-[Alexa laughs]
-[Brennon] Love you.
[romantic pop song plays]
-What're you doing? [laughs]
-Just giving you a kiss.
♪ Your arms around me ♪
♪ Quiet and still ♪
♪ Where would I ever be? ♪
♪ Quiet and still ♪
♪ Where would I ever be? ♪
[music fades]
[Nancy] Baby, I've never ate a rib before.
I'm gonna watch you eat the ribs first.
-I'll show you what we do.
-Baby...
-Grab this guy...
-It's the bones for me.
You can take it off the bone. Look.
It should be soft enough.
Oh, that's a bite right there.
I'm gonna say this in the order
I don't normally say it. Swallow.
-Open your mouth. There you go. Come on.
-[Nancy laughs]
-It's good.
-[Nancy] Mm-hmm.
That's a rib. First rib.
Coming into this experiment,
I learned relationships are hard.
They're never gonna be perfect,
no matter how much you want them to be.
You're gonna have to work through them.
And you have to literally give it your all
every freaking day
if you want marriage to work.
I love Nancy. Loved Nancy
since the beginning of this process.
I'm very happy
with our relationship right now,
and I continue to love her.
I want to continue to give her my all,
and I see her as being, yes,
the person for me forever.
How she pulls all my emotions out of me
and makes me feel comfortable
sharing literally everything with her
makes her both my best friend
and a great potential wife.
I don't wanna change any part
of our story we've been through.
Yeah.
And that was the power of literally
you just making me realize
that you felt like
the guy you were in love with
isn't in love with you anymore.
And you told me that.
That scared me. I was like, "Holy sh*t."
I had to step back and be like,
"What the hell should I do?"
"How do I show her? I can tell her all day
and all night that I love her, right?"
"But what do I do to show her?"
Because talking that big talk,
my dad's great at that.
And my mom would always say,
"Oh, he's... He has great intentions."
-I know I have great intentions.
-And the potential.
-Yeah.
-[Bartise] Right. And then, where can I...
show you that those intentions
are coming to fruition?
Those intentions to make you feel
like the most special girl in the world.
How do I actually do it?
Of course I want that for you,
but how can I be the best
at showing that to you?
You've given me the opportunity.
I just had to capitalize on it.
I'm glad that you had the tough
conversation that needed to be had
because it's not our first one.
It's not our last one.
We're gonna have plenty more,
so we know how to handle them now.
Yeah.
So from that, we've both grown.
I'm not the only one who's grown.
-You've also grown.
-Absolutely. [laughs]
We've grown together.
That's the beauty of this.
And I think that's the one thing that,
I've said this before...
I'm just glad
that I picked the perfect guy,
and every day, like, you show me
more and more, like, why I chose you.
[Bartise] Mm-hmm.
I'm happy that you see that.
It's cool to get back to the, like,
fairy tale, like, butterflies, like...
[Nancy] Yeah.
You aren't just some guy
that I fell in love with.
Like, you are
the guy[/i]
that I wanna spend
the rest of my life with.
-[soft pop song plays]
-♪ I know there is nothing ♪[/i]
♪ To keep me from loving you... ♪
-[laughs]
-[Bartise] Baby, I love you.
You know that?
That was big.
That was big to hear.
-Yeah.
-[Bartise] I'm glad that you see a new me.
And that's gonna be the husband you get.
That's a promise, baby.
-[Nancy squeals, laughs]
-Oh wow!
Look at me,
f*cking smiling so much right now.
[both laughing]
Look at me.
This is the main course.
[both laugh]
♪ In a one in a million love ♪
♪ This one in a million love ♪
[song ends]
-["I Got It" plays]
-[car horns honking]
♪ I got the feeling ♪
♪ I got the feeling of love ♪
[Cole] Good enough.
♪ Up on the feeling ♪
♪ Up on the feeling of love ♪
[Cole] Oh boy.
-[Cole hums]
-♪ Shake it, shake it and move ♪[/i]
♪ Shake it, shake it and move ♪[/i]
♪ Shake it, shake it and move ♪[/i]
[Cole] Badoosh!
-Make me proud.
-[pan clatters]
Oh, that's hot.
-♪ Hot, hot, hot, hot ♪
-[door shuts][/i]
-Hey.
-Hello.
Oh! Is someone making food?
Yes. You must immediately
cut this sweet potato fry.
Hi.
So I'm making chicken, broccoli,
sweet potato fries, and Brussels sprouts.
You want some wine?
-Um...
-[tap running]
What kind of question is that?
Of course I want some wine.
-Yes, ma'am.
-Where is our soap?
I'm excited you're finally cooking for me.
-You said you were going to for so long.
-[Cole scoffs]
[Cole] It's the effort that counts.
[Zanab] Okay. Sounds good.
Can I have a stemmed glass?
-Yeah.
-Please?
Thank you.
[Cole chuckles]
[chill music plays]
So, fun fact.
You put white wine in a stemmed glass
because a hand around this warms it up.
So you drink white in a stem
so you don't touch it.
I'm a sophisticated man
after all these lessons on wine.
What can I say?
[Zanab] You started the chicken early.
Aren't the potato fries gonna take ages?
Yeah, we'll eat them after everything.
That's how I always do it.
-What are you doing to this chicken?
-How do you flip three at the same time?
Oh, I did it! Perfectly flipped.
-Why don't you use tongs or something?
-That was miraculous.
Because that was more cool.
You, like, literally flipped it.
Do you have it...
[Cole] You looking for this?
Yeah. Why aren't you holding it
where the raw bit is?
You've been hired.
This was meant to be
you cooking for me, babe.
-What do you charge per hour?
-[tense music plays]
This is a very white,
not seasoned piece of chicken.
Please season it.
All right, all right.
Let me help you out there. Ooh.
-We don't need any more on this side.
-No?
[Zanab] This needs three minutes.
Oh, that's hot.
It's steaming. Please don't burn
the top of your mouth. What are these?
-Oh, you found my... Check this out.
-[music fades]
-[with mouth full] I forgot to tell you.
-[toy g*n fires]
Oh my gosh! With cooking chicken!
What is wrong with you? Thank you.
[Cole] Are you mad?
[Zanab] I'm not mad.
[tense music resumes]
[sighs] Okay.
-[Cole] You don't know how to have fun.
-Want some garlic salt?
-I want you to be... less bratty.
-You stress me.
-[Zanab inhales sharply]
-Miss.
I think you should pick your...
your words very carefully.
[laughs]
-Wedding Day will be here really soon.
-[Cole] Are you wearing a black dress?
[Zanab] Yeah. I'm mourning my singledom.
You would think there'd be
a lot of excitement and energy
going into your wedding day.
It just seems like I'm getting
two different versions of Zanab.
There'll be one day where I wake up,
and she's madly in love with me.
There'll be another morning
where she has all these issues,
and I'm just confused
because it's hard
to get a read on where she's really at.
I don't wanna force something into place.
[music fades]
Thanks for cooking, babe.
I should tell you
I don't like Brussels sprouts,
so I'll have, like, a couple.
Let me know if you like these.
-Let you know?
-[Cole] Mm-hmm.
They're good.
They're just not my go-to veggie.
I think they're gonna grow on you.
[Zanab slicing food]
[Zanab] What's up?
What am I missing?
You have me very confused.
Where are you at? Are you...
Are you actually gonna marry me?
If I could make a decision off of the pods
and off of the last two weeks,
I'm 1,000% in, even with you
spilling chicken and Nerf-gunning.
-You're 1,000% in?
-Like, that kind of stuff...
Oh yeah. Off of the pods
and off of the last two weeks,
Cole, yes. Yes, I am.
The Nerf-gunning
was that bad of a negative?
[sighs] Oh. Cole.
[tense music resumes]
I have moments, Cole, where I'm, like,
so sure that I totally am.
But I, honest to God,
don't think I will know
until I'm walking down that aisle to you.
Um...
That's not what a girl
who wants to marry me
or is about to marry me is gonna say.
If it comes to a moment
where I know I'm not gonna marry you,
-I will let you know.
-Okay, it's...
See, I'm past that now.
What I'm to now is,
are you marrying me or not?
I would love to marry you.
We have, like, insane chemistry.
We laugh together.
Like, life's not boring. We pray together.
Great.
Sign me up. A hundred percent.
-[tense music swells, fades]
-[Zanab] This experiment led me to you.
I fell in love with someone
despite the little weird things you do
about your lifestyle,
and it still doesn't change the fact...
-What weird things I do?
-It doesn't make me not love you.
It does aggravate me.
What are the weird things that I do?
-Throw towels on the floor.
-You throw towels in the bathtub.
Yeah. Because I pick 'em up off the floor,
and at least they're in the bathtub.
-Oh, that's so much better?
-[Zanab sniffles]
Uh, you leave dishes out.
-You let the trash become overflowing.
-You leave hair in the toilet.
Yes, that's where my hair goes.
-The next person that pees can flush it.
-Okay.
And I'm doing all... And I'm like... [scoffs]
I'm doing this with you
because I want[/i] to do it with you.
-Wait, what's that?
-Just the...
The living situation. It was the kitchen.
-But like...
-Is this too messy?
No, it's fine. Mess can be cleaned up.
So, tell me you still wanna go through
with this marriage.
I do want to go through with it.
You wanna go... You wanna marry me?
I would love this to end
with me marrying you.
I can't even spill chicken without you
thinking I'm immature or something.
We can't get past 20 minutes together
-without some type of a trip wire.
-Okay, this sounds like
you don't want to marry me,
so you should not be asking me this.
-You should be asking yourself.
-No, I'm telling you.
There's been moments leading up to this
where I thought we were great,
and as I'm piecing the puzzle together,
I don't feel good
about this in this moment.
[dramatic music plays]
I don't know what to tell you.
You're gonna spill chicken.
Chicken isn't a deal-breaker for me.
I see you picking things up,
and I see you making the bed,
and I try to always be like,
"Oh, you took the trash out.
Oh, you made the bed. I love it."
It's the way that we relate.
I want a wife who laughs with me
and builds me up...
[Zanab] I do[/i] laugh with you
and I do[/i] build you up.
...and isn't perturbed by every little thing
that happens that isn't ideal.
That's so not fair. It is so not...
That's so not fair.
I would expect my wife to just, like,
like[/i] me a little bit more, I guess.
How can you think I don't like you?
-How can you think that?
-There's just moments.
What do you need from me
to show you that I like you?
To not feel like I'm inferior.
I have never thought that of you, ever.
[music fades]
Okay.
[tense music plays]
What have I done
to make you feel inferior?
Just the things in the kitchen
where you're kinda like...
We have different cooking techniques.
That stuff on time...
-[Cole] Putting me down.
-How did I put you down?
Every day!
There's just things that you say.
Like, I want someone sweet.
I want... [chuckles] I want Sweet Zay.
I am extremely sweet,
but pick and choose your battles.
No, I'm not always gonna have
a great attitude. I won't.
-That what you want?
-No, Zay.
I wanna just not get punched
in the face when I first see you after...
-That's...
-Did not do that.
Mmm. Sure felt like it.
Here we are, having a wedding,
and we're still kind of like... [scoffs]
Just not even, like,
assuming the right things, you know?
And you're telling me you want me
to say yes to you on Wedding Day,
but how does any of that today
make you think
I'm gonna say yes on Wedding Day?
[Zanab] What... Okay.
-[sighs]
-[music fades]
I don't know
what you want me to say because
this is really our last night together.
I don't think the problems we have
are enough to say, "I don't."
Marriage is hard work,
and I think it's gonna be
hard work with anyone.
You just have to pick the person
that you're happy to do hard work with.
And if that is not me for you, then
that is what you need to figure out,
and let me know.
Because I know I can do
hard stuff with you.
[Cole] Thank you for telling me
how you really feel.
I didn't know
that you still wanted to marry me.
[chuckles] If I didn't want to marry you,
my stuff would already
be out of that closet,
and I would've been long gone.
I want this more
than anyone in this experience.
My proposal means a lot to me.
I know that you love me.
I want to say "I do" to you.
Just be sweet. Just be unassuming.
Be unassuming?
Have you met women anywhere?
[tense music resumes]
I'm not gonna sit here and convince you.
I am a great, great girl.
Your family would be crazy not to love me.
I am a catch of the century. I am.
Except for when you have a bad attitude.
Are you bipolar?
[music halts]
-We're having a serious conversation...
-What did I ask you just now?
I asked you a question.
You asked if I was bipolar.
Oh, are you bipolar?
["Destroy Me" plays]
Are you projecting?
♪ Hands around my throat
So you can take my breath... ♪
You are obviously entitled to
and allowed to think whatever you want.
I've given you no reason to think that.
-You're not[/i] bipolar?
-[Zanab] No.
If you want,
there are plenty of women that
fit the bill for what you are looking for,
that will be sweet to you
every day of your life.
You can go find one tonight.
You can find one tomorrow
at your bachelor party.
If that is what you want, go find it.
Leave me alone
for whatever you are doing with me
because I don't wanna be here anymore.,
♪ So burn like a wildfire ♪
♪ Flow like the river wild ♪
♪ Oh, oh ♪
♪ Reach in my heart tonight ♪
♪ Don't love me ♪
-[door shuts]
-♪ Destroy me ♪[/i]
♪ Burn like a wildfire ♪
♪ Flow like the river wild ♪
♪ Oh, oh ♪
♪ Reach in my heart tonight ♪
♪ Don't love me ♪
♪ Destroy me ♪
[vocalizing]
♪ Don't love me ♪
♪ Destroy me ♪
[vocalizing]
♪ Destroy me ♪
03x10 - Approaching the Altar
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Series follows fifteen men and fifteen women, all from the same metropolitan area, hoping to find love.
Series follows fifteen men and fifteen women, all from the same metropolitan area, hoping to find love.